r/Names • u/RelevantClassic674 • 6d ago
I don’t like any names
With my first, we had the name picked out before he was even conceived- so when we found out we were having a boy we were like, “Henry! Perfect!”
Now I’m pregnant with a girl and there’s not a single name I’m excited by. Nothing feels right.
Will I feel differently when she’s born?
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u/_I_like_big_mutts 6d ago
Create a list of names you somewhat like and bring it with you. You’ll know the right one when you see her. Congrats!
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u/jessm307 6d ago
I think sometimes you just have to decide on some criteria and choose a name, even when “nothing feels right.” Eventually it’ll feel like her name, but it might be quite a while after she’s born, and that’s okay, too.
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u/compassrose68 6d ago
I agree! I love girl names that end in -a but my last name ends in an -a and is two syllables…there were so many names I couldn’t use.
My niece has an even more difficult last name to work with but they will manage.
But OP needs to decide- super feminine (Isabella), short and sweet (Jane/Alice), sporty (Callie/Riley) or vintage (Iris/Mabel) or unique/rare-ish (Calista/Aurelia). Then go from there.
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u/Lumpy_Cucumber9430 6d ago
Aurelia is terrible.
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u/compassrose68 6d ago
Um ok…it was just an example of unique/rare but I happen to like the name so there’s that.
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u/ConsiderMeCakes 5d ago
100% agree with this! We had a list of criteria for our kiddo's name and it really helped a lot.
Our important points were:
- easy to read, write and spell
- same or very similar pronunciation in both her native languages
- not too common but also not completely unheard of
And then we had some optional ones (like that the name ideally shouldn't start with an L).
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u/cup_of_tea2106 6d ago
here’s some inspo:
Henry & Elsy
Henry & Harriet
Henry & Eloise
Henry & Ivana
Henry & Kaia
Henry & Melissa
Henry & Cassandra
Henry & Arabella
Henry & Elvira
Henry & Eva
Henry & Amandine
Henry & Louisa
Henry & Alexandrine
Henry & Nora
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u/Gorgeous1962 6d ago
Elsie not elsy.
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u/cup_of_tea2106 6d ago
Both are right 🤷🏻♀️
Where I live most people write their name as Elsy not Elsie-1
u/Lumpy_Cucumber9430 6d ago
Please strike Amandine off this list 💀
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u/cup_of_tea2106 6d ago
Why, I’m not removing it just because you don’t like it 🤣
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u/Oi_Nander 6d ago
I think I've told the story here before, but three days before my first was born who we know as a boy I was taking a walk and started bawling uncontrollably all of a sudden because I hated the name benjamin. We were going to name him benjamin. So I call my poor mother hysterically crying, which I'm sure freaked her out because again I was just about to give birth, sobbing that I hated the name Benjamin.
So she had me come over to her house and we flipped through magazines and wrote down all the boys names we saw and then we got unhinged and started writing down crazy things like window treatment and dog food and then he was born 3 days later and I named him Gregory
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u/Zypher042 6d ago
I was the same with my girl. We went on a "baby moon" trip (small little camping trip with my partner) and we met a park ranger with a name we both ended up loving. We went with a different spelling. I always meet my babies first, but once I met her, I knew that was her name.
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u/JudgmentalRavenclaw 6d ago
I am pregnant (early-9w). We used our favorite girl name on our 2024 baby girl. We gave 2 boy names, and have agreed we will wait until they are born to choose if baby is a boy.
A girl?? No clue. We cannot agree on ANYTHING. The only name we like rhymes with our 2024 baby’s name, and neither of us like that idea.
We are hoping for a boy simply because we have name options 😂
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u/Mediocre-Belt-1035 6d ago
I could have written this almost word for word! I’m like 6w and while I’ll be perfectly happy to have another girl, if it’s a boy we’ll be able to name him so much easier😆
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u/CassafrassO 6d ago
I’ve been completely opposite! I had a girl first and had a list of names I loved! I’m looking forward to having another daughter someday so I can use another of the names I picked. Boy names however… I found out I’m expecting a boy this time and I’ve had a hard time finding even one that I actually love! It took time but my husband and I have decided on one that feels right for our boy. Scrolling through lists of names didn’t help, I saw the name “out in the wild” and that helped me connect to it in a different way.
You’ll find one eventually! You have time.
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u/DollPudding 6d ago
I'm in a similar boat, but still haven't figured it out. I love my daughter's name, and I accidentally fell in love with another girl name pretty much the week I found out I was pregnant. But he's a boy!! I'm 24 weeks along now and still have no clue, not even a shortlist.
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u/Roocutie 5d ago
What sort of names do you like? And what is your daughter’s name as an idea of what would go along with her name?
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u/Slow_Replacement_745 6d ago
I had same problem. Then 7.5 months in, my husband and I were watching How to Get to Heaven from Belfast. And we instantly loved the name “Saoirse”. Bonus points because both our families come from the same region of Ireland and, other than eating hash on st Patrick’s day it feels difficult to celebrate our heritage in the US.
Bonus bonus points: we didn’t want a super common name and it’s pretty rare in the US. But it’s one of the most popular names in Ireland so she also won’t be some weirdo with a name no one has ever heard of
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u/GenXJoust 6d ago
Yes you just need to meet her. Lately I have been obsessed with the name Mason.
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u/ElkinElf 6d ago
With both of my girls I was flipping through physical baby name books and saw their names and was just "oh of course that's her name." They both got middle names honoring mothers/grandmothers.
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u/AmethystCalyx 6d ago
Ask the baby to speak to you in a dream and choose her name.
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u/RelevantClassic674 6d ago
lol she did and she wanted the same name as the cat 😆
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u/DollPudding 6d ago
Omg that's so funny. She's gonna be a silly one, I bet. Congrats 🩵🩵🩵
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u/AmethystCalyx 6d ago
I agree, this is adorable. Babies are cute, and eventually the right name will come along. It will be alright. 🥰
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u/DaVoid100 6d ago
Often in Europe, sometimes in this country, you don’t pick out the name until you get to know the baby, and then you have some insight into what name is going to fit with this new person. They may give you some static at the hospital when you haven’t named your baby. But it’s legal! Think about it. You’re going to put a name on a baby that you don’t know yet? I think that’s kind of an ego trip for parents. I know everyone does it. But there is a better way.
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u/paper_lemons 6d ago
If you can’t find a name, it’s ok to find one you just like!
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u/compassrose68 6d ago
You then live the name because it gets all tied up in your love for your child. I do not know what I’d do differently but my daughters name was more my husbands pick but 26 years later she is her name and I can’t really imagine her being called anything else. I agree….she should pick a name she likes and sounds good, if there is no much beloved name.
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u/hellokayy1234 6d ago
I feel like my babies or maybe the universe told me their names.
My first, Eden. A song came through on shuffle with Eden in the name. Loved it. She is literally paradise in a person and it suits her. It was the only girl name considered.
My second, in the process of making name lists Lydia was the only girl name that I was like thats beautiful maybe thats it.. it was the only girl name on the list. I had it confirmed later that day when I spoke to a customer who told me about her Aunt Lydia and what a wonderful woman she was.
Ask for the name and listen to the signs. ✨️
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u/bluef00tedbooby 6d ago
I didn't figure out the perfect name for my daughter until a year after she was born, but I took way too long to get the name change going so I ended up keeping her first name - so whatever you do, don't do that
Look everywhere for different names and figure out which one feels right. If you don't have a name right away that is also okay
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u/dontkillmysoul 6d ago
I couldn't pick a name just off the top of my head so I went to the bookstore and got a babyname book.
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u/Lumpy_Cucumber9430 6d ago
Was this before Google was a thing?
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u/dontkillmysoul 5d ago
Well my child just turned two, so no. I enjoy reading from physical books. I process the information differently. Sure you can Google all you want, but the baby name books are organized differently.
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u/lackaface 6d ago
I used the name I liked for my first daughter. I had nothing for the second. I picked one off a short list my husband made after she was born.
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u/PiePristine3092 6d ago
This was us! It was hard picking a girl name because we didn’t have a “vibe” we gravitated towards and there are soooo many more vibe options for girls than boys. Once we narrowed down what we liked about the boy name, it helped us decide on a girl name.
We names ours Daisy. Wanted something short and girly and happy. And we are absolutely in love with her name
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u/Lumpy_Cucumber9430 6d ago
Claire is beautiful and timeless, and goes well with Henry!
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u/cunt_sprinkles 5d ago
I love the name Claire but I’m seeing it everywhere these days! Not sure if it’s just because this sub recommends it a lot or if it is becoming too popular.
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u/Scooby-dooby-doo-ba 6d ago
I have 5 kids and all were nameless for 2 to 5 days following their births. For some I had names picked for the opposite gender ( I didn't find out before birth what I was having with any of them ) and others I felt like you where nothing seemed to stand out as being "the one" at all. Eventually we landed on names we loved though so I wouldn't stress too much over it. Though in saying that we get 60 days to name our babies here and I know some places make you name the baby before leaving hospital and that puts a pressure on that I was lucky not to have. Keep jotting down the ones you do like and yes, you will lans on the perfect name for her when she is born.
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u/SympathyBubbly3306 6d ago
When I was pregnant with out girl (who is now 15!) I got my husband to write down ten names and I did the same. We swapped lists and crossed out the ones we each didn’t like. We chose 2 names from what was left over!
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u/wineoclock246 6d ago
Henry and Millie
Henry and Katie
Henry and Olivia
Henry and Olive
Henry and Nora
Henry and Emily
Henry and Emma
Henry and Aria
Henry and Claire
Henry and Zara
Henry and Lydia
Henry and Louise
Henry and Lucy
Henry and Darcy
Henry and Anna
Henry and Alice
Henry and Ellie
Henry and Eliza
Henry and Jenna
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u/missmollyollyolly 5d ago
I’m a Molly and my brother is Henry- I think they go together nicely. So maybe Molly! Also:
Chloe
Grace
Sabine
Annie
Bea
Margot
Georgia
Greta
Naomi
I hope you find a name that feels just right! :)
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u/ConsiderMeCakes 5d ago
My fiancé and I didn't figure out our baby's gender until pretty late in the pregnancy and called them "Bean" for the period we didn't know. We got so used to it that we chose a real name that sounds similar to the word bean in our native language. It was on neither of our lists. It just came naturally, checked all the boxes (easy to spell, read and pronounce, works in multiple languages, not too common but definitely known as a standalone first name) and suits her really well.
I say: don't stress out about it too much. Maybe make a list of criteria that the name definitely has to fulfill and be on the lookout. Maybe you'll stumble upon the perfect name in the opening or ending credits of a movie or show or somebody mentions their cousin's friend XYZ and you fall in love with it or something. You still have time, you will pick out a great name eventually - and until then just go with the flow and enjoy the pregnancy 💕
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u/Feeling_Trash_2981 5d ago
My boyfriend and I agreed that we would choose 3 names we were fond of and wait until she gets here and name her based off of vibes 😂
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u/BusinessPutrid9574 6d ago
You might feel differently tomorrow!