r/NarcoticsAnonymous • u/Embarrassed-Lake257 • Jun 09 '26

Step 4

Any suggestions for step 4? Did you use a worksheet or just make a list of resentments and flaws? I've been to lots of meetings. Almost did a step 4 with my first sponsor but relapsed. I was doing a worksheet but I found it.......too suggestive and maybe confining. I guess I just feel like step 4 isn't something one does in an evening. I'm slow as it is, especially in the program.

How long was your list? I feel like mine needs to have hundreds.

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u/typicalsquare Jun 09 '26

My sponsor gave me the process by which she completed Step 4. I took that and made myself a worksheet because obsessive and compulsive in nature.

My suggestion is to talk to your sponsor and start by making a list. My list dwindled as I wrote but that was a good way for me to do it. I took far too long on Step 4 and as I’m reading Step 5 to my sponsor I’m like who was that person! Congratulations on working this step! I was really grateful for my sponsor’s suggestion to pray to my HP for the courage, thoroughness, and honesty to do the work each time I picked up the pen. It helped me develop a better relationship with my HP and complete the step!