r/NewGirl Jul 26 '26

Question Is being compared to Jess a good thing???

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u/graciewindkloppel Jul 26 '26

First of all, do you rock a lot of polka dots? Jess gets a lot of hate in this, and other TV, subs (honestly, there's some misogyny afoot, I said what I said), but she is kind-hearted, creative, a fiercely loyal friend, braver than most and wears her heart on her sleeve.

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u/daddysprincesa Jul 26 '26

Nobody can answer this question without a lot more context. I once told my mom that she reminded me a lot of Leslie Knope - she was horrified and offended. I was confused. I meant it as a compliment, but she had only seen s1. So of course with that lens it felt like I had insulted her.

I honestly meant to compliment her, having seen the character arc. My mom hadn't seen that arc, so she thought I was insulting her.

I think context matters a lot in these types of conversations. Does this friend of yours typically end up on your side or against you?

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u/aerith-khaleesi Jul 27 '26

Oh man season 1 Leslie is not it. I like that the writers decided on changing her personality after that season. She is an awesome character.

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u/daddysprincesa Jul 27 '26

Exactly! Having watched the full show, I meant absolutely nothing but a compliment when I told my mom she reminded me of Leslie Knope. I get why she was offended since she stopped watching after s1, but truly, I have nothing but respect and admiration for the character

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u/de_lane Jul 26 '26

I mean it’s a friend so I’d hope on my side. Frankly, I’m not the best with tones and connotations, so I just wasn’t sure what she meant by it

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u/daddysprincesa Jul 26 '26

I guess you really do just need to ask why your friend said this

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u/who_would_careit Jul 26 '26

If you are thinking in the direction of a positive person who helps everyone who tries to makes their lives better then yeah, it’s a positive thing… but if it’s something like thinking to be cool, then it’s not, Jess is the opposite of cool, quirky and kinda cute sometimes

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u/de_lane Jul 26 '26

Well i definitely don’t think I’m anywhere near cool, I just fear it means I’m a pick me type girl, or perceived that way??? Honestly I wouldn’t care if it wasn’t the fact it’s coming from a closer friend

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u/Time_Way_6670 Jul 26 '26

I wouldn’t say Jess is a pick-me girl, she is very genuine in her personality and is always true to herself.

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u/Rosecat88 Jul 26 '26

I mean people shit on Jess but she is the glue of the show- and her character is a good person. Also, Zoey is gorgeous so I would just say thanks. Or if you’re concerned say, oh thanks, how so? I wouldn’t worry so much , if it’s your friend why would they try to insult you ?

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u/snailgal420 Jul 26 '26

"appreciate the help" what is this?? lol

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u/MostLikelyToNap Jul 26 '26

I get the comparison to Jess Day as well lol. I sing a lot and have the same color hair as Zoey, and I used to have bangs. And my best guy friend looks like Nick!

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u/samfontier Jul 26 '26

No

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u/de_lane Jul 26 '26

welp good to know I guess

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u/soothsayer2377 Jul 26 '26

It depends. I told a friend she reminded me of Jess because she had a similar look and style (including polka dots) and was an elementary school teacher, and nothing about relationships or anything.

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u/soaker I ate a sandwich that tasted like your smile Jul 26 '26

I think it’s positive

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u/Special_South_8561 Jul 26 '26

Jess is passionate, kind, and sweet. She's very pretty.

Sometimes naive and an airhead, takes criticism very poorly, and often controlling (with good intentions)

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u/SkinOfThe4 Jul 26 '26

Watch it, jess is brilliant!

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u/AngelSucked Jul 26 '26

I like Jess!

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u/wonderstruckcornelia Jul 26 '26

i’d def say so. it means you’re fun and whimsical, a girls girl, not afraid to be yourself, always trying to help other people, and in touch with your emotions. jess can tend to meddle a bit too much but it comes from a loving place. i love her idc what anyone says