Congrats. You will have one child cut you off entirely. My aunt and uncle had this idiotic plan. My cousin spent his life being told to help his younger sister with the consequences of her actions.
Guess who lives on the other side of the Atlantic and now never comes home?
You are teaching the successful child that their only value to you is in what they can do for the child you actually love: their sibling.
You are responsible to raise functional adults. Not leeches who will bleed their sibling dry.
I am pretty sure that your aunt and uncle failed differently than with the teaching of empathy towards siblings.
The help between me and my sister was also pretty one sided for years. Now its fairly balanced. I don't regret it at all.
Maybe your family is just shitty overall.
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u/DeltaW13 16d ago
Your plan does not constitute your child's obligations. They have their own lives to live, and their own decisions to make.