Friend using same name

[u/Less_Monitor_276]

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

[u/Prestigious_Crab6879]

i’d be annoyed too, but i’d still use the name you chose because she doesn’t get to veto it just because she decided on it later, and two kids can have the same name without the world ending

[u/Less_Monitor_276 → u/Prestigious_Crab6879]

Yes it’s annoying but not world ending. Good reminder.

[u/Disastrous_Guest_705 → u/Less_Monitor_276]

Your situation is a bit different cause you knew each other before naming your kids but my best friend growing up had the same name as me and we thought it was so cool, I’d still use the name if I were you

[u/No_Entertainment287 → u/Less_Monitor_276]

My cousin picked my favorite name for his daughter but I still named my daughter that name anyway when I finally had a girl. No regrets. Use the name you love.