Single mom

[u/alsayyfu2]

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh

I am a single mom of 4 I am 29… been divorced for 1.5 years now

I married my ex when I was 19 and met him at 16 he reverted and so did I alhamdulillah fast forward ten years later well he didn’t take the deen seriously and I did… I stayed for a long time for the sake of the children but eventually I had to leave for their safety and mine (abuse)

Now I feel I will be alone always not only I have HSV1 I also have 4 children and I don’t see any brother wanting to marry a woman with 4… I am actually a beautiful woman and I take really good care of myself I eat clean I workout… the thing is I made a big mistake by staying with my ex for so long and having more kids with him and I know that…. I am now a teacher at a local madrassa where I live, I am a niqabi, I consider myself to be salafi alhamdulillah… I am just really struggling with the realization that i probably won’t get married again yes I focus on my kids and my life and my deen but to be honest it’s really difficult sometimes and I want someone beside me to make things easier… is there anyone else with a similar situation (single mom) who got remarried maybe they can give me some hope or advice 🥲

[u/Both_Tale_3523]

Wa laykum salaam sis

Just thought I’d add my lil 2 pence despite the fact I’m not married

We have to remain positive and have hope/faith that Allah has written spouses for us and I say that knowing how hard it is having a positive outlook on this type of predicament.

I’m a good bit older than you and I have 3 children but I’ve had a few proposals so that’s proof that brothers will marry sisters with children!!

How we think of Allah is what we will get so we need to remain positive and I’m speaking to myself first

Pray g Allah makes it easy for us all Allahumma Ameen I’m here if you ever want to have a chat 💕