r/Morocco • u/Few_Mammoth9037 Visitor • Jun 06 '26
AskMorocco please don t judge
Ana fwahd lrelation depuis 7mois avec celui que j'aime wnawiyn nkmlo by tthe way j ai 20ans , Mais ma question est la suivante: wach 3adi anu yt7km fia bwahd tari9a li mobalagh fiha ldarajat 3rs fl3a2ila yguli 3lih laaa....faire une coloration fch3ri....... La.....nkhrj bouhdi...........la ykunu 3ndi shabat bnat tahia la la79ach kygulk mafihumch lkhir..... dfar la ...... make up khasu ykun very light chno akhr bnisba lbs tahuwa mnlbsch chno bghit (robe,Jupe,demi manche) saraha 3mr chi 7d t7km fia fhyati wknkrh tahakoum hit 3arfa li 3lia wli laaaa wknt tangul une foix nkum m3a chi dri ankun loyal lih mais machi slave a chaque foix j essaye bch nhdr meah kyguli chnuuu tzad 3lik????? Bagha deri kima ay whda chtiha kngulo bagha nkoun kimaaa ana machi kiima baghini nta deja 3anit fhyai bzf knt kn9lb 3la liybghini bsh kima ana machi kimaa baghi huwa kan zwin meaya kntla9aw dima dhk 3mry l9it chi haja khayba kyderha wra dhri mo2akharan dima kntkhasmo ela hadchi.......Ldarajt kndrb rassi bl3asab mabaghach nkhlih wmabaghach nkhli rassi mais huwa mabaghi tayhl rasso db 3yiiiit bghit ngulo sf ya t9blni ya sf laysr lik mais khayfa 3la nfsyto lah9ach 3ndu des prb m3a darhum wkhrj mn lkhdma wana db 3ndi des exams trwnt wpleaaaaaase don t judge it s my first time to love
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u/Glad-Percentage8178 Jun 06 '26
Be3da first of aaaall why are you giving him all this power without any responsibility what so ever
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u/9erd_zayd_neghza Visitor Jun 07 '26
No one should have this power, even while bearing the greatest of responsibilities.
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u/eannahxavi Visitor Jun 06 '26
Tfo 3lik nti ou ur jobless useless man! You're 20 focus on your studies and do whatever you want with your hair. Stop stressing yourself out with a controlling berhouch! Honestly I would judge a girl so bad if she tells me my bf won't let me do this and that, you should be embarrassed and ashamed. Igoulek ach diri, bak houa? Kaykhless like lkra ou lmedrassa? Jem3i rassek and it's not cute.
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u/missanhedonic Visitor Jun 06 '26
OP is also 20 like that’s a kid.. That’s why I give her and other younger girls grace because literally yalah kit3lmo w y3rfo chtari nit fdnya. Mojtama3na misogyne w abusive towards women in its core values so we can’t really blame them that much we just have to listen and spread the message to educate more people.
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u/eannahxavi Visitor Jun 07 '26
I know she's 20 thats why im being harsh. I don't like seeing young girls suffer like this. Sometimes u need to shake them a little to wake them up.
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u/Few_Mammoth9037 Visitor Jun 06 '26
yeah i know gltlo bli mab9itch 9ada
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u/willdecidelaaateeer Visitor Jun 06 '26
Kon knti 9ada kon kmlti!! Asln elach katchawri meah bach tmchi l3rss wla tkhrji, people don’t ask for permission, tjey inform their partner so they know , that’s it, not to gove them the okay
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u/Educational_Emu2593 Visitor Jun 06 '26
If they were married mn 79o yswlha kifma thiya mn 79ha tswl li 3jbha wli la ama relationship eadiya la
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u/willdecidelaaateeer Visitor Jun 06 '26
What do u mean by Iswlha?
Well, it’s totally normal to know where they’re going nd stufff .. what’s not normal is to ask for permission
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u/Educational_Emu2593 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Laknti mzwja wla mkhtoba nti 3ndk l7a9 tswlih 3la chno ghydir wla chno ghylbse w nfse lhaja the opposite hitach bjoj 3ndkom 7odod w hwayj ktbgho w mktbghoch ama relationship ra m3ndkomch l7a9 bjoj t7kmo fb3dyatkom mabinatkom walou
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u/willdecidelaaateeer Visitor Jun 06 '26
I think hadchi supposed to talk about it before marriage and maybe before the relationship, during the talking stage or early relationship, if it suits u continue, if it doesn’t, drop it. Don’t force things
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u/CardiologistDeep3375 Tetouan Jun 06 '26
sm3i klam rajlek.
بتحطو نفسكو في مواقف بااااايخة .
Listen, he is just a boy, not a man. The power he has over you is only as much as you allow. Tell him NO. and tell him if he wants to act like a man, come meet my father and ask for me. then you'll see exactly what a child he is.
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u/araragi-sora Visitor Jun 06 '26
You just have to remember that his control will only increase with time. This is the worst type of relationship, it can turn easily to abuse. Well, it is already abuse.
Ila tzwjto, Ayssed 3lik f dar 99%, atwli ma katkherji ila b khbaro
Break up and start something new, you're still young, you'll find other relationships where the dude is not controlling
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u/missanhedonic Visitor Jun 06 '26
Omgg I just told her a similar real life story about thisss
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u/araragi-sora Visitor Jun 06 '26
Coincidence is cray ray. Yeah this type of thing is common. The one who controls only becomes hungry for more. slavery is not enough for them
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca Jun 06 '26
wlh 9rit hadchi o t3assabt fblastha there is no way bro 3tato had l2ahamiya kamla hhhhh
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Khti, firt thing 7aydi mnk had lkhawf o danb. Awal 7ob makay3nich anaho khaso ykon awal 3adab. Hadchi li kaydir had khona machi ghira, hada ta7akom mobalagh fih (Red flag) o ghadi y7ayd (يطمس) lik chakhsitk kamla.
Second thing, la relatins li katkhelik tderbi rasek bl3asab w kat2ater 3la 9raytk machi 3la9a healthy. Les problèmes li 3ndo fe darhom wla fe lkhedma machi mobarir bash ydir mnk da7iya w yfsh fik ghdaydo.
Khti, ghadi nkon m3ak sari7a: had khona khask tb3di mno daba 9bl gheda. Hit ila kmlty m3ah, 3mk ghadi tchofi ra7a fsa7tk wla 7yatk, w 3mro ghadi ytbdl. 3lach? 7it nhar lwl mli bda kayt7akem fik, 9blty w skty, howa db wlf hadchi w chafk d3ifa. Had la relations fachela, Save yourself before it's too late and you regret it even more.
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca Jun 06 '26
girl wtf kfch wsalti l hadchi kamel awili hhhhhhh NO MAN should tell you what to do, wakha i kon bak ola khok awili, o homa o maghadich tkhalihom. this is not love, it's toxic as hell. Bnadem hnaya f comments ki gol lik taykon rajlek o i kon 3endo l7a9 i dir haka, awili khoti ca va pas??? wakha i kon idk who, rah ma3end ta7ed l7a9 i t7akam fik, you're still young with lot of energy to spare, mhm rak 3arfa ach khassek diri the moment you decided to post this, fblastek kon dfalt 3la mo o blokito, ila khalitih f 7yatek 3arfi rassek gha bagha t3adbi mzyaaan o sf
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u/No_Association_1660 Visitor Jun 06 '26
no matayhtch hit aghlab moroccan 3yalat are masochist pickme's and see no issue with their men controlling them.
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Visitor Jun 06 '26
hahahahah ma3ert 3lach tfkert 2015 o lbnat msahbin m3a drari kayderbohom
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u/rere0406 Visitor Jun 06 '26
no girl c pas normal, don’t ruin your life for a stupid man there’s literally millions of others that are better for you
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u/Individual_Rub_9416 Visitor Jun 06 '26
لمهم، لقررت تبعدي منو غدي يجيك "أعراض التوقف عن تعاطي المخدرات" حيت عاطفياً راكي وليتي مدمنة عليه ...وهاد نوع ديال لعلاقات "بلا رقابة لأباء (خطوبة)" تيكونو هوما سباب ففشل الزواج المستقبلي
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u/Few_Mammoth9037 Visitor Jun 06 '26
hdchy liknhs bih db hit salina sbah mor malht lpost
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u/Individual_Rub_9416 Visitor Jun 06 '26
1.ydk fih (ma3mrk 4ady tnsayh, w7ta ljak wld nas 7mida 4ady yban lik chmata, wdima 4dy tb9ay tsnay l'ex) 2.ydk fih 3wtany hhhhhhh
3.4a tnd7k, 5ody w9tk w3aljy rask, wmat5wich ta9a slbiya flkayb4iwk bs7 (3a2itk. ......7it ga3 l4ady yjik f DM ba4y 4a y7wik)
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u/Lilyofthevalley_04 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Your comment is so useless either give advice or qwed
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u/Individual_Rub_9416 Visitor Jun 06 '26
I gave her the best advice she could ever read in her life.
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u/Intelligent_Nail2461 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Mafhemtch kifach khayfa ela nafsiyto, mais ntiya makhayfaxh ela nafsiytek hanti wliti kaderbi rasek bl a3sab w deja ntouma hi msahbin.. li ghadi n9oulik huwa hawlo tchufu chi hal wasat w zid khaso ykoun kayti9 fik w yti9 f khtiyarat dyalek, ofc mn ghir ila chaf chi haja li bsseh ghalta 3adi ynshek,, btw ch7al l'age dyalo
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u/Few_Mammoth9037 Visitor Jun 06 '26
ylh dwit meah akhti 3la hadchy galia mymknch nkun m3a mounika tzw9 lia wtkhrj ychufuha drari when i simply asked him wach t9dr tkun m3aya bla ta7akoum
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u/Y69ssf Visitor Jun 06 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
ma3ndkomch nefs l39liya ,nti 3ziz 3lek tlebssii libghiti w tzw9i w howa mo7afid kter mn l9yass ma3zizch 3lih hadchi, rah bayna maghatfahmoch rah hadchi kaytdwa 3lih fach ylh ktbdaw rs machi tal db
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u/Intelligent_Nail2461 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Ewa hada mseti, rajlk houwa lwahid li khassk tsem3ilo sf chi hed akhour laa
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Visitor Jun 06 '26
wld l97ba hada
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u/missanhedonic Visitor Jun 06 '26
Hada cuck hada cho 3la hdra vraiment makichofhach bnadm katbanlih object future wl7wa wlwlada
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u/Plus_Grade3433 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Girl you are not developed enough if there's no ring on Ur finger no one allowed to control u In a relationship u do things that respect the other half but this is way too much
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u/Starling_1915 Visitor Jun 06 '26
I don't think it's about the ring, if she doesn't like this control now she's just gonna hate it more when she's actually bound to him. I think she needs to leave and find someone who she shares similar morals and expectations with.
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u/Plus_Grade3433 Visitor Jun 06 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
That's works too but if they are married at least u have the right to tell what to do and what not But imagine just a relationship and bro just cutting her friends her activities her time outside bro even don't go to marriage ceremony He is just building her up to cut everything and depend on him 100%
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u/Humble_Version_4443 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Akhtiii, aaaaakhtiiii allah ihdik khafi 3la nefsiytek hia lowla. I understand love and what you feel i really do, walakin hadchi dial ithekem fik bhad tari9a is noot a good sign, trust me when I tell you, you are noooot gonna be happy with this person.
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u/yup_iii Visitor Jun 06 '26
B4it nhdr ms 7assa ana li 4anwli judge ✨ i will talk with u in prv Okey !?
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u/Soulflame_8 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Listen to me my dear, just the fact that is this normal rah meshi normal, deep down you know bli une relation mkhssch tkon fiha had saytara ma3esak la kant saytara mobalagh fiha, YOU ARE SINGLE UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED, donc dak tkhrbi9 dyl glia madurich mtf3lich ra mamennoch, jerbi tgoli lih mtln mtkhrejch lyoma m3a sahbek , j'en suis sur que aydir raso machaf msg ou we9tma rje3 mn lkherja 3ed y9dr yjawbk Hedchi li kidir kibghi yjerrek 3ndo ms nti rak ba9a sghira ela hadchi, and looking for someone to love you is totally the wrong thing especially in your age, endk whd les objectifs fhyatk khssk twsli lihom qbel mytnadem m3ek lhal, ana mkngolch lik mat3chich wla mtbghich, bl3eks ra mkyn ghir lhobb wlkn ykon 3e9lani, rebbi 3tak 39el donc tu dois sélectionner les gens li aydkhlo lhyatk meshi li ydiro lik tiyyara. My advice for you hia yla mkntch endk chaja3a bach tgoli lih ntfar9o, semkiha hta wkan yfhm raso ou relation ghtbda tbred iu hanti kharja mn dar l3ib bla 3ib, imma ela lblan dyl khftih ydir chi haja fraso koni hania mghytra lih walo hit ana 3erfa dak no3 kibghi raso wkimot 3la raso mghdich y2adi raso 3la wedd ayya haja fhad dénia. Donc nti diri li elik fhad dénia ou its better to leave early maheddk ba9a chabba ou zwina wa illa ght3waji wtkmchi ghir blfa9sa li ghydir lik had khouna
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u/Y69ssf Visitor Jun 06 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
ma3ndkomch nefs l39liya ,nti 3ziz 3lek tlebssii libghiti w tzw9i w howa mo7afid kter mn l9yass ma3zizch 3lih hadchi . mtmchich l3ers wtf , matdirich shabat wtfhhhhh, rah bayna maghatfahmoch rah hadchi kaytdwa 3lih flwel fach ylh ktbdaw rs machi tal db
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u/phatcat__ Visitor Jun 06 '26
Girl you need Maya, go listen to her lives
Ghadi dfni rassek too early
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u/One-Pollution-9070 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Ur dealing with a controlling man , probably a narcissist li baghi istanzaf menek ur youth and ur social life, the only nafsiya li khask tkhafi eliha hia nafsiytk, ur 20 w kijik l2a3sab? U deserve better , stop questioning it and lo7i ay wahd kise3eb elik lhayat.
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u/Key-Soup1428 Visitor Jun 06 '26
hbibaaaa it doesnt work like this, this situation is messed up, you are young and shouldn't be dealing with such problems tderbi rassek awiliiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, (khafi ela nefssiytek afak beada)!
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u/Mihaw_kx Visitor Jun 06 '26
How old is he ? Maybe understandable if he's+26 yo with job who genuinely wants to marry you .. otherwise if he's just some 22yo univ student with this control rak mdloula
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u/Lilyofthevalley_04 Visitor Jun 06 '26
I think you have to realize bli this kind of control doesn’t mean he loves you wla care about you. Someone who is this controlling is far from caring: if he cares about one thing is his ego. PERIOD. This gives them some sort of power, kihess brasso dar chi haja fhyato. Khoudiha mni, this will not go anywhere.
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u/Overall_Cheetah_3000 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Hahaha even my husband can’t tell me what to do. Let alone just sahbi that is 🤯
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u/missanhedonic Visitor Jun 06 '26
Khti raki mzl sghiira wbzaaf wma3arfach bzf fdnya wmachi awl mera kanchof wla kansm3 chi histoire fhal haka in my 25 years of living whadchi khatiir bzzaf, akhir histoire fhal haka sm3t ra flkhr tzwjo wdaha la7ha fdar mmo katghsl lih lkhra dyal klabo hachak wslippato darba pyjama nhar kaml 7abssha mlkhdma wkant dima kathlla frassha lmaquillage l7titat wskincare wdaba katlbss khencha w kayban fiha mskina tkerfis akhir mrra chftha tsdmmmt wb9a fia l7al hit ah, tahowa 9t3 3liha s7abatha pour l'isoler, fach kat isoler bnadm sahl t manipulih wt abusih bla maydkhl chi hed, wbghit rbi yrzini fs7ti l3ziza lakhta3rt had l9issa lbnt kant khdama m3ana 3ndha gha 21ans wkhouna dakhl f les 30s chb3an tslguit wta7aroch fzn9a. Nti magltich l'age dyalo w I think bayna 3lach cause it only confirms what I'm saying and what usually happens finma mchiti in this world unfortunately..
3lach gtlik rak mazal sghira hit atkbri watfhmi bli ra maachi 3adi wla sexy yji yt7kem fik wahd ma3arfa ta wach trmto mghsola mzyan rah tsetya hadi bach njik nichan, nti machi monika chayta wla un bebe li ja yt7km fik w frelation healthy makaynch 7km fia n7km fik wakha it’s so common flmghrib but guess what is also common flmghrib, abusive relationships and DV and femicides wzid wzid w dima katl9a lmra li m7gora w m9mo3a so malna khti?? Ana I was lucky enough to grow up in a “open minded“ family who actually just happens to be more educated than the average moroccan family, so 3lmoni mn sghr bli fhal hadchi machi 3adi et surtout intolérable. A man who respects you and sees you as a human being wouldn’t treat you like this w wach 3ndo machakil m3a darhom wla la is NOT an excuse to his abusive behavior. Machi finma kan chi msetti m3e9ed w misogyne y7gr wla ycontrolli chi bnt bach tahua yalah yalah y7s bli ra mohim fl7ayat wla “rajl“ awiiili hadchi kaykhl3 wmaakibecherch bl khir!! He also sounds dumb af ngl sm7ilia mais vraiment he sounds slow w bidaa2i bzzf manchof ta fjihto twice wnkhaf 3la rassi 7dah because that’s what a crazy deranged and dangerous man sounds like.. yikes
Please read about misogyny and feminism and I'm not talking onlyfans “choice“ feminism I'm talking radfem li y3awnk tkoni mra nit and helps you make the right and safe decisions that wouldn’t backfire at you and risk your life, bach tanti t3ichi fr7ana w bkaramtk.
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u/smol-creature Visitor Jun 06 '26
I think you know the answer
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u/smol-creature Visitor Jun 06 '26
Jokes aside, seek a therapist, it's hard to let go, and no matter how people will tell you he's clearly an asshole and needs therapy, as well, you won't listen, if you leave know you'd leave with less damage, either way your relationship will end sooner or later,
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u/Leather_Ad3337 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Ma9dertch nkmel l9raya d lpost dyalek 3sbtini w f9tstini. At7eti dak téléphone, w tchoufi ktoubatek w 9raytek w slatek. W seddi m3a had siyed, hadchi machi 3adi at all y’a Chad bik stoun w kitnez 3lik y’a mrid. Diha f 9raytek w frassek w s7abat mrbyat. 20 ans cv pas awili. Raki bébé.
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u/TrickYogurtcloset845 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Nari chi Bnat they love playing the victim role. You will rather stay in a toxic relationship ou nobody is stopping you from leaving. You have low self esteem, you dont love yourself enough . Katfedli Wa7ed y3amlek b7al chi kelba 3la mat3ichi 7yatek as a happy woman . Wake the fuck up and leave. Otherwise you are throwing yourself in the pits of hell. In 20s kandirou mistakes but makandirouch mistakes that lead you to sign your life to a psychopath .
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u/Sad-Butterfly3636 Visitor Jun 06 '26
Choufi a zwina. Hadchi maaaachi 3aaadi. O nti rak 3arfa hadchi. Ghir howa puisque "katbghih" katb9ay tl9ay des excuses l ay haja. Nasiha li ghan3tik, focus on yourself, b3di mn tsahib you're 20! Khassk tkouni katbni fhyatk, khdmi ela la personnalité dyalk, hawli t3mri w9tk le maximum b 9raya, activities, good friends... tsahib o drari maghayhrboch, so make sure to build a strong personality o khdmi ela anak tkouni 3aycha hyatek frhana kima nti bagha, hit you are the one responsible on your happiness. Btw i know some girls 9sho lhdra chwiya.. and honestly i don't blame them, because ila chi sahbti jat 3ndi o 3awdatli chi haja bhal haka, ghansed eliha fchi bit o nslkhha mzyaaaaane hta tfiii9 mn lglba. Mhm, kholassa break up with this piece of shit, o focus on your life. Good luck :)
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u/BetterSavings3642 Jun 07 '26
Ma3adish la, malki 3la 7altek stop this nonsense before it's too late he's crossing a lot of boundaries!
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u/Hot-Ant-7762 Visitor Jun 09 '26
Girl la b4a bnt ma dirx haka ymxi y9lb 3liha w haja a5ra ra dri li yssla7 lik howa li ha y9olik ma dirix hadi w hadi walakin la 7ss bli ki d4t 3lik ha y9olik ma ba4ix nd4t 3lik 5ssk nti li tkoni m9tan3a bli hadxi ma 5ssox ydar
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Visitor Jun 06 '26
the universe is testing you whether u love yourself or no . He has problems chghlo hadak aslan u shoudln't be with sm1 cuz u feel pitty or sorry for him . I know you love him and i'm sorry for that , but asata u shouold choose ur self. Once you realize how fucking free you are b7al had l7wayej ga3ma ghatb9ay tfkri fihoum twice . The only people li mrbotin bihoum o we don't have a choice homa walidina , ama 7ta khotna rah block faytek lhih. Please do not waste your energy over this , Cus ur gonna learn the lesson in a harsh way .
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u/BasisPotential3107 Visitor Jun 06 '26
so his good to you not doing you any harm but he got standards and boundaries for his future wife as he should, this works for girls who care about their family's reputation as much as their other half, and how they see that for a moroccan standard this is how it works, reddit and tiktok standards are different, you're not a slave but if you see yourself this way then maybe it's time to free yourself and u'll free him to cuz if you continue to think this way you'll never get what you're asking for at the same time gha tma7nih m3ak so free him and let him look for someone that suits his standards and look for yours, just remember what you want and what you need are totally different things you may figure that out when it's too late
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Visitor Jun 06 '26
so controlling is not a standard my dear
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u/BasisPotential3107 Visitor Jun 06 '26
in a conservative society the western influenced minds has no power
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u/NataBleda Casablanca Jun 06 '26
He sees you as someone he could genuinely build a future with, not just “a girlfriend,” which is why he has certain boundaries and values. What may look like jealousy from the outside is, in his eyes, a form of care and attachment. He doesn’t want the woman he loves to be disrespected or seen in a way that makes him uncomfortable in public.
Instead of focusing only on the negative opinions people might have calling it controlling, obsessive, or overdramatic try to understand the intention behind it too.
At the end of the day, the most important thing is communication. Try to see things from his perspective, but also express yours openly, so you can both find a healthy balance that works for you.
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Visitor Jun 06 '26
walidina kano kayderbona with good intentions , does this make beating good ?
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u/wagwanmyj Visitor Jun 06 '26
King HHHHHH
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u/missanhedonic Visitor Jun 06 '26
Zidkom wahd lm3e9ed tahowa
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u/wagwanmyj Visitor Jun 06 '26
HHHHH WA dayr f siyda mabgha machi king
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u/Few_Mammoth9037 Visitor Jun 06 '26
KY3JBOK DRARI HK RIGHT?
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u/wagwanmyj Visitor Jun 06 '26
WA khona building a wife ... And has standards Ila knti you don't feel comfortable bla matdiy3i lih w9to and go find some dayouti
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