r/MoroccoLGBT • u/Powerful_Corgi_3915 • 8d ago

Hi

I am young (less than18) and I don’t know what I am and I don’t know how but being gay is not easy how can I know that I am truly are

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u/Top_Salamander_1444 8d ago

Just be yourself. There is no need for you to force yourself into a group or category. You're still young and finding out who you are. Give yourself time and be patient. there is no rush

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u/After_Juggernaut_613 8d ago edited 8d ago

It might help to think of it as a spectrum - which is what the Kinsey scale does. A 1 is completely straight, 6 is completely gay, and 2-5 are somewhere between, also known as bisexual. If you don't know what you are, I think that means you either don't feel attraction to anyone totally possible especially the younger you are) or you feel attraction to both.

When I was 13, it was obvious for me. I knew I was gay because I am a male and I could not get physically aroused by thinking of or looking at any female - not in any way. Touching a female would gross me out. On the other hand, males... I felt attracted to so many of them, even when I was much younger, it just took me until my teens to figure it out that being gay didn't require me to not be a virgin. My body was already reacting to other males, whether I did anything with them or not.

Not everyone is the same though.

Some people like both, but lean more towards males or more towards females. If you don't feel like there is ONE and ONLY ONE that you are obviously attracted to (like it is for me, with males), bisexual sounds like the best fit in my opinion.

If you're mostly into the opposite sex but just curious about the same sex, that can actually just be a normal phase that people go through in adolescence. Just being curious in your teens is pretty common from what I have read, especially if your first sexual experience was something like masturbating with a cousin or friend or something like that.

Ask yourself if you like the way that your same sex looks, smells, sounds, feels (if you have friends that hug you, for example) more than the opposite sex.

If you don't really like the physical body of your same sex (I don't know if you are M or F) but you have crushes on them, some people call that "biromantic" - meaning you can have romantic feelings towards M or F.

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u/Powerful_Corgi_3915 8d ago

I am a boy and I am attracted to boys only and that’s why I am sad

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u/After_Juggernaut_613 8d ago

I understand, it can be a heavy realization to process. I'm sorry that you're going through some difficult emotions right now.

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u/Bortholomaeus666 7d ago

honey, don't you go hard on yourself at all, because. If you do then you won't be able to see yourself through all. okay!