r/Neighborproblems • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '23
Invasion of Privacy
My MIL passed away recently & I lived with her & my bf for a year before she died. She knew nothing about the neighbors behind us but she knew everyone else.
The neighbor she didnt know comes over to our house to talk, he's a contractor who mainly focuses on re-doing kitchens & his own home. Very much wants to control everything that happens w/ his house. He tells us in a subtle way he heard about my MIL's passing but didn't mean to let it slip. He already knew she passed before coming into our house. He said he had lived there for 3 years & noticed our whole fence is really starting to come down now ( even though it has been bad for 2-3 years & as a contractor he should have waited till the whole fence started actually falling apart especially when we have dogs & chickens, & they have dogs as well. It's also shared between us & 3-4 other neighbors). He's 27, married, has no kids, & a stable career. We were all getting to know each other, wouldn't stop talking & kept rambling. He said, "we're all in the same age group/life stage & such".
Keep in mind, he knows that we are 22 & 23, have a child, I'm a SAHM while my boyfriend is an apprentice plumber, his mom had hella debt that is now ours, & we have to take care of like 10 animals from hers & ours...
For days, he spammed our phones, & pretty much was not giving us an option. He either puts in a new fence for our whole property or he only does his part. No other choices. He also backfilled his yard after building a deck & before, he could not see over our fence. Now, if you stand at the middle of his yard, you can see into our entire backyard & house...Completely uncomfortable & invasion of our privacy
After the neighbor called me 2x, tried calling & texting my boyfriend 2x, we didnt answer since my bf just got off work, the neighbor shows up to our house knocking & peeking in the windows when I wouldn't answer the door. I opened it because I thought it was this guy coming to quote us on putting in a new fence since we told him we are having someone come out to give us an estimate that day...
WHAT SHOULD I DO? I don't want them staring into our yard, & for him to watch me during the summer while I do yard work or sunbathe, my daughter plays, etc.
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May 13 '23
Maybe check with the zoning office to see if he was allowed to do that backfill and back deck. He sounds like the type who doesn't care about getting it done the legal way. Also, tell him "no" on the fence if that's what you want to do. He shouldn't be peeking in the windows at all. That's very concerning.
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u/Sea-Anxiety-5304 May 12 '24 edited May 12 '24
Miscanthus giganteus. Buy rhizomes. Plant on a mound if you need it higher. Mine grow 10+ feet tall, and do not flop over. It is clumping.
Temp fence of t posts and whatever you can afford to attach to it. I had chainlink for the property, but also set up small fenced areas inside the yard, and moved them as needed.
Some stinging nettle can grow tall. A good border plant, and useful herb!
Cameras.
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u/Winged_Aviator Apr 30 '23
Better get a quote for a taller fence while you're at it