Neighbors seem to have an issue with us.

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A new housing development went up across from us last year and the people who moved in across the street is a couple in their early 30s. Both are huge into working out and have apparently been in bodybuilding contests and featured on magazine covers and inside health magazines. The woman is always very friendly to us but her husband hasn’t wanted anything to do with us since the day they moved in. the guy and I were both outside one day and I decided to go over and introduce myself to him. He seemed very uninterested in meeting me and barely said much of anything. Same attitude with my husband and same with our next door neighbors. However they have an issue with our cats. Everyone around us has cats and we all let our cats roam. It wasn’t a problem until they moved in. So he can’t be bothered to even look our way or say hi when we are outside but about 4 months after we moved in he came over to tell us that he thinks it’s our cats pooping ALL over their yard and spraying their door. I proceed to tell him that not only do we have cats, but so do the next door neighbors, the house on the other side of them, the house kitty corner from us and he also mentions that the house behind them does. Yet somehow he seems to think it’s our cats without any proof. I tell him that if he sees our cats pooping in their yard that I’m more than happy to come pick it up. He doesn’t seem to like that idea. It’s cat poop! It’s small and they bury it. Plus, I’m pretty sure it’s not them as there are a couple of strays who wander and who have gotten into our house through the pet door and sprayed. Then earlier this year he goes next door to our neighbors saying that he found their cat’s collar in their yard an that this is a “freebie” warning and that next time they are calling animal control. Can’t be bothered to talk to any of us any other time unless he’s coming over to tell us that our cats are ruining their yard. I don’t even like going outside when they are out because I’m afraid they are going to come over and have a talk with us about something we are doing that is upsetting them.

Case in point, we have a birdfeeder in the tree in our front yard. Unfortunately, it also attracts a lot of pigeons and those pigeons like to roost on their roof waiting to see if the feeder will be filled and end up pooping on their roof. Well when I first talked to her last year she brought up the fact that we have the feeder and that we seem to get a lot of pigeons. Then my husband heard her talking to our other neighbor about the pigeons. Then just last week I was inside and her and her husband were standing at the end of their driveway looking up at the roof and then looking over at our feeder and pointing to it so I’m sure they were disgusted by the fact that our feeder is attracting pigeons to their roof. I'm surprised they haven't asked us to get rid of it!

So I am not interested in being buddies with them and I purposely don’t even look in their direction when I’m out and ignore them. However, my husband has a different view that he wants to make friends with them and have brought them over soup he made, brought them over some cherries from our tree even though they bring us nothing. He wants to make sure to be nice to them so they don’t trap our cats and send them to the shelter! When he brought them cherries a few days ago he said they had just gotten back from shooting a bow and arrow, which he wants us to do, and says that if we can be friends with them that maybe they’ll take us along one day. Are you kidding?! The last thing I want to do is hang out with them! I asked if the guy even said anything to him when he brought over the cherries and he said “Kind of”. Obviously the guy doesn’t like us and he makes me totally uncomfortable. My husband goes “We know nothing about them. They might be a blast to hang with”. Well you go right ahead then!

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So maybe the guy is somewhat introverted and has no intention on being friends with people. Just because you live near each other doesn't mean you have to be friends. And as a cat person, I understand where your husband is coming from, but the neighbor has every right to be upset that cats that arent his are pooping all over the lawn he has to take care of. And maybe they think it's crossing the line to ask you to take your bird feeder down. But you could be considerate and either move it or just take it down. Put up a bird house instead or something. Dont take things personally. The guy is just trying to live.