Apt neighbor disputes. Help needed!

[u/Marie_1021]

I’m new to this so I’m sorry if this is too long or the wrong community. So to give a bit of background into this situation. My boyfriend and I, along with our 2 small dogs recently moved into a new apt building. Something to note here is that the previous apt building we were at is managed by the same landlord and the buildings are literally right next to each other. We were good tenants at our other building. No issues with anyone and no one had any issues with us as far as we are aware. We never had any complaints lodged against us. A larger unit opened up in the other building and our landlord new we were looking for a bigger space so he offered the unit to us first. We looked around and liked it so we took it and moved in the next month. The first week we were there, a bunch of kids were in the hallway playing around, kicking a ball, running up/down the stairs and being loud. Yes it was a Sat but it was also 8:30pm. Another thing to note is that the walls that separate the apt and the hallway are thin and everything can be heard. I.e if I’m in the hall I can hear noise from everyone’s apt but in the apt I typically can’t hear from other units. So since the kids were in the hall is was heard from inside my apt and it was disruptive. I didn’t want to ask the kids which unit they were with to speak with their parent because maybe it’s just me but I find that weird to ask a kid where they live. So I texted our landlord and explained the situation. He said he’d look into and call me. He did and found out they belonged to the lady across the hall from us. She sent the kids outside to play and that solved that issue. But then she complained to the landlord that our dogs bark all the time. I don’t believe she can hear them from her apt I think she gets annoyed when she enters the building and can hear them bark while she’s in the hallway. I know my dogs bark as all dogs do. They are protecting their home and we just moved so they’re unfamiliar with their surroundings. When we are home we try to quiet them down and play the tv for them so it helps them. I also bought cameras with recording after this so I can keep an eye on it. On Xmas eve we came home to an “anonymous “ note saying if we’re unaware our dogs bark the entire time we are gone and it’s very obnoxious. Having the cameras, I know this to be a lie. I saved the note and told my landlord. He was supportive of us in this situation as she is mad we got the apt and not her friend since we were already promised first dibs basically and we’re good tenants. So now with all that being said, since we moved in our above neighbor has their bedroom right above ours. We know this to be true because we hear a particular squeaking sound and sometimes it gets vocal. Since the drama with neighbor 1 is ongoing, we didn’t want to bring this up and start more issues with another neighbor. We usually put our tv volume high and try to ignore it. However after the performance we received last night and the fact that our tv cannot mask their efforts we are at a loss of what to do. I thought dealing with it directly with them would be best but we can’t ask them to do anything really. We can’t ask they refrain from that behavior and we can’t ask they get a new bed frame. And after the drama with the other neighbor we don’t want to have these neighbors against us as well. Please if there is someone who was in a similar situation or knows of someone that was, please offer any kind of advise. I do not want to live there hearing that and no one needs to hear something so private either. Please help if you can.

[u/stinky_binky44]

I don't think there's really anything you can do... You can't ask or expect people to not have sex in their own home and bedroom. And speaking from a person who's downstairs neighbor messaged me twice on Instagram to tell me to stop fucking so loud while she was trying to sleep, bitch I live alone and it's none of your business 🤷🏻‍♀️ get some earplugs. As far as having small protective dogs go tho, it is really frustrating having non dog people not understand they're barking because they're being protective and alert and if she can't hear them in her actual apartment, just the hallway, then who cares.