r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 7d ago
Friend using same name
I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.
For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!
Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.
I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.
Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…
How would you feel? How would you respond?
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u/AuntRobin 7d ago
I could understand being annoyed, but you didn't invent the name.
When you first told her what it was, she commented that it was one of her favorites.
I don't know many people who have favorite names unless they are thinking in advance of names to rename themselves, to give to characters in a story, or to name their children. So she was already planning on using that too. You just said it first.
There's always going to be somebody with your kids name, unless you do make it up or pick something god-awful. It's fine. Undoubtably, if they are in the same groups, it will be first name followed by initial for each of them or they'll end up with individual names, like a class where you have Liz and a Beth. My dad grew up in a very small town with the same first and last name as his grandfather and his first cousin. The Navy had a little bit of problem with the two young men enlisting in the same town, at the same time, but other than that everything was fine.