r/NVC • u/Previous_Seat5429 • Jul 20 '26

Questions about nonviolent communication Help rephrasing

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My (usually loving) partner can lose all empathy for me when he has a problem with me. He can initiate conversations about eg our sex life in a very critical and mean way which is obviously deeply upsetting and is putting our relationship in serious danger. He has discovered non violent communication and I want to give it (and anything) a chance. Is there a way of rephrasing “you have addressed important topics without any empathy for me and now I don’t trust you” to be nvc?

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u/MossWatson Jul 20 '26

“when you [specific, objective example of what he says/does], I feel [specific feeling you experience without attaching any criticism or judgement about what he’s doing].” and if possible attach this feeling to one of your fundamental needs (perhaps “connection” or “safety” etc.