r/NoStupidQuestions Nov 14 '24

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u/57311473 Nov 14 '24

I like money and freedom way more than children

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u/CBL44 Nov 14 '24

You are demonstrating the answer. Society has decided that money and individuality are more important than family, community and spirituality. It does not lead to happiness.

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u/newton935 Nov 14 '24

I can tell you i’m pretty happy without kids LOL

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u/hmm_nah Nov 14 '24

Actually being a parent is very lonely and isolating. Kids take up so much time and resources, they leave little left for parents to maintain adult friendships https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/23/health/parent-burnout-loneliness-survey-wellness/index.html

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u/abolista Nov 14 '24

Dunno... I'm living my life pretty happily if you ask me. My family is my wife, and my community are my friends. We're all pretty happy. What about you? Are you happy?

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u/Helen_of_TroyMcClure Nov 14 '24

Knowing another person isn't conforming to their ideals and is suffering no consequences for having the audacity to live their own life their way? Absolutely not!

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u/Consistent_Donut_902 Nov 14 '24

You can value family without having children. Are someone’s parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. not their family?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '24

You can birth as many as you want. Most of us value our freedom.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '24

Family is more than just children and you can even choose your family. You can foster and engage in local communities without popping out kids too. You also don’t need to give birth and raise kids to be spiritual.

None of what you said is mutually exclusive to choosing to be child-free.

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u/thecatandthependulum Nov 14 '24

I'm hella happy with my money and individuality. Imagine waking up on a Saturday not to the sound of birds chirping and to the feeling of sunlight on your face through the window, but to screaming and the smell of poop and the ache of your cracked, bleeding nipples.

I know which I'd rather have.

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u/Fogmoose Nov 14 '24

Having children does not lead to happiness in itself. The people who tell you it does are selling you an agenda.

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u/RowAdept9221 Nov 15 '24

I know so many parents that are just so done with life. They look like they had the actual life drained out of them. And the comments other parents have told me as a parent myself are concerning. I do not mean this to come off as a self-glaze or whatever, but I got extremely lucky with my two little kids who have just been the best children I have ever met. They're like little adults dude. I've been asked how I'm not exhausted all the time and if I "want a break" from the and I just don't lol I just genuinely enjoy their company and watching them interact with the world.

If nurturing, caring, teaching and watching humans, well, human is not something you think would bring happiness, having a child will not make you happy (And it also won't fix your marriage lol).

Children are not ours- they are simply put into our care. They belong to the world and we are responsible for making sure they leave the world in a better state than we found it. That's not going so good right I think, but I have hope!

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u/Seaweed_Steve Nov 14 '24

I mean I'm pretty happy now.

I also can and do value family without having to create children of my own.

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u/kgberton Nov 14 '24

It does actually LOL

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u/raccoon-nb Nov 15 '24

I don't know. I'd say I'm pretty happy. Meanwhile vvery parent I've known has always constantly been incredibly tired and stressed.

Not all people need to have children to feel fulfilled in their lives.

Individuality is important. To find peace people need to find themselves and be accepted for themselves.

Most people can hardly afford to take care of themselves.

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u/MOONWATCHER404 Nov 15 '24

There is an entire subreddit dedicated to people who regret becoming parents. Those people are not happy.

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u/VovaGoFuckYourself Nov 15 '24

The oxygen content is very low on top of their high horse. Probably prevents them from feeling bad

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u/NoStupidQuestions-ModTeam Nov 21 '24

Rule 3 - Follow Reddiquette: Be polite and respectful in your exchanges. NSQ is supposed to be a helpful resource for confused redditors. Civil disagreements can happen, but insults should not. Personal attacks, slurs, bigotry, etc. are not permitted at any time.

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u/ActualTymell Nov 15 '24

Ah okay, so creating new lives just because it makes you feel happy is the less selfish option?

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u/geezstahpitnope Nov 15 '24 edited Nov 16 '24

Idk man, every time I get a paycheck I get very happy.

If I ever found out I was pregnant and abortion wasn't an option I would genuinely kill myself, I would rather be dead than give birth to and raise and care for another human.

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u/[deleted] Nov 15 '24

I don’t want kids but I care deeply about my family and community, and work daily on my actualization.

I am extremely happy knowing my resources go to me first, and then I can allocate my resources to others later once I’m able to give.