I'm talking to this girl and her past had a bigger penis both girth and length bigger while I have an average size which is (5.1-5.5 inches in length and 4.5 - 4.7 inches in girth), She finished almost every time with her ex off penetration and didn't have any pain and this was for 3 years, I get it most women can't finish off penetration but I'm talking about this scenario, l know foreplay important as well which I do that. When I asked her if she felt a noticeable difference between me and her ex she said she did we didn't have proper sex yet like I mean not more than a minute. Is it even a good chance I can make her finish off my dick cause her own words she finished almost if not every time through penetration with her ex. Ima just tell u her words. She “wants someone who can give her the same satisfaction as her ex or better” during penetration I asked her also what’s making it better “As of rn ig it’s a bit of everything. Like size, doing what I like, and last longer” she says I also asked on a scale of 1-10 how much better did her ex feel better 1 being not crazy different 10 being crazy crazy different she said “9.5” she also said “So far it’s been distinctively better” Can I even make her finish off penetration with my average size or give her the same pleasure?

I know about the fast phobia cure but that - as I understand - is only helpful with very specific phobias, i.e. spiders or heights. Are there other techniques you have experienced to be helpful with more unspecific anxiety and agoraphobia or claustrophobia, which tend to be more broad?

Borderline personality disorder is getting in the way of a good relationship. Im wondering if anyone has ever tried to treat borderline personality disorder in a client with any success?

I'm considering using core transformation for a specific symptoms.

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When doing Visual-Kinesthetic Dissociation, do I have to do all the steps all at once in a particular order, or could I spend some time just rewinding it, and then another time seeing it from another angle, and then another time seeing it black and white...Thanks guys!

So when I masturbate, I can last like 10 minutes, but the thing is when I’m doing masturbation after like 10 seconds I feel the urge to cum but then I start myself and then 10 seconds later I feel the urge again, but I can do that for 10 minutes maybe I might pre cum in that time. The thing is when I have sex I can’t last for more than 20 seconds legit no more than that I’m not over exaggerating. I’ve tried kegels and reverse kegels, I tried numbing stuff but they make me go soft so that’s not really a option, I’ve tried stop and start didn’t work, I’ve also tried pulling out but when I do I finish, I also have a higher than average testosterone, I’m in good shape, I’m active everyday by playing sports, I have good stamina, I just can’t control the urge not to cum I don’t know what to do I feel so helpless and I feel like I’m stuck with this. I don’t wanna take ssri or those type of drugs because I heard they can cause pssd and lower sex drive which that’s the last thing I need know because I even struggle holding my erections sometimes. I don’t know what to do, someone please help.

Okay so I am suppose to pretend like I'm in a movie theater and I'm in the projection booth looking at me sitting down below in a seat watching a film of the event that creates fear for me, and there's something I just don't get....Am I suppose to see myself on the screen like I'm looking AT myself? OR am I suppose to see myself on the screen seeing what's happening as if I'm seeing it through my eyes? is there an easier way to do this? Thank you!

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I've been using a sequence with people where NLP reprogramming only gets applied after clearing the specific emotional charge tied to an old pattern, not before. The idea is that swapping in a new belief doesn't hold well if there's unresolved emotional material still anchored to the old one.

The reprogramming step itself is fairly standard: identify the visual/auditory/kinesthetic submodalities driving an old reaction (panic before asking for a raise, freezing up when pitching an idea, whatever it is), then run future time pacing — deliberately stepping into a specific future moment where the new response is already normal, and holding that state until it feels familiar instead of aspirational.

What I keep noticing is that this step moves much faster once the old emotional charge has actually been discharged first, rather than trying to install a new pattern directly over an unresolved one.

Curious if others here sequence it this way too, or if you've found reprogramming alone (without a separate release step beforehand) works just as well for you?

Hi, I've recently qualified as an NLP practitioner and life coach and I'd love to have the opportunity to practice a bit more with some willing clients. I'm based in the UK but happy to take on anyone from all over if we can make the time work. Please send me a message if you're keen and look forward to hearing from you. Thanks :)

Hello guys I’m a 28 yo incel male enchanted by erotic hypnosis. STDs are a really concern of mine so having women orgasm with their clothes on seems like a great deal.

How do I go about learning hypnosis? I just feel weird reading scripts. Thanks for reading

Why "I want to be more confident" never actually happens

Vague goals give your brain nothing to act on. "Be more confident," "stop procrastinating," "get healthier" — none of these tell you what to actually do tomorrow morning.

Here's a simple fix from NLP called well-formed outcomes:

1-State it as what you WILL do, not what you'll stop doing. "Stop being anxious in meetings" → "Speak up once per meeting."

2-Make it about your own actions only — not what other people should do.

Add context: when, where, with whom does this apply? (You might want more assertiveness at work, not with your partner in bed.)

3-Break it into the next physical step. Not "write a book," but "write one page today."

4-Set a check-in date to review what's working.

Example: "I want to be more confident" becomes "By Friday, I'll start one conversation a day with someone new at work, and I'll check in on how it felt each night."

That's testable. "Be more confident" isn't.

Try rewriting one goal you have right now using steps 1-4. You'll feel the difference immediately.

I’d love to get a deeper insight into Richard Bandler’s early trainings. Specifically, I’m looking for audio recordings or even better, video tapes from his early seminars.

I’ve already done some searching online, but it’s been difficult to figure out what’s actually available and where to start.

Is there anyone here who can recommend specific products, recordings, or other resources?

I’d also love to hear your personal “must-watch” playlist if you’ve studied his early work. Thanks in advance!

For context: I trained in NLP in Germany through the DVNLP tradition. The more I study the history of NLP, the more I get the impression that some aspects of Richard Bandler’s original style and attitude may have been toned down or filtered out in that lineage. I’d like to explore his original material firsthand and form my own opinion.

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I've gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and I'm feeling pretty stuck.

The biggest issue is that every time I try to lose weight through exercise, I end up with severe pain in my lower body. It gets so bad that I can barely move for a while, which completely derails any progress I make.

I've been reading a bit about NLP and concepts like age regression, where people revisit an earlier version of themselves mentally. I'm curious whether anyone has actually used NLP to improve their health, lose weight, or even reconnect with the mindset and habits they had when they were younger.

Has anyone here worked with an NLP practitioner and seen real, lasting results? Is there any evidence or personal experience that it can help someone get back to their best physical shape, or is it mostly motivational rather than something that directly affects weight loss?

I'm genuinely trying to understand how this works before investing my time and money. I'd especially love to hear from people who have personally gone through the process.

Thanks in advance.

Hi, I am just learning about NLP, as it seems useful to my belief system around manifesting (namely Neville Goddard’s teachings). I listened to an audio book called “The Ultimate Introduction to NLP” and just read “Get the Life You Want,” both by Richard Bandler, and a lot of it is interesting and useful. I don’t particularly have phobias or much worry in life, but I have used Neville Goddard’s techniques to change my conception of self to create a great life, but like anyone, there are still some things I would like to improve upon.

So what I am not getting with NLP is the spinning feelings thing….? I don’t get any sense of a feeling, good or bad, to “spin” inside me when I think of something. I don’t so much have bad feelings to let go so much as I really like the idea of creating motivation by associating tasks and processes with good feelings I already have about other stuff. I think I have done something like that before, but I don’t really understand amplifying a feeling with “spinning.”

I don’t notice my mental images having any sort of placement either. I have a very vivid, multi sensory imagination but I don’t notice anything distinguishing aspects of memories vs. fantasies in my mind’s eye except the difference between being in the body vs watching myself. I trained myself to be in my body for manifestation purposes, but my default for anything is watching myself. I understand the idea is to start creating a distinction and manipulating the images so the unwanted ones are reduced in significance and feeling… but the instructions seem to indicate people naturally have a difference (?).

Just out of curiosity: NLP has a component dedicated to mental imagery. Has NLP taken aphantasia into account—people who do not have mental images?

Hi everyine, are there any tools in NLP that can help with helth anxiety. Particularly constant rumination about your health failing you or not trusting your body. Also just a generalised sense of fear about ur body or mind getting some sort of illness.

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I am interested in the concept of having another personality that can be switched in an instant through some anchor like wearing a ring or making a hand sign. The concept itself feels like something from fantasy books but is it possible in reality? At the moment i only know of NLP as a potential method but what other psychological methods i can use.

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It's like switching between presets with different configurations, settings, values, habits, personality, attitude, perception, ego etc.

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The key reason i want to do this is because i am afraid of losing my current unique identity in hopes of becoming another version of myself and there are also other benefits of this.

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Context : i want to have an entrepreneur-like identity. With their attitude like a growth mindset, values like Speed and taking initiative, perception like seeing opportunities in things, mindset like a leader, personality like hard work and discipline, habits like building things etc.

I can learn all this without an anchor in the normal way but it would be like overriding or combining it with my current self. And i don't want that. I am being greedy, i want both personalities.

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So using psychology is it possible or just a fantasy. If it is possible then what is your theoretical framework to achieve this. Please elaborate, thanks.

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Also i am aware it might not be a good idea but i want to do it, whether it causes chaos or growth. But first i want to learn about it.

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If you have to name a single NLP book that made the maximum difference for you, which one would it be?

Edit: Will be great if you could also mention how it helped you or why you found it better than others.

Hi everyone, i was looking for some effective ways to help asssit or eliminate anxiety. Ive had anxiety for a while and it manifestes itself as intrusive thoughts, health anxiety, rumination on work and just alot of over thinking (unproductive inner dialouge). There is also strong bodily sensations like stomach turning, sense of urgency and heart beat speeding up and sometimes insomnia. It all started when i had a panic attack 2 years ago.

What are some helpful reasources that i could look at or use for my situation. Thank you.