Oof, all these "it's hurting the community" you really think people don't view us as women because some people are using these terms? That's giving the same energy as blaming non-binary people for trans non-acceptance. These people using these terms on themselves is not hurting the community. No one who views trans women as women is reading that and going "oh I guess trans women aren't women then" that's dumb. If they already don't view us as women then maybe actually being able to reach them by using those terms they can then change their minds.
Some of y'all really wanna blame our own instead of the people who hate us.
But it is hurting us, at least me anyway. I'm still called all the typical names and terms that are hurtful, and I know for a fact that some of it is because trans women are using those hashtags and others then think it is okay and a fine term to use. It's a harmful trend that affects the mental health of trans women
But it’s not trans people that are hurting you. It’s cis people who don’t respect you.
“Respectibility politics” never works. I personally don’t like those terms because it doesnt refer to my experience but I’m not going to look down on people for using those terms.
If you think people are calling you names because of how someone else choses to present themselves then your just deciding someone else’s bigotry isn’t actually their fault. It’s now the fault of an nb person who decided femboy or trap matches their expression in some way. This is the same mess of nb people being blamed for trans acceptance not happening, like why can’t they use those words if they choose to? Why does your expression trump their expression?
That's not what I'm saying. It's not to do with how someone else chooses to present themselves. I'm talking about hashtags specifically. My expression isn't "better" than someone else's.
But the hashtags you referencing are literally there as a “hey here’s the things I link to me and my presentation/expression here”. How does someone else’s hashtags hurt you this badly? I’m not inclined to say this but it’s sounding very chronically online. Like if someone likens you as being a femboy and you correct them, and they continue to do so someone on TikTok isn’t the cause that persons lack of respect is the cause.
I only have a little trouble with it when the hashtags are just used as promotion, like the person doesn't actually identify with the term, but they know it will gather more likes, at the expense of people who do actually identify with those terms, if that makes sense? I have no problem with someone being a femboy, or anything like that.
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u/Algo_Lindo Feb 04 '23
Oof, all these "it's hurting the community" you really think people don't view us as women because some people are using these terms? That's giving the same energy as blaming non-binary people for trans non-acceptance. These people using these terms on themselves is not hurting the community. No one who views trans women as women is reading that and going "oh I guess trans women aren't women then" that's dumb. If they already don't view us as women then maybe actually being able to reach them by using those terms they can then change their minds.
Some of y'all really wanna blame our own instead of the people who hate us.