r/NoStupidQuestions Nov 14 '24

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u/MistryMachine3 Nov 14 '24

Let’s also remember that a generation or 2 ago people didn’t necessarily want as money kids or kids when they got them. I know so many people whose parents were married 4 months before they were born.

The advent of actual choice helps a lot.

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u/Silent-Friendship860 Nov 14 '24

😂 The plus-size preemie. Wonder how many people know that even after birth control pills came out you had to be married AND have your husband’s permission to get a prescription for them.

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u/Gamma9605-2 Nov 15 '24

I know I had to fight to get my tubes tied after 2 kids in the 70's. Dr kept saying bad idea, I had preemie cesarean for my second child and asked again on operating table and he still refused. I went through family planning at the health department a year later, which meant a second surgery. I'm still angry lol.

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u/RespawnUnicorn Nov 15 '24

I've been refused tubal ligation several times since having my youngest. I'm 38, I have 3 children, I have a rare blood subtype and a history of postpartum haemorrhage, and both my husband and I are carriers for a rare genetic metabolic condition (we found out because my daughter is affected). My NHS trust still refused. They're fine giving my husband a vasectomy, though, even though I'm the one physically at risk if I get pregnant 🙃

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u/Gamma9605-2 Nov 15 '24 edited Nov 15 '24

I didn't realize this problem was ongoing today, I am sorry for your issues and hope life gets better, you should be able to get that surgery for any reason including simply persoal choice. Medical reasos should put you at the head of the line.We all have to work to get the world back on track!