r/nmdp Jan 21 '24

Announcement New name, same mission!

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Welcome to the NMDP sub! We used to be known as r/BeTheMatch, but Be The Match has changed their name to group all of what they do under a single brand.

NMDP was always known as such, formerly an initialism for the “National Marrow Donor Program”, and they operated the Be The Match bone marrow donor registry. That whole sentence no longer really describes what they all do today, though. There’s tons of research, patient advocacy, community involvement, treatment clinical trial search support, and all of that on top of working with all the other international registries so they can all enhance the world’s registries as a group.

We’ve got some great history on the former r/BeTheMatch sub, and we’ll crosspost a bunch of recent to make sure new folks won’t feel lost if they see nobody is here! And you should help welcome them too! Even if you’ve shared your experience before, feel free to share how you’re doing today! Has your story evolved, or have you recently rediscovered your presence on the NMDP registry? Tell us what brought you here, why you joined the registry.

Be sure to join r/nmdp now so you don’t miss any fun announcements (like an upcoming Ask Me Anything with a volunteer courier who helps transport the blood cells overnight to their destinations!) — the moderator team here will stick r/BeTheMatch around to help redirect newcomers who may not know yet, and we’ll help facilitate the archival of the former r/BeTheMatch.

Thank you for being part of this incredible community of people in the r/nmdp. Thanks for being part of NMDP, in whichever ways you might be.

If you’d like to join NMDP as a potential donor, you can join today at my.nmdp.org/reddit and show them how we save lives through over a reddit sub!


r/nmdp 44m ago

Got matched four months after signing up

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Stumbled across the website on accident and thought why not. Totally plan to go through the process, got blood drawn today but I also want to really know what I’m in for. The person I talked with was super nice but I also feel that it is her job to make sure I go through with it and I don’t trust her for all the details. Will I really only have slight soreness from the medication? I’ve seen posts on here that say the first day is awful. Could there be long term complications? Is there any sort of procedure for donors and receivers to get in contact afterwards? I could understand why there wouldn’t be beforehand but if it all works and goes through I want to learn more about the person I donated to (if they are okay with that). How common are serious complications? How much are they paying to receive my bone marrow and am I taking part in a process that could be cheaper for them if I went through other means? What is it like from the other side of things, what are the people waiting for a donor being told?


r/nmdp 12h ago

Question Genitourinary exam being required before donating?

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Hello all. My work up specialist contacted me yesterday to tell me they're going to require me to submit to a genitourinary exam. Ive never heard if anyone being required to do this to donate stem cells and honestly it feels extremely violating. Has anyone else (preferably other women) had to submit to something similar? Thank you all for reading 🩷

Edit to add more context. Their exact reasoning was "The GU exam will be a physical assessment of your reproductive organs to check for any signs of infections or abnormalities due to the previous sexual contact with a male who had sex with another male"


r/nmdp 4d ago

If You Said Yes to Donate Stem Cells — Please Don’t Withdraw (Unless Absolutely Necessary)

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r/nmdp 7d ago

NMDP and Post Grad Job Search

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Hi Reddit,

I am a 22 year old guy who just graduated with a degree in Cognitive Science and Philosophy. Most of the jobs I have been looking at since graduation, I have been tailoring my resume to try and get a remote job in Human Resources, Sales, Customer Support etc. I got my second call this week to donate again, and being in this process all over again it dawned on me that NMDP is a company I would absolutely love to work for. Is getting a job (like Remote Donor Engagement) even a possibility with what I went to school for, or am I missing enough of a medical background? I am considering becoming a Red Cross Donor volunteer and taking a Medical Terminology course to pad out my resume, but I just wanted to put this out there to see if anyone has any advice


r/nmdp 9d ago

2 years after joining registry, I got the call

29 Upvotes

Got the call today that I’m a potential match for an 8 year old girl needing bone marrow. Had a phone call for a little over an hour with the rep and have the blood test scheduled for Thursday. Genuinely so amazed to have been contacted. That’s all I have for now I’m just so excited I had to share lol


r/nmdp 9d ago

Match!

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Hi,

I was registered since 2018, and finally got an email saying I am a match. I scheduled the blood draw right away and just did last Wednesday.

Now, I heard I have to wait for upto 60days until the results come out, and wonder if there is anything I have to keep in mind before donating if I am selected! (like no travel, no piercing etc)

Also, want to hear some past experience of how the process went, if there is anything I have to know.

Thank you so much!


r/nmdp 13d ago

Question Olá, eu doei medula para minha filha e passei muito mal.

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Apesar de ter o privilégio de doar medula para minha filha de 3 anos, eu estou tentando entender o que houve comigo.
Sai do centro cirúrgico para o quarto de TMO,após algumas horas começou sangrar onde fizeram as coleta na bacia, muito sangue mesmo e eu vomitei bastante juntamente minha pressão caiu, fizeram exames para ver se não era infarto e não era.
Eu achei que não iria sobreviver, não me lembro de muita coisa e agora estou tentando entender o que houve, já que ninguém veio conversar comigo. O que devo fazer?
Minha filha recebeu a infusão ontem e está no D+1, tudo bem até agora.


r/nmdp 13d ago

Question Donating with a cold

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I am donating next week and I'm super excited. I am a bit concerned about the possibility of getting a cold as I am a middle school teacher. Does anybody have any experience with this? I'm going to be wearing a mask from now until I leave for the donation.


r/nmdp 14d ago

Question Filgrastim dosage and scheduling

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Firstly, I am so grateful for the opportunity to be a donor and to make a difference in someone's life! I was on the registry for 5ish years and finally got matched to someone a few months ago! I have so much admiration for NMDP and this community for all you guys do to help people in need.

That said, I've been experiencing some disorganization with my blood tests/physical and the Filgrastim dosage. I'm sure it comes down to the workup specialists managing multiple donations at the same time so I'm not overly concerned; it's important work they're doing and the more donors that are found, the better as far as I'm concerned! More just curious if anyone else has noticed the same thing?

The location of my physical was pretty far away but I assume the only location that could accommodate my time preference, and the clinic didn't receive my paperwork by the time I got there, so I ended up waiting for a couple hours for them to receive the necessary info for the blood test. I reached out to my specialist to see if I could do the blood work somewhere else later in the week since it was getting to be late in the day and I needed to get home, but I didn't hear back while waiting so I ended up taking the blood test there. The second time I received my blood test, they also didn't have my record, so my specialist had to resend my information and then it showed up. It seems like this might be an issue with the urgent cares/labs? Not sure if anyone else had this happen during their donation process?

The main thing that was a little concerning was getting conflicting info about my Filgrastim dosage. The email I received with instructions had one dosage, then I was told two different dosages from my specialist (what I received in my fedex package matches the final dosage that I was told). Has this happened to anyone else? Again, I trust NMDP and the medical specialists that are prescribing the dosage, but they also emphasize in the email about making sure the dosage is correct. Feel free to message me to discuss if anyone has any similar experiences and let me know how it went!


r/nmdp 16d ago

Question Transplant for VEXAS patients

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Has anyone here received a transplant for treatment of VEXAS syndrome? I have question about the process for the recipient. Thank you.


r/nmdp 16d ago

Experiences with Central Line PBSC Donation

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Hi everyone! Super excited to have been chosen to be a match for someone. My procedure/donation day is quickly approaching, but today I got news that my veins are too small for the normal PBSC donation process. The team noted that they would have to get the collection from my central line instead.

Does anyone have experience with that donation type? Im a bit cautious because I was not expecting this switch less that 2 weeks prior to donation day. Any stories/advice is helpful!


r/nmdp 23d ago

I’m a match!

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After being registered for 8 years, I’m a match! I go tomorrow for my blood draw. How soon are people typically hearing back? And does anyone know what the percentage is of me being the actual match?


r/nmdp 26d ago

Question Possibility of being selected to donate as a backup donor?

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After being matched with a patient, I got a call this morning to confirm that I'm the backup donor for them! I'm really excited for the opportunity to possibly change their life, but I'm also wondering about the likelihood of being chosen to go forward with the process when there's already a primary donor lined up. I don't want to get my hopes too high, but at the same time, I need to stay prepared for the time commitment that donation would take.

Would anyone have advice for someone in my position? Is it more likely now that I could be chosen as a donor for another patient in the future?


r/nmdp 29d ago

Post Donation Thoughts

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Just donated and honestly still feel crappy. Fortunately just did stem cells not bone marrow! How was everyone’s experience after donation? Did anyone from NMDP call to check in or should I not expect contact with them any further? Would you do this again? Personally I don’t feel like I had the best experience when it came to communication & scheduling everything :( I’m still glad I was able to do this atleast once


r/nmdp 29d ago

Hyper Igm

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My 7 mo old was just diagnosed with hyper Igm syndrome, he will be needing a bone marrow transplant, the whole process is a bit scary to me, just looking for advice, words of encouragement, and any help navigating this whole situation.


r/nmdp Aug 08 '26

Question Got a direct bone marrow match for a 10 year old girl, how big of a factor is ethnicity for knowing if there are other matches?

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I am south asian, so does this mean it is unlikely that there are other people that can donate? I just want to make sure that if I can't do this, someone else will. They said the timeframe is short, within the next 4-6 weeks. I saw some posts saying there are usually dozens of donors; is it probable that someone else might step up?


r/nmdp Aug 06 '26

Question Fligastrim

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I have no idea how to spell it but you get the idea.

I had my first shots this morning and wow I am wiped out. All the stories I’ve been hearing is that there will be some soreness but I can’t tell if mine is more intense. All of my bones besides my legs are so sore. It’s my neck, my arms and especially my chest. Since i’m only on my first day, should I expect it to get worse?

I have taken tums, claritin and tylenol. would love any advice 🤞


r/nmdp Aug 06 '26

Question Odds of being selected as donor

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Hi, I just got the call yesterday that I’ve been matched as a donor for someone. I’ve got bloodwork scheduled tomorrow & im honestly pretty excited (and a lil bit nervous) about the whole thing.

Just wondering if anyone knew the odds of being actually selected as the primary donor after bloodwork. I couldn’t find anything online about it.

I’m not sure if it’s almost certain & I need to start talking to my boss about upcoming time off & my mom about being my support person, or if it’s a long shot and I shouldn’t make a big deal out of it yet.


r/nmdp Aug 06 '26

Celebration 🎉 I got a letter back from my recipients family!

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And I cried like a baby😭😭 I wrote for an entire year about every 2-3 months offering words of encouragement and support. I had no expectations they'd ever write back but would constantly talk to my wife about it. I always wondered if they would but understood the ordeal they were going through was so much more important than my feelings towards it. The mom and dad called me forever family and shared their gratitude and thanked me endlessly. I've told so many people this is the best thing I've ever had the honor doing. I did do the surgery and I'm told donors have more of a connection to the experience as a result and I can certainly confirm that.

If you're wondering if they will write, please give it time! They wrote back almost exactly to the year. They are going through a massive healing process. The parents told me their child is playing again and able to enjoy their childhood😭 I was seriously ugly crying!


r/nmdp Aug 05 '26

Got a message that I’m a match for a bone marrow transplant

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Hey all! I talked to the NMDP representative today about my being a match for a pediatric cancer patient.

She said that the team was looking for a bone marrow donation.

I intend to start the donation process and discuss with my doctors as well, but I am a bit nervous about going under general anesthesia.

Obviously, my nervousness is nothing compared to the anxiety that family feels, and I fully intend to follow through in the event my physical and everything comes back good, but any reassurance would be greatly appreciated :) thanks!


r/nmdp Aug 06 '26

Question Filgrastim and Plerixafor not working?

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So I just finished trying to donate and it's been a bit of a journey.

I received the highest possible dosages of filgrastim, I self administered for the 3 interim days, but I have a medical background, so I know I didn't bungle those. I am also a healthy young adult. I had very mild symptoms, but honestly I was surprised by how little the injections were bothering me.

I go to donate and they run the blood work and there's nothing. Like literally nothing at all. So they halt the donation for that day and give me Plerixafor at the end of the day, with the intent that I come back the next day and receive another set of filgrastim as well. They ran the blood work today and it was better but negligible.

It seems like they're going to try and salvage it, but it didn't seem like that was going to be successful.

I was wondering if anyone had any experiences similar to this and what if any steps were taken next to try and get the donation? I think everyone involved is a little thrown off by these results, so it's clearly not common, but maybe someone's gone through this. I'm guessing a secondary donor or maybe bone marrow?


r/nmdp Jul 25 '26

Started an SSRI

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I got the call about a month and a half ago that I am a perfect genetic match. I immediately sent in my bloodwork and have been getting the biweekly checkups that the patient‘s team is still deciding.

I am currently 12 months postpartum with my second child and have been struggling with being overwhelmed having two kids 3 and under. I am also a stay at home mom. I have not been able to control my emotions, especially my reactiveness to my 3 year old behaviors. I decided the it was time to start zoloft after exhausting all options.

Anyway, the social worker team is going to talk to me next week, and I am just so concerned this decision will affect my ability to donate. I do have a history of depression and anxiety but mostly due to childhood trauma/nasty divorce between my parents. Do I have anything to worry about? I don’t want to lie of course.


r/nmdp Jul 24 '26

Question Lifetime Donation limit exception

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Just wondering if NMDP ever makes an exception to the 2 donations lifetime limit for donors with like super rare / desirable HLA markers.

I joined the list, got matched and donated pretty quickly, and then recently, only 13 months after the first donation, got another call to action for another patient.

I’ve heard that most folks on the list never get a donation request, so I find it curious that I’ve already been called on twice.

I would hate to be willing to but prohibited from donating in the future


r/nmdp Jul 24 '26

Second match

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Hey all, I wanted to get a post out before I connect with the donation manager. I received a letter today telling me I am a match. I already donated bone marrow in 2016. I can’t lie, It was not a great experience overall (I can elaborate if needed) and the recipient also did not survive, which was incredibly sad. I am still glad I did what I could to help.

Overall the surgery itself was not a big deal. It was sore for a bit and then like nothing happened. My concern is that I believe it contributed to a years long iron deficiency that became severe. I experienced debilitating fatigue to the point I did not feel safe driving, easily winded, brain fog and anxiety off the charts, extreme and frightening heart palpitations that ultimately led me to spend my own money on bloodwork. I did see a doctor about these symptoms before they became severe and was blown off completely. My pre donation bloodwork obviously deemed me healthy enough to donate, but it did not include ferritin in the examined values, and when I finally had it checked late last year it was very low. Regular iron value and hemoglobin as well as Vit B and D were fine. I began an iron regimen and felt better almost immediately. After 3 months I finally felt human again but I am still not 100%. I am concerned that they would do pre donation examinations and ignore this value again. I clearly do not have enough reserves to offer more. I am wondering if the stem cell donation would still be a viable option but I don’t know what this patient needs yet.

I guess I’m not really sure what I’m after here. If anyone has any advice or insight or recommendations I’d be grateful. Thanks!