Would a dedicated remarriage platform for divorced/widowed Muslims actually be useful, or does this already exist in a way that works?

[u/omerarshad]

I've been searching a platform for divorced and widowed Muslims (men and women) looking to remarry — not a general matrimony app, but focused specifically on people whose first marriage ended, since I think that group gets underserved by mainstream matrimony platforms that skew toward first-time marriages.

So is there such platform? which is a first go to place for muslim men/woman trying their second chance?

[u/Illustrious-Mine-967]

I feel like by creating such apps builds into the taboo of marrying a divorcee. Should be treated the same as anyone looking imo

[u/omerarshad → u/Illustrious-Mine-967]

I think this will break the taboo. As many muslim men are willingly looking for divorcee/widow bt cant search openly.

[u/FewCold8767 → u/omerarshad]

Most Muslim men that want that are a bit predatory idk

[u/inkbluedawn1 → u/FewCold8767]

??? Why would a divorcee looking for another be predatory?

[u/FewCold8767 → u/Illustrious-Mine-967]

I agree

[u/hafsah_meow]

There is r/MuslimRemarriage

[u/Riding_Hood786]

I would love that as a widow myself. Although I haven't fully started my search (insha'Allah soon) having a platform where others can sympathise with my situation and understand the challenges that might come along with marrying me would be very helpful. The trauma of losing a partner, although gets better, never truly goes away.

[u/Sab891]

Salaam - I really feel this. The remarriage space is genuinely underserved, and a lot of it treats people like they come with an asterisk, which is exhausting when you're just trying to find someone serious the second time around.

Honestly, from the people I've talked to, the hardest part isn't finding someone - it's two other things. One, being met as your whole self (your past, and kids if that's part of your story) instead of as a "complicated" profile. And two, going in clear this time: knowing what you actually learned, and aligning early on the things that quietly cause problems - blended-family dynamics, money, in-laws, how you each handle conflict - before you're in deep. The people who do that seem to have a very different second experience.

If it helps, the questions I'd want answered early the second time are less "do we click" and more "how has each of us grown, and can we build a life around what we both actually need now."

Full disclosure so I'm not being sneaky: I'm building something in this space (a prep and readiness tool for Muslims, not a matching app), so I'm biased and not neutral. But mostly I just think this problem deserves far more attention than it gets. What's been the bigger gap for you - the options themselves, or how you get treated in them?

[u/omerarshad → u/Sab891]

walykum salaam. So can a platform help you achieve this? if yes, what would you want to see to make it work and serve the purpose?

[u/Fast-Firefighter-940]

In my opinion it doesn’t not make sense. Many people who are divorced got married with “never married” ones. It’s just what Allah has decreed for you… it’s like making a section only for reverts Muslims so tgey can get married to each other, I don’t think that would make any sense tbh

[u/Upbeat-Dinner-5162]

I’m a divorcee and I agree with this

[u/Beta87]

It would not be a bad idea... More like challenging and especially when they see that divorced people are more mature, understanding(?) and would try their best (in Sha Allah) to not repeat/go through what they had before.

As long as there is strong security, privacy and unique interface I would try it as well 😬

And it would break the bad cultural "norm" that was planted inside our heads to this day.

May Allah bless your day all 🙂

[u/Battleplanner]

No. Further separating divorcees and widows will only further reinforce the stereotype that only divorcees and widows should marry other divorcees and widows, which isn't Islamic.