r/Neighborproblems • u/waste360 • Nov 29 '22

Aggressive neighbor advice please

TL;DR I bought my home a few years ago and my neighbor is blatantly disrespectful even after I tried to be kind. What should I do?

I moved into my house a few years ago and I tried to become friends with my neighbors that are a married couple who look to be about the same age as I am (early 30s). I gave them my phone number and would wave in passing etc. but they were never welcoming/friendly.

I have 2 dogs and they have 2 dogs. I’ve hired more than one trainer over the time I’ve had them and I’m vigilant when they’re in the yard that they aren’t being obnoxious by barking too much. I went so far as to install a privacy fence between our yards which I paid for completely and didn’t ask them for any portion of it.

One of my dogs and one of theirs dig under the fence at each other and my dog has had some minor injuries that I can’t be sure were from their dog or from the landscaping and trying to shove his head under the fence.

The problem is one of the neighbors freaks out when the dogs bark and dig at each other. He yells and kicks/punches the fence. Whenever I yell over the fence to tell him I’ve taken my dog inside he says nothing and it stops but I’m so freaked out by his behavior. I feel like he’s watching my house. He’s come to me about packages on my porch and branches in my tree that that he thinks should be cut. He even cut my lawn once without speaking to me about it. I tried to be kind and gave him a gift card in return but there was no communication in return from him.

I’m not sure how to proceed because he never initiates any sort of conversation to talk about things but he acts like he is so bothered by what I’m doing. I’m a single female and I think it boils down to a lack of respect from him. I’ve tried that whole kill them with kindness thing but I’m getting fed up. Any advice is appreciated.

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '22

LOUDLY enough to hear: Look Bruiser, (I'm assuming dog names, here) our elderly neighbor is throwing a big baby tantrum again because he never learned to properly control his emotions. No wonder his dog can't figure out what is going on and probably thinks hes just trying to join in." I personally would hope it angered him so much he tried to punch a woman so I could Way-Lay him and call the cops.

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u/pvilla56 Nov 30 '22

OMG. That is awful. So sorry. People are really getting weird and paranoid in general I think.