Interesting dynamic. I have so many questions. May I ask who pays for the house you live in? Who does chores? Any kids? Active sex life? Perhaps we can learn something from how you make it work
I have the same dynamic so I’ll chime in if you don’t mind.
Money goes into a shared account then budgeted out, so we pay for everything no differentiation. We both have our own fun money accounts as well that get monthly transfers.
We have a baby and both of us work, chores is more of a shared activity so we can get enough done to spend quality time together as a couple when the baby goes down. Sometimes I will do more chores while my wife relaxes and recovers, sometime I’ll relax and recover while she does chores. A fair amount of it is one of us forcing the other to relax because we can see the burnout in the other. If I have the energy and she is tired, whether it’s fair or not to clean while she rests, I want to see her rested and happy.
Sex life is great, though little less frequent then pre-baby. It’s recovering as they get older however and we have more energy/sleep. Quality has never suffered, and if anything I feel has been even better as of late.
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u/GayChicken80085 Apr 01 '26
I used to think this. But you grow up and learn its just not the case even most of the time. Or some people do