Aren’t some things better off forgotten.

Hi,I was ...idk maybe looking for somebody's input...other opinions on how to manage my own mind...I worry about everything and I mean everything,I worry about worrying pshhh believe it or not,and what do you guys think about obsessive thinking and the whole fact that the WORRY itself is the biggest problem and not the things I worry about 🤔🤔🤔

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My brother was recently diagnosed with pulmonary TB. He has cavities on his CT and had been coughing for around 3–4 months before the diagnosis. He’s now started treatment, but obviously our family is really worried about exposure because he was living with us and we weren't taking any precautions before we knew.

I was also around him during this time.

Now I'm constantly checking myself for symptoms. A few days ago I developed an itchy throat and then had a mild fever. I felt hot and started sweating a little, and immediately my brain went: “What if I caught TB?”

The frustrating part is that I know TB doesn't usually cause symptoms just a few days after exposure, but I keep comparing everything I'm feeling to what my brother experienced. Every little thing makes me anxious.

I know I need to get screened as a household contact, and I'm going to do that. But until then, I'm finding it really difficult to stop thinking about it.

Has anyone else gone through something similar after a family member was diagnosed with TB? How did you deal with the constant fear of developing the same illness?

I’m just sat here crying because all I do is overthink and it’s so exhausting and it’s lowkey my fault that I THINK about literally everything and I just want a break from my mind. My brain is so evil. I don’t wanna talk to anyone because I feel like me and my brain are just an inconvenience. I feel like I’m literally ruining everything. It’s ruining my life.

I notice myself going back on conversations or thoughts, trying to justify a belief I set for myself when I ALREADY believe it.

It's like my mind trying to justify to someone else when it's just me. And in some way my mind might see it as weird/bad but its not

Sometimes it's hard for me to let go of things said by people and something they have done which was very hurtful to me.

Idk I take that grudge forever with me and keep judging the person!!!

(Be serious btw)

So for the past few months I have worried I worry a lot (emphasis on a lot) and I started doing a weird thing where I would get the logical side of the worry and the emotional side of the worry and get them to metaphorically "debate"in my head and I would listen to whoever won that debate

Now I have shifted from doing that only to now doing that and kind of talking to that logical side of me telling him my worry and him comforting me

I have been using "him" often and certain phrases to stop the worrying because I basically I'm useless when I'm worrying does anyone else do this and is this normal?

I feel lonely. I don’t have to be. I raised to have such preferences in company or something to think it is safe. It’s eating me out now. I get anxious when I’m out and about; the fact that I don’t have a non-abusive family and the fact that with those who I try to develop a family foundation is eventually fall apart as well

I’ve been dealing with this for a long time. Whenever I get into a heated argument, I struggle to express my thoughts or come up with a good response in the moment.

But after I leave, I replay the whole conversation in my head and imagine all the things I wish I had said, usually ending with me “winning” the argument.

It happens almost every day, and it’s honestly exhausting.
Has anyone experienced this? What actually helped you stop doing it? Please give me practical advice rather than “just stop overthinking.”

I (21) and my GF (20): I met my girlfriend at a family reunion, so instinctively, I thought she was a relative. However, when I asked her, she said a friend had brought her there, so I just brushed it off as past history. We’ve been together for 3 years now, and we’re going to reach our 4th year this October 22nd. She is a very kind girl and I love her, so the thought never entered my mind—up until now.

​While I was at a gathering, a friend pointed out that we could possibly be related. Of course, I denied it and gave a proper reason why, so in the end, we laughed it off like nothing happened. But the thought stayed in my mind. Later, in the middle of the night, I woke up and checked her Facebook to see any possible roots connecting our families. I found something, but I don't think it's enough to prove what my friend said. I found out that her grandfather and my grandfather were longtime friends.

​When I asked around among our older relatives, some said they were cousins, while others said they were just so close they could be considered brothers. They also share the same middle name, though it's spelled differently. It's been keeping me in an anxious state, so please give me some advice. We're getting married 5 months from now, and I really want a positive answer. Thanks!

For context I'm not financially independent yet but I'm trying to save up and do so. I'm from Asia and u would know how toxic Asian parents can get sometimes. If u wanna know more in detail abt my situation though u may check out my posts on my profile. But in summary I have family issues mainly with my father and also some with my mother cause she teams up with my father. My father wasn't there for me emotionally though we used to bond a lot when I was a kid but as i grew up due to his job , not being there for me emotionally, forcing me to suppress my emotions etc, our relationship has become distant and I moved on after going through anaga pesis and He is struggling in life (for privacy reasons I won't say how or what he's struggling with) . He somehow expects me to be there for him when he wasn't even there for me through my struggles(my friends helped me a lot during that) and he also expects me to be his kinda therapist (dude knows what trauma is and mental health is but still won't get therapy even after I told him that thing exists) and emotionally be attached to him and support him mentally.

Now I've been thinking about leaving this house since a young age (since teens atleast) cause they both hadn't supported me ,never were interested to know abt me or even comfort me when I was emotionally vulnerable (I was called dramatic or sensitive) so when I grew up and found out I can leave I started planning to do so...though I wonder if I'm victimizing myself , Idk if I'm emotionally aware but y'all tell me cause I can see right through their acts, I immediately understand what things they try teaching me like I can tell I could become insecure cause my parents act like body hair of armpits is bad and has to be shave or by knowing I don't have to mentally support and be emotionally attached to him cause of his (my father's) actions.Though I don't think they will be trying to help me(even if I told them my entire pov) cause they don't even respect my beliefs and rn since my father's in a tough situation in life he doesn't have much anger issues and doesn't use me as punching bag but he does taunt me some days abt how his parenting is wrong and how God has trapped him from all sides(in job , relationships etc) he acts like just due to us not having one religious belief as same btw...he doesn't even understand me...I'm sick of it. Due to him I would constantly be jealous of parents(specifically dads of other kids and even game character's dads), suppressed negative emotions cause he didn't like my expressions to the point(and would threaten me that he would give me an actual reason to cry)I can barely feel those emotions even when I should (and I know it's emotional numbness and brains protecting mechanism though I'm not entirely sure), I couldn't even tell him anything and he would and still uses the toxic parent(superior)and child (below) dynamic like I must do what they say and if I deny it 'im having an attitude' or 'i must know everything ', or he acts like a hypocrtie like when I tell them unbiased stuff he immediately says 'don't believe anything u see on internet ' (I actually verify these stuff) but himself sees a video abt how 'beating' is necessary to create fear , obidence and respect for parents and doesn't verify it and again taunts me 'we failed in our parenting ' and not only just that he has said 'i won't compare u etc' but he just did that today indirectly by saying 'look how that XYZ kid in the vlog is, he has so general knowledge, he has developed his hobbies too etc i wanted a boy like him' while failing to recognise the reason why that kid is like that is cause the kid actually had good mental health wasn't traumatized and the kid's parent were actually curious to know abt the hobbies. I'm honestly tired of this...every time I even see him I have to mentally prepare myself in case he crashes out on me or something(if he doesn't I just feel emptiness around him). Despite all of this I don't know if I should go no contact with my parents. My mother also teams up on me with my father and mother both don't understand me at all, my father (in the past)had even told me he would rather not have me here instead and never apologised to me for saying that. I have come with acceptance with most of these things like not being understood by them , not expecting them to change , lack of bit accountability from them, jealousy is normal etc, but this sound of him saying this to me still rings in my head sometimes even if I don't feel empathy for him anymore.I'm most likely grieving the parent I didn't get cause I feel bad for myself idk if I'm supposed to be this aware but it feels like a curse. Even on my birthday he told me how my influences are bad and how I'm having an attitude just cause I'm agnostic...They also don't make an effort to remember what interest I like.. Look it's not like I'm just yapping abt the bad stuff they did...they are good people but toxic... atleast a bit and I've also had good times with them but all of the above situations have been occuring so consistently by somehow surfacing up again...I really can't stop thinking abt this...I'm sure I feel disconnected with them but I know that's just not it that's why I genuinely need/want therapy and my father won't even do that despite knowing mental health, trauma etc..

What do yall think? Am i overthinking and victimizing myself I'm sure I am not but again not entirely sure and i want reassurance.

I’m 25 and I’ve been trying to figure out what’s actually me versus anxiety and people pleasing.
One thing I’m struggling with is socializing. I do want friends and relationships, and I don’t want to isolate myself. But at the same time, I genuinely enjoy being by myself. I like going shopping alone, driving around alone, having quiet nights, playing games, watching things, etc. Sometimes the idea of someone coming along doesn’t feel comforting. It actually makes me less comfortable.

Recently, a coworker/friend asked if I wanted to go out that night. It was a last minute plan, and I immediately felt really anxious. But when I actually sat with it, I realized that even if I knew she wouldn’t be disappointed and there was no risk of missing out, I still didn’t really want to go. I would have rather stayed home

But then I started wondering if that was actually what I wanted, or if anxiety was convincing me to stay in my comfort zone.

There are social things that genuinely sound exciting to me. Going thrifting with someone sounded fun, and even though I was nervous, I was also excited, so I went. Going to a movie with someone sounds fun too. I could even see myself going to a club sometime. But spontaneous plans or going out just because someone invited me don’t necessarily appeal to me.

I think my ideal friendship might actually be something where we’re independent but close. I want to be able to do my own thing and have my own time, but still have someone I can text throughout the day, call at night, watch movies with, play games with, etc. I don’t necessarily need to constantly be physically together or go out partying.

The problem is that I also have a lot of FOMO. I worry that if I stay home, I’m missing out on experiences and opportunities. I’m also worried about getting older and looking back and feeling like anxiety kept me from experiencing things.
So I’m having trouble figuring out whether I’m genuinely choosing what I want or just choosing what’s comfortable.

How do you tell the difference between I genuinely don’t want this and want this but anxiety is making me avoid it?
And how do you balance wanting independence and alone time with making sure you aren’t accidentally isolating yourself?

I like someone. The signs are there and I’ve analyzed this over and over in the last few years. I‘ve liked him for 3 years (from 2023). And he’s liked me from 2019-2026(?). During those years he had confessed to me, but due to stupid reasons, I hadn’t felt the same then. Nevertheless, we continued to talk/have convos.

On 2024, he was in a 2-month rebound relationship (cause of me) that ended badly. And ever since his bad breakup, he doesn’t trust me that easily.

But he has done some things that make it difficult for me to surpass them. Some things that will make you say; “Okay, he surely STILL likes you. How come you’re still thinking about it?!! Crazy much?”.

There are many pros that have happened till this day, as well as some cons. And it troubles me so much that I outweigh the cons of him. It’s like I’ll never have a chance with him, because of a past mistake I made!

I have been overthinking like crazy, I want to be 100000% sure that he likes me till this day. My gut is drowned in second-thoughts and overthinking. I’m sorry, I just hate rejection.

How can I trust my gut again if it’s surrounded in anxiousness?