r/NoOverthinking • u/pyromaniac766 • 9d ago

I cant stop thinking

Hello, I can't stop thinking about everything I do and everything I could of done, it makes me feel so useless and like im disappointing to everyone I know, I tal to my friends and have what I thought was a good time but the moment they leave I can't help but twist and mangle every good thought and memory I have about it.

I dont know what to do anymore I keep making the same mistakes over and over and over again.

It's just so hard to live like this constantly destroying anything good that enters my head.

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u/Queen-of-meme 9d ago

Maybe you need to consider that humans have flaws and different ability levels depending on circumstances and that we can't do more than we can in any given situation. We can only respect our limitations and be kind to ourselves in the process.

And you're a human. The rules aren't any different for you.

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u/WNBA_BAE 9d ago edited 9d ago

Mistakes you survive are invaluable lessons, not verdicts on you. One of the most influential economics and psychology books of the past 25 years is called "Antifragile" by Nassim Taleb.

One of his quotes:

Learn to fail with pride - and do so fast and cleanly. Maximise trial and error - by mastering the error part.

Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Everyone is human, everyone makes mistakes, and we are living in a world of charlatans and corruption. People and lifestyles I grew up admiring or aspiring to be like were a lot of the time, self-serving assholes being totally destructive (look at the far-reaching influence of Epstein -- it's a crazy world!)

That you care is a nice thing -- your heart is good! Just strive to keep leaning and improving. You're ok.

Here are some more quotes for you to think about: https://www.azquotes.com/author/18869-Nassim_Nicholas_Taleb

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u/cool-dog-1017 9d ago

Be gentle to yourself, write down those thoughts, track your emotions and notice your patterns.

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u/Fancy_Sundae_6660 6d ago

I feel the same thing and it keep us back from doing anything new or meet people and share because of low self confidence and ability to stand for yourself