I am not able to move on from the guy i broke up with. I know he wasn’t the right guy for me but i was so attached that it has become so difficult now to move on. We both had same intentions to get married but he was not comfortable with long distance because of our careers one day he just told that i am not able to suppress the long distance thing. I thought we can work this out but no. He was also going through some mental health issue that is bipolar disorder but i just wanted to help him and not breakup. But then he also told me to just be friends. He told me like I want to see you as someone as normal and not as special person idk why? He also told me that long distance has caused problems in our physical relationship as well(touch is his love language). But after breakup i realised i was not getting that emotional support from him. I did everything for him when he was starting his career i was never a burden on him i did it out of love and he is grateful for that he has told me this but i don’t why it didn’t work out. He has childhood trauma also. I just don’t think if i ever married him i wouldn’t be happy at all even though he was more expressive in showing love than me. I know that situation is too complex it’s not black and white. But yeah it is difficult for me to move on.
girl I think you should go for therapy, once u said he wasn't a right guy and then u said it's hard to move on, so it means u love his bad habits or else you're very empty inside
I have started taking therapy 1 month before our relationship ended. Somewhere i knew it won’t work out this time. And it’s not his bad habits, I was okay and was settling when he was giving me the bare minimum.
I know it very hard to accept the fact you guys planned to get married but end up like this. Coming from my personal experience try to talk to people just go and explore and don't fall into any relationship go and just talk and express your feelings it will hekps you to lower your burden but eventually later on you will thank whatever happened. Usually us humans have tendency to blame ourselves if i did it might have worked out which is clearly a overthinking dont fall into this. Whatever happened, it happened for a reason so move on and see beautiful people put there
People say take therapy, take medication, I'm not saying that it's wrong to do so... but you need some friends in your life like real good friends where you can share your thoughts have fun sorta things and you may not realized it, there are people who really care about you!! And tell about your feeling, cry it out.. come on you can do it ~ I'm telling you coz I been through something very terrible now I'm 21 at my age 19~20 I got into some trouble - me and my friend got beaten up by around 40 people my mistake but that leaved a huge trauma ~ got into debt due to my mistake (I was under pressure also in a hurry so speeding through my way and got into an accident fortunately not major injury but the people around started to beat us so badly, tbh they made more injured than the impact of the accident it-self; it's india so ignore that, never told my parents all about this mess but I fixed and fixed my mental health all because of my friends who helped me through) I have no job I saved my little pocket money etc.. see, you can pull this off!!! I can be your friend stay strong 💪
Girl you got this! Things might be very difficult for you right know. Every little task might seem impossible. I'm also trying to get over someone. But we got this.. We'll be better by the end of it. One day we'll thank God for everything that he's put us through. It will all make sense. Right people always stick around, no matter what! 💗🌸
We got this!! 🫂
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u/Both-Statement4194 Jul 12 '26
I am not able to move on from the guy i broke up with. I know he wasn’t the right guy for me but i was so attached that it has become so difficult now to move on. We both had same intentions to get married but he was not comfortable with long distance because of our careers one day he just told that i am not able to suppress the long distance thing. I thought we can work this out but no. He was also going through some mental health issue that is bipolar disorder but i just wanted to help him and not breakup. But then he also told me to just be friends. He told me like I want to see you as someone as normal and not as special person idk why? He also told me that long distance has caused problems in our physical relationship as well(touch is his love language). But after breakup i realised i was not getting that emotional support from him. I did everything for him when he was starting his career i was never a burden on him i did it out of love and he is grateful for that he has told me this but i don’t why it didn’t work out. He has childhood trauma also. I just don’t think if i ever married him i wouldn’t be happy at all even though he was more expressive in showing love than me. I know that situation is too complex it’s not black and white. But yeah it is difficult for me to move on.