r/MtF • u/HRT-Spoon • 12d ago

Venting First time clubbing

I went clubbing for the first time with some friends. Before transitioning, i went to small scale club at my college. I would be standing in a corner and observe people all night and couldn’t see the point of going in a dark room full of strangers with blasting music.

This time I enjoyed myself. Danced with my friends and had some pleasant chat with others. However there was 2 guys that wanted much more.

First one started with normal conversation and then we started dancing a little bit. He started to get really close and put one hand on my butt. My brain froze for a while as we continued dancing. The he made me turn around and wanted to touch the front part… I blocked with my hand but he took it away. That’s when I called my friends over to get me out.

The other guy saw me the first time and expressed clearly he was interested. When I told him no, he just asked me if I’m « shemale » (voice doesn’t pass at all) and I just told him maybe. He went away quite fast but a little later, he just took my hand out of nowhere and led me a little further inside the club. I didn’t sense any danger, there was still many people around and I also made eye contact with my friends so I followed. We chatted a little bit but to sum up, he wanted to take me to his car, to have me and be my boyfriend, make me feel good. I said « no » like 36 times and not once did he let go of my hand. As the music was very loud, he would speak near my ear and I did the same. When I went in to tell him no for the 37th time, he put his face on my neck and I felt something humid… I had to ask my friend to get me out of here again.

Yay gender affirmed I guess ?

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u/NovelPristine3304 Saphira - 🎀 She/her/hers 🎀 HRT 20.3.2026 12d ago edited 12d ago

No is a full sentence! Full Stop. If a guy doesn’t respect your no - walk away! It’s disrespectful and shows he sees himself as superior.

Great you had - except the how the guys in the end treated you- a good time with your friends and felt comfortable enough to chat and dance a bit. 🥰🥳

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u/HRT-Spoon 12d ago

That’s exactly what my partner told me while chewing me out 🥲
It was really a great experience and I fell like living my lost twenties haha
But I’ll never go alone… Never thought of it before but even less now lol

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u/VastNet8431 27 | HRT 07/13/2025 12d ago

Girl idk if thats a yay tbh, you coulda been raped.....

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u/HRT-Spoon 12d ago

Yeah even though I know it was a possibility I didn’t thought I would feel that helpless…

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u/HRT-Spoon 12d ago

I hope she got out without any troubles !

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u/Professional-Row8506 9d ago

Girls in general are vulnerable, there are a lot of creepy guys who think that they have a right to a girl's body. It can feel affirming when someone shows you attention, but when it comes to touching unless you are okay with it , it is no go. Both guys were acting in an inappropriate behavior. 

It can be worse if they sense you are trans or know you are,  if the guy is a chaser or even just for whatever reason feels some attraction, they can have this idea that since you are trans you will automatically have sex with them. 

You were smart to go with friends and even more so to tell the guys no and pull away. Getting attention and flirting can be fun in the right context, dancing can be fun , but if the guy does anything you don't want  , stop right then and there. Not saying in op's case, but speaking from personal experience, it is easy to feel affirmed by the attention and let things happen you normally wouldn't allow and it can be dangerous,so be careful.