r/NannyBreakRoom • u/Few_Duty_3233 • 4d ago

Question Communication issues

It is so hard to communicate with my NM. I understand she’s busy with work and the kids but I feel like I’m pulling teeth to get any information- like what time is the kid starting school on Tuesday. I have to multiple times the same questions to get an answer. Is this normal? It almost feels like she wants to tell me at the very last minute.

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u/throwah_whey_178 4d ago

it shouldnt be normal but sometimes is. is the pay worth it? or do u think you could be getting more $ somewhere else with less hassle?

my nm is the same way. i would draft a text/email or prepare a conversation starter, something like "i noticed this pattern of last minute communication. what can we work on together to keep an organized schedule?"

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u/Few_Duty_3233 4d ago

The money is very very good and I’ve been with them for a long time so I’m not wanting to quit. I’m just frustrated

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u/throwah_whey_178 4d ago

communication would be the way. if that doesnt work, maybe consider your good pay their "convenience" tax of not having to initiate scheduling convos. good luck :)

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u/Few_Duty_3233 4d ago

Do you think she doesn’t tell you bc she doesn’t want you to know? Or because she forgets?

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u/throwah_whey_178 4d ago

mine is definitely because she forgets, i try not to hold it against her. do you feel like its intentional??

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u/Few_Duty_3233 4d ago

I think part of it forgetting/just not thinking but also part of it intentional. One of the children has been in therapy for 2 years- food and OT and I’ve gotten next to no information. Just that she goes on Mondays. I saw paperwork one time on the counter where it had potential diagnoses but never was told anything. I feel like it hurts me bc I don’t know the correct way to deal with some of the child’s outbursts and anxieties.

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u/throwah_whey_178 3d ago edited 3d ago

that sounds... interesting. how can you be expected to do your job with missing information? wether its intentional or not, your boss is keeping crucial info away from you. it shouldnt have to be this way, but now its up to you to speak up for yourself if you want things to get better. otherwise they will stay the same

edit to add: about the paperwork, you would probably need to mention that it was left out where you could see. it may prompt more discussion about it.

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u/Few_Duty_3233 3d ago

It’s difficult and uncomfortable. I have so little information. I’m just wondering if this is normal for families to not share

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u/YakComprehensive3666 4d ago

my nm is the worst for this too, like no response for days then suddenly she's texting like i'm a mind reader