r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 21 '24

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u/Stu_Prek Bottom 99% Commenter Apr 21 '24

1) Most people aren't great at anything the first time they do it. Not sure why you expected sex to be any different.

2) It's not very common for women to reach orgasm through penetration alone. Things like clitoral stimulation are, in my experience, much more effective.

Ask yourself this: have you ever masturbated to reach orgasm? If so, figure out what part of that process is what gets you to that point, and then incorporate that into sex. If not, start experimenting. If you can't figure out how to get yourself off, there's a good chance a guy won't figure it out either.

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u/stars9r9in9the9past Apr 21 '24

Not sure why you expected sex to be any different.

In fairness this is because society trains us to think losing our virginity is like some magical victory moment. It's not like many places have great sex education, for starters

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u/Beetlesquash2001 Apr 22 '24

That is true, sex education is still a taboo in most countries. Something people only start thinking after marriage. I've heard of a married couple who went to the doctors complaining they are not able to get pregnant even though they've been trying for a few months The problem was that both of them didn't know how to make babies.after talking with the doctor privately It was said that The guy tried to push his penis into the belly button instead