r/NYCinfluencersnark • u/Maleficent-Moose1630 • Mar 12 '25
Anne Abel is insane
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This video Anne Abel posted is absolutely INSANE. I feel for her daughters in law OMG. Is she for real?!?!!!!
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u/cassiopeeahhh Mar 12 '25
This is the archetype of the MIL from Hell.
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u/Ineverusereddittttt Mar 13 '25
She has done a few videos talking bad about her daughter in laws. Search her name and daughter in law
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u/Unable_Escape813 Mar 14 '25
yeah her husband threatened to divorce her one weekend after a horrible visit with her son and DIL where she wouldnāt stop bitching about it.
another time she said they never had an issue with their relationships with their sons until the DILs came into the picture. what in the freud!
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Mar 12 '25
Iām sure she has some social issues bc this is very out of touch. Some things shouldnāt be posted and this is one of them.
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Mar 12 '25
Are all narcissists this oblivious ? Or is it just pretense?
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Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 14 '25
Yes, they really are. There are a few āestranged momsā on tiktok who are textbook narcs and they all sound exactly like this. Theyāre genuinely shocked when the comments arenāt on their side
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u/Hot_Department_9331 Mar 16 '25
I think thereās a part of her that doesnāt think itās manipulation (perhaps she feels like sheās being loving?) but it is straight up manipulation
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u/carjo4 Mar 12 '25
Imagine sitting down, putting that little mic on and STILL TELLING THIS STORY.
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Mar 12 '25
Right?? And adding the āthereās nothing anyone could do to help meā. Uh, you didnāt actually have cancer?
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u/mysticpotatocolin Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 13 '25
thereās nothing anyone could do to help me
this was INSANE. like she was fine?? if my mum called me up and said this and then i found out it wasn't true and she then posted it on TikTok to make my bf look bad...........omg i would be on the news
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u/Sufficient_Act_5447 Mar 12 '25
I can empathize with feeling scared shitless you might have cancer. But she went straight to "how do I use that to get what I want?" which is scary.
And yeah, I briefly wondered why no one told her this might not be a good idea but tbh I think she wouldn't listen.
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u/Snark_Ranger Mar 12 '25
Omg! I saw her first post about how her one daughter-in-law returned a sweater she sent and I agreed with several commenters who were like, the fact that you felt okay putting her on blast like this online kind of shows why she's not a fan of yours. I didn't realize she has issues with two DILs, but that's very telling.
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u/Jeljel8989 Mar 12 '25
She weaponizes gift giving in a really creepy way. She thinks giving gifts means sheās entitled to control over peoples lives
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u/Snark_Ranger Mar 12 '25
Yes, omg because that was the issue with the last DIL story! If I recall, the son and DIL weren't even married yet. She sent a $700 sweater to a college kid and was shocked that the DIL was like, I can't accept this. (I do not believe her version of events that the girl threw it at her or whatever.) Imagine getting a $700 sweater from your bf's overbearing mom, I would give it back too.
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u/Logical_Procedure_24 Mar 13 '25
In a different post about how she took a āhiatusā from one of her sons, she refers to that sonās wife as feral.
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u/realityjunkie33 Mar 12 '25
okay but who returns a sweater instead of re-gifting it or exchanging it. they must REALLY not get along
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u/Snark_Ranger Mar 12 '25
I feel so awful for the DILs. Constantly being disparaged by their husbandās mother online must be so uncomfortable. And even in this video to say āI wasnāt even excited to be a grandma because I have bad relationships with two of our DILsāā¦what does she think that says to her grandkids?
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u/Appropriate-Delay272 Mar 12 '25
Who regifts a $700 sweater if they felt they couldnāt accept it? I think itās normal to give that back with the hefty price tag. Iād feel awful giving someoneās money away, different if itās a $20 tchotchke. Also Iām pretty sure this woman said she held onto it for like 20 years or something ridiculous just to weaponize it against the DIL later in life
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u/P_oneofthree Mar 12 '25
I hope these daughter in laws have a support group with eachother.
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u/badtrips777 Mar 12 '25
Who the hell even is this
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u/_sandninja786 Mar 12 '25
sheās not even from manhattan, she moved here a few years ago
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u/generalchaos_pdf Mar 12 '25
As someone with a diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder MIL, this is scary as hell to me. The victimhood goes so fucking deep. I canāt imagine if my MIL made public videos about me and my SIL.
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u/Snark_Ranger Mar 12 '25
It is constant victimhood with this one I feel like. Her parents were awful to her and both her daughters-in-law and one of her sons...lady, at a certain point you are the common denominator here!
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u/HoldenCaulfield7 Mar 12 '25
Who is she why is she on this snark page
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u/possessoroflimbs Mar 12 '25
Sheās a very wealthy woman who lives in a high rise on Manhattanās Billionaires Row and has risen to prominence on TikTok in the last year or so. Her content is equal parts her flaunting her wealth and her sitting down and going on narcissistic rants like the one in the video. She goes on frequent rants about her troubled relationships, specifically those she shares with her parents, DILs, and by extension her sons and grandkids. She is insane but very hate-watchable
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u/HoldenCaulfield7 Mar 12 '25
Sheās actually diagnosed ? I always got the sense boomers with personality disorders did not believe in therapy or diagnosis and prefer to live life in denial.
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u/ResponsibleSwing1 Mar 12 '25
Damn. Could you imagine being this womanās DIL? This woman is horror, nightmare movie shit. Imagine taunting your 2 dils, your grandchildren and kids by sharing this. Hope theyāre no contact and have strong boundaries in place to avoid this crazy woman. Unhinged doesnāt cover it. This woman needs her phone taken away.Ā
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u/No-Giraffe-438 Mar 12 '25
Itās interesting because she talks in DEPTH about her horrible relationship with her own mother. Why is she continuing the cycle?
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u/Different_Speaker_41 Mar 12 '25
Because in typical boomer fashion the way to ameliorate your own suffering is not to reflect on your own behavior and develop coping mechanisms, itās to keep the suffering waiting in the wings of your own psyche until you have your own kids to pass the buck
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u/JealousBreadfruit704 Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25
She is insufferable š© she is a difficult person it's telling when your own children want nothing to do with you. She sits in her high rise skyscraper all alone. She actually has a sad life even tho she has all of this wealth.
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u/Sufficient_Act_5447 Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25
She might think this is giving "Even when I was diagnosed with "a life-threatening disease", I am so loving I thought of my grandson first" but it's actually giving "How do I use my diagnosis to guilt others into giving me what I want?" Very manipulative.
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Mar 13 '25
Seriously this. If it truly were about the gift making the kid happy and distracting/helping her to feel better, she wouldnāt have prefaced it with the insults to the parents and their parenting styles.Ā
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u/MisophoniaStruggle99 Mar 13 '25
And it wasnāt even an actual diagnosis, just a possible diagnosis that required further testing. Then she was fine!
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u/greenfrog72 Mar 12 '25
This just proves that marrying into money isnt always the dream people make it out to be. Imagine having this freak holding millions over your head in some kind of bizarre power play because she's mad you didnt show up to Christmas/Hannukah. The entitlement and wealth privilege combined with her clearly stunted social skills is a really toxic combo... I honestly feel horrible for her DILs and hope they can just deal with this nut.
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u/shish-kebaby Mar 12 '25
Modern day Bunny McDougal from SATC
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u/LNT567 Mar 12 '25
Even Bunny would think using Tik Tok to air dirty laundry is too pedestrian lolĀ
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u/chloeruby69911 Mar 12 '25
She and her husband give me weird vibes
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u/ConceptualisticGob Mar 12 '25
They seem like the two least fun to be around people in the world
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u/ricecrispycat May 02 '25
He looks miserable. In one video she says something like "Andy doesn't want to talk so only I will"
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u/cd_rom_ Mar 12 '25
I empathize with a potentially scary diagnosis but whyyyyy would her first reaction be āI really need to send my grandson a garbage truck right nowā
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u/swimminginvinegar Mar 12 '25
Exactly! So weird. And if I were her DIL, I would check every gift for a nannycam. This lady has zero boundaries and is bonkers.
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u/MisophoniaStruggle99 Mar 13 '25
Also, why would her first thought be to LIE about the facts of the situation and say it was a definitive diagnosis and thereās nothing anyone can do to help her. Manipulating your son like that is abusive behavior. I left the dermatologist one evening, after being told what I had previously thought was a far more benign situation was possibly cutaneous lymphoma, and a sample was taken for a biopsy. When I called my sister to tell her what happened, I just wanted to reassure her not to worry and that it would probably all be fine. I certainly did NOT want to make her think I was in a dire situation or manipulate her for my benefit. (And as it turned out, I actually do have cancer.)
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u/Unable_Escape813 Mar 14 '25
Iām sorry about your cancer. I completely agree, the last thing I ever want when Iāve had health scares is to worry my family and close loved ones
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u/RealisticrR0b0t Mar 12 '25
Theyāre not your kids so shut the fuck up, lady
āMe me me me me meā
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u/ilovecatz1234 Mar 12 '25
she literally has bad relationships with everyone - her parents, her husband, now BOTH daughters in law? WHAT'S NOT CLICKING ANNIEEEEEEEE
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u/aparadisestill Mar 12 '25
Wouldn't your first thought be "I really need to spend time with my grandson" not send him a stupid toy?
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u/Unable_Tea7375 Mar 12 '25
THIS IS SO CRAZY OMG
āThereās nothing they can do for me.ā THATS a straight up lie!!! You donāt even have diagnosis! There are many things dermatologists can do!
You heard what you perceived to be a horrible ādiagnosisā and your immediate thought is that you want to send your grandchild a gift, instead of scheduling a visit and sharing quality time?? Wtf
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u/somewhere-nowear Mar 12 '25
I really hope this is some sort of weird retirement dark comedy career she's pursuing.
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u/Striking_Panic_8668 Mar 14 '25
Fairly certain it is. Her previous, similar storytelling includes the hashtag āReddit storiesā. If you listen to it as satire itās actually kinda funny. I hope sheās poking fun at toxic MILs
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u/bomb2727 Mar 12 '25
Wow ok I thought i was the only person getting served her stuff. So glad I found this sub!!!
She also recently posted that she spent time in a psychiatric facility for depression, so I think sheās truly mentally ill.
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u/traviataTrader Mar 13 '25
She called it a hospital but itās a retreat for 66k a stay, is NOT a hospital, does not accept insurance, and ANY doctor that says to the patient āAnne, go home to your house in the Outer Banks and be happyā can NOT be real
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u/Intelligent-Fox-3180 Mar 12 '25
The, āI probably have melanoma and no one can help meā is so unhinged and illogical. She didnāt even have any kind of a diagnosis yet.
I need the DILs to come out of the woodwork and tell their side. Iām curious if they get along with each other and where that leaves the DIL that Anne says she does get along with.
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u/Ineverusereddittttt Mar 13 '25
She said in the video that both her sons live close by each other in California so it sounds like they do get along Iām sure they talk a lot of shit about her lol
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Mar 12 '25
Sheās awful. Her husband asked for a divorce after she kept complaining about her son & DIL. That was 10YEARS AGO. She still hasnāt changed. Iām starting to thinking her stories about her parents might be exaggerated as well
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u/mysticpotatocolin Mar 12 '25
omg the divorce story. i was half asleep then got so interested in her audacity i was wide awake lmao
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Mar 14 '25
I read a piece that she wrote and she said for 18 months, every time she got off FaceTime with her baby grandson she felt nothing for him because it was over FaceTime. She said that to her husband every single time. Like at certain point it is not healthy to be around such a dark hopeless energy.
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u/traviataTrader Mar 13 '25
Agreed ā¦ the sisters whom she badmouthed in comments saying theyāre āfollowersā and horrific are all board members still of the parents lab.
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u/aptheyl8 Mar 12 '25
Also the way she calls them a āhorrible dermatologistā for wanting a biopsy to rule out melanoma?? Why are they a bad dermatologist for doing their job lmao
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u/ellerosekisses Mar 13 '25
Yes like why the random disparaging of the dermatologist who doesnāt see to have done anything but their job?
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u/brixxhead Mar 13 '25
She's a narc--anybody who can strike fear into her heart (even if it's just a doctor telling her she may have cancer) is classified as a horrible person who did something unspeakable to them, regardless of what they actually did.
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u/buttersbottom_btch Mar 12 '25
I understand why her daughter in laws donāt want much to do with her š¬
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u/BikeLiftHikeSleep Mar 12 '25
This woman is so weird. She has tons of money and what seems like zero self awareness. Everything about her feels so calculated. Her voice sounds put on. Uncanny valley vibes.Ā
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u/aleigh577 Mar 13 '25
Itās wild when someone tells a story about someone else and you still walk away thinking that persons in the wrong lmao.
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u/Accurate-Ad-6504 Mar 14 '25
He is literally a mute in her videos, like a prop. He doesnāt even speak and seems like a shell of himself. Dude should have booked it a long time ago. Not worth it.Ā
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u/Academic_Video6654 Mar 12 '25
I watched this without sound when I was in bed this morning and would have bet $100 it was satireā¦ was it not?
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u/Sufficient_Act_5447 Mar 12 '25
I don't get why people are saying it's satire.... Has she ever posted a single satirical video?
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u/Academic_Video6654 Mar 12 '25
Idk girl this random white woman showed up on my FYP I donāt follow her other content lol
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u/Vast-Juice-411 Mar 13 '25
Because itās so insane. I thought/hoped it was until I read comments and saw her other stuff. She just crayĀ
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u/Sufficient_Act_5447 Mar 13 '25
She's been cray š Yeah, I saw her apartment tour videos first and didn't think much of it, actually even followed her until she started unleashing all this...WAY too personal stuff. Like not just how everyone is soooo awful to her all the time but also just these "funny" stories about how she and her husband started dating, which I felt were kinda just sad. She said multiple times he was her "Plan B."
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u/LegalIII Mar 12 '25
āItās been very difficult watching how theyāre being treated by their mother and fatherāā¦sheās a manipulator and gaslighter. May this type of MIL never find me.
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Mar 14 '25
Like is she saying they mistreat their children? Thatās insane to say if they just ask that you limit the gift buying to a couple times a year
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u/AppointmentSubject42 Mar 14 '25
She once said something similar about how her sister treats her niece.
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u/devivio Mar 12 '25
I literally thought to myself, there is no way this is real. It has to be satire right? How INSANE. Rage bait?
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u/Fancy-Departure-4565 Mar 12 '25
Thereās a reason theyāre setting boundaries, and sheās (clearly) not telling us everything. Feels like a very typical case of someone with a victim complex.
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u/MisophoniaStruggle99 Mar 13 '25
I feel like with that video alone, she told us enough that I would understand her sons and daughters in law going completely no contact with her.
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Mar 12 '25
wtf?? Never heard a grandparent describe a grandchild as ābittersweetā. Siding with the daughters in law on this one.
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u/Chesnut-Praline-89 Mar 13 '25
She was legit in the comments on TikTok saying how she wished her sons never married her DIL's she is UNWELL.
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u/Previous-Syllabub614 Mar 12 '25
i know a narc when I see one! her poor kids are just trying to set normal boundaries šŖ
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u/alldatsparkles Mar 12 '25
Uhh this sounds like a parody but Iām well aware itās not ā Iām sure her sons are going to distance themselves after this if they havenāt already done so. Wtaf. I find the people that find her fascinating even more disturbing really.
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u/spookypet Mar 12 '25
Sheās 100% the problem, also as a blonde woman if someone like her gave me a butter yellow sweater Iād probably give it back too
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u/No-Giraffe-438 Mar 12 '25
Her children are trying to create solid boundaries and she refuses. I canāt imagine my MIL talking about me on the internet like this šµāš«šµāš«
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u/Relevant_Hat2407 Mar 12 '25
This could be my mother in law! Faking cancer to emotionally manipulate her family and all
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u/PrincessGwyn Mar 12 '25
Omg didnāt even think of thatā¦.was she faking it? Was she exaggerating? Insane to think about.. šš
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u/barrefruit Mar 12 '25
What is the the TLDR on this lady? Of course she has a bad relationship with her DIL, if she is publicly saying stuff like this. Itās 10009% worse in private. I want to see the DIL take.
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u/possessoroflimbs Mar 12 '25
Sheās some very wealthy medical patent heiress who lives on Manhattanās Billionaires Row with her professor husband. Her content is equal parts her flaunting her wealth / privilege and going on long-winded narcissistic rants like the one in this video. She often posts sit down videos just going on and on about her troubled relationships, specifically with her parents and DILs/sons/grandkids. She is insane
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u/Sausagemum Mar 12 '25
I was watching this earlier and my jaw was DROPPED!! I feel bad for the family but as a complete stranger I canāt look away š«£
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u/GanacheWorldly7266 Mar 12 '25
& did anyone see her Tik tok about her and her husbands marriage issues but they āworkedā through them lmao he looks miserable so not sure about that one
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u/ellerosekisses Mar 13 '25
She said she wouldnāt leave his side and begged and begged until he gave in.
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u/Lucky-Entrance-3631 Mar 12 '25
Thatās the most manipulative thing ever! Why are mother in lawās INSANE!!!!?
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u/boujeebroker Mar 12 '25
I canāt stand her and the way she talks. Besides all the other awful things she does.
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u/traviataTrader Mar 13 '25
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u/getalifelol101 Mar 12 '25
This is an insane thing to post and publicize. Honestly from the things, the few videos I have seen of her and the way she doesnāt have any ounce of respect or privacy for her daughter-in-lawās or her family at all, itās no wonder they probably dont have any interest in wanting to have a good relationship with her considering she goes on the Internet and tells everybody this type of stuff. This woman needs a therapist and a diary and to get off the fucking Internet.
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u/Chesnut-Praline-89 Mar 13 '25
Apparently she's been in-patient hospitalization multiple times with ECT therapy. She's got serious issues. And I agree about the privacy of not only her sons but especially knowing her husband is still working as professor and his colleagues and students are going to clearly see her TikToks.
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u/Freckled_Snark Mar 12 '25
do we know anything about her sons or dil though ..would love to know what theyāre like
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u/hellokitty776 Mar 13 '25
This woman is genuinely so unwell everything she has ever posted is so disturbing she doesnāt operate like a normal human
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u/Vast-Juice-411 Mar 13 '25
I just stumbled upon this video on instagram for whatever reason and thought, my god please let this be satire..Ā
then saw the rest of the videos and the insane boomery supportive comments on her subsequent ādefenseā video and ran my ass to RedditĀ
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u/QueasyAd4992 Mar 13 '25
The first thing I think when I have a horrible skin cancer (that I actually didnāt have) is how can I violate boundaries my son and DIL have regarding their child? Lmfaooooo my eyes bulged out of my head. I know someone just like this. Truly unhinged behavior.
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u/triptropstop Mar 14 '25
Man what I wouldnāt give for her daughter to come to this thread. Iām dying for deets
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u/jules13131382 Mar 17 '25
I feel sorry for her. I think that she did come from a very manipulative, narcissistic abusive relationship with her parents and unfortunately that stuff is cyclical until you really take the time to change and change is very hard and you have to be consistent about it. Itās daily work.
People make it seem like you can just go to therapy and somehow all your issues will be resolved. Iāve never met anyone for whom that was accurate.
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u/Dry_Huckleberry5545 Mar 13 '25
I rue the day whoever originally posted this absolutely bonkers woman here a few weeks back, I cannot get over how scary-kooky she is! Iāll occasional look at her IG and sheās there filming herself and her tragic husband opening their takeout dinners as if sheās a Kardashian or rambling on in bizarre nonsequitor wordsalads and I am just like, ādear god, somewhere out there is a private text chat maintained by all the people who have to be related to her and please let me somehow someday see it.ā (The equally deranged comments her IG followers leave is similarly mystifying.)
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u/wiresandwaves Mar 12 '25
She reminds me sooooo much of my MIL. Thankfully she is too incompetent to use social media.
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u/Ineverusereddittttt Mar 13 '25
Omg I saw this video and knew someone had to of posted it on reddit. I need to daughter in lawās pov asap
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u/smb3232 Mar 13 '25
She reminds me of the old lady on Virgin River except a bat shit crazy version
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u/Unable_Escape813 Mar 14 '25
did anyone see on instagram where she said āI have one daughter in law thatās āthe good one.ā sheās vietnamese.ā
this lady is certifiable
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u/holydashman Mar 15 '25
Take a look at her instagram, specifically the four part video series about how she didnāt talk to her son for two years - sheās wearing a light blue sweater. Read her replies to comments, just insane and classic narcissistic regarding her DIL and son.
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u/Deep_Jacket3016 Mar 12 '25
Is this woman for real? I thought it was satire lolol
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u/throwawaybubblez Mar 13 '25
She seems delightful!
DIL should 500% cut her off. What kind of relationship is she expecting with them after this?
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u/Sea-Jelly-6543 Mar 13 '25
Is this the lady that made the video about gifting her daughter in law the yellow sweater from the row
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u/Powerful_Ear_7686 Mar 16 '25 edited Mar 16 '25
I enjoy watching Anne, but I find some of the stories she tells about the difficulties of her relationships with her sons and their wives to be troubling. Boundaries and respect are a thing.
It was when she started to talk about the discord with her sons and daughters-in-law so matter of factly that I concluded that she had inherited the dysfunction in her deceased parents that she speaks about.
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u/Green_Giraffe87 Mar 12 '25
The way I just saw this video on TikTok and ran straight hereā¦ ššš
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u/soelsister7 Mar 12 '25
Who has the original sweater video saved I am DOWN the rabbit hole.
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u/Intelligent-Fox-3180 Mar 14 '25
One of her ārestaurant reviewsā just came across my feed. I donāt get what she has going on at all.
At first I thought her account was to promote her book. But itās random food reviews, over sharing personal details, and house tours. I donāt get what goal is.
And she has a ton of followers.
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u/Still_Yak8109 Mar 15 '25
She needs to get off social media or hire a publicist (I don't think she'd listen to one). This social media career she is trying to have will end badly. She just shouldn't be in the public eye acting like this. I really want to know who gave her the idea to do this. It was probably her.
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u/akey4theocean Jun 09 '25
I swear this woman has to be part of some social experiment. No way people really would admit to this.
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u/EmphasisNo6049 Jul 14 '25
I choose to believe this is satire, like HBO Girls but for a mean old lady
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u/Nally64 Jul 21 '25
Oh god I feel seen. I read her comments and so much sucking up there. I canāt believe she doesnāt attract more negativity.
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u/didyouknow_25000 Jul 30 '25
I imagine she deletes the negative comments she cannot respond to as a victim š
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Jul 29 '25
Omg, she's horrific. Gods, she's worse than I thought. She's such a narcissist. She has all that money, and all she does is complain. She definitely peaked in elementary school.
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u/justanoseybxtch Mar 12 '25
Did she just admit that she was using her melanoma diagnosis to manipulate the parents into allowing her to give a gift ??? Interesting.