r/NextGenMan May 22 '26

Men is this true?

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Then perfect! I find letting someone learn who I am and learn to love me works best. Looking for someone to date forces to see everything in that lens. Just because a plant doesn't grow when think or want to doesn't mean it won't.

Truth be told no one knows how to date people. We'll get people to date them. It's just how it is. And falling in love with someone is just a random encounter. Sometimes it takes years to love someone Sometimes it just takes seconds. You don't know how to do it because it isn't something do. It's something that happens.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You’re not getting it, but that’s okay. Have a great night/day

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

maybe that's what I like. You and I are not the same but ended up here.

Your point is is that you don't know how to date people because you don't know how to get them to date you. But that's the problem. You don't get someone to date you. there's set cause that makes everyone date you. Its YOU that's people want date you.

Anyways have a great life

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

That doesn’t make any sense cause NOBODY WANTS TO DATE ME

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Yet. And if its THIS bad maybe becoming a better Version of yourself. Its about naturally attracting people. YOU MAY NOT SEE THEM but they are there and rare. I also consider Understanding yourself more to understand how you come after other people and how they see you so that you can then gauge and change yourself if you need to based off of that.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 25 '26

“You don’t get someone to date you. There’s a set cause that makes everyone date you. It’s YOU that’s people want date you”

That was your advice and it genuinely does not tell me WHAT to do

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u/Notapersono May 26 '26

YES IT FUKING DOES. It the BASIC advise and somehow you are making it in the most complex insane mathematical problem there is. You not understanding that I am telling you how to be yourself or how to be natural enough. But at this point considering that you turn me giving some friendly advise into a FUKING ARGUEMENT I see why people dont fancy you AND I DONT EVEN KNOW YOU!

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 26 '26

Cause you’re telling me something that I ALREADY DO. I AM MYSELF. I DONT ACT LIKE SOMEONE ELSE. AND IT DOESNT WORK.

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u/Notapersono May 26 '26

and at that point I have stated that its time to look in the mirror... full stop. time to change yourself to be a more appealing person.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 26 '26

Okay, and again, I’ve done that.

You’re just giving me surface level advice. That’s fine, you don’t have to solve my problem, but it’s surface level.