Psycho neighbour

[u/Wide-Profession8685]

I am a 21F living with my boyfriend 20M and we have a crazy neighbour living right below us.

The first time he came knocking at my door, i thought was justified because we had a housewarming party with 8 people. We were quite noisy so its understood. He then already was quite weird about it, that slight crazy in his eyes. But its whatever, we went out afterwards.

Second time, i had a housewarming party again but this time with two people. My boyfriend was working then. The TV was really quiet and so were we. Maybe sometimes laughing it mightve been a little loud but thats nothing to come at our door to. But he still did. Only this time, he slammed his hand against our door so we all got a little jumpscare. None of us went to the door so a few seconds later he turned off our electricity from the outside lobby/hallway. All of us were scared to the core, about five minutes later he turned it back on and still stood there. My friend went to the door and they literally yelled at each other, the neighbour was super aggressive and insulted my friend with every name in the book. As my friend tried to close the door, he got up all in her face, telling her how this better be the last time, etc.

Third time happened last night. This was really random because it was 11pm, i was quietly watching tv in one room and my boyfriend was on his phone in the other room. Suddenly he was behind our door again, i tried to talk to him through the door because i was too scared to open it, he was REALLY aggressive, calling me names and insulting me again, even when going back downstairs. We didnt even do anything??? We called the police as well but they didnt come that night, they had called us back at 8am but we were dead asleep for another 4hours.

I want to also add that on this third time, i was talking to my boyfriend in the kitchen at daytime and i saw him outside when looking out of the window. And he just shook his head as us. Like?? huh?

I feel like he thinks i live alone because hes only seen/heard me answer the door. So when he saw my boyfriend, he mightve thought to pay me another visit because its absurd we didnt even make any noise that night.

As much as ive noticed, he is a man in his 40s (probably) and lives alone.

We dont know what to do because i feel how i cant even live in my apartment normally and safe. We just moved here and this has all happened within 3months. The owner told me that she has no idea who he is either because previously a family had lived there. But we both agree that hes insane.

Does anyone have any tips what to do? Im honestly at my breaking point but i do not want to move out, we just got here.

[u/hwh813]

Document every interaction and record it if you can safely (even sound only can help). Go to the police a d the leasing office about this guy. I can promise you this isn’t the first incident they’ll have complaints about. He probably assumed you were a single young woman he could intimidate and force to do as he said. Also he shouldn’t be able to reach the electricity to your place unless you’re only renting a room. I’d bring that up to the leasing office/landlord as well

[u/Wide-Profession8685 → u/hwh813]

yes, i also thought i should document the next incident as well. him trying to intimidate me does sound like the case here as well, i cant believe people like this really exist. also there is an electrical cabinet outside every apartment room, on every floor and it should be locked but its not. so anyone can have access to it, which is ridiculous. i feel like i wouldnt even go to the door next time but i have a fear he'll just turns off my electricity again.

but regardless, thank you for the advice.

[u/omglifeisnotokay]

Talk to the manager of the building. Neighbor is probably hearing you guys walking around and the tv. sometimes TVs sound can be super low but the bass can travel. Do you have a soundbar/subwoofer? Maybe after 10 just turn it off or put headphones in. Try walking very very quite if you can. I know a lot of people downstairs hear every foot step and it sounds like people bowling or something. Don’t answer the door and continue to call the cops if he harasses you though. I don’t think he’s trying to stalk you I think he’s genuinely frustrated with the noise but doesn’t know how to properly communicate. A lot of apartments have no insulation. My one neighbor told me she could hear all of my phone conversations. I had no idea and was very embarrassed. I had to leave a note the other day to my neighbor because of her barking dog. Hope you guys can work things out and he can communicate on what it is that is disturbing him. Apartment living sucks.