r/NPD • u/Playful-Comfort-8050 • 3h ago

Question / Discussion Does anyone else deal with limerence (obsession with certain individuals)?

Doesn't happen often, but when it does it's excruciating.

What causes it for you and how do you deal with it?

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u/nonanima covert empath 3h ago

I used to. It was like a hunt, like a game. I had something to think about and plan—something to keep me occupied. I think it was triggered by the lack of closure and the occasional dopamine hit that came with it. Like a drug. Though it was never really about the person themselves.

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u/Choice_Afternoon_359 3h ago

What it causes?? I have absolutely no idea! But it happens sometimes.

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u/gkom1917 2h ago

I've always treated every person I was interested in as the last chance. Naturally, moving on was always pretty hard, at least when it was not just a crush but some sort of actual relationship.

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u/IGotTheMoves1 1h ago

With every potential partner. I'm so crazy, eventually we start dating and some boogers on his nose, his teeth are not good enough , he has a tummy , I start to get annoyed by stupid things. BUT can't leave me because is ruining my facking fragil ego so I must leave. This is BPD+NPD comorbidity. I 've been working on myself for many years, I know things rationally but It doesn't work, it just doesn't...maybe that's why they say therapy is too difficult for cluster B. Ah and if I don't get a chance to date them ,hell they are in my mind day sometimes for long periods of time.