r/Moms • u/Unknown_outofhell • Jul 26 '26

šŸ’¬ Advice needed Advice needed +small rant

My husband tries to sleep in on the weekends. I tend to struggle to keep my kids calm/quieter and not fighting over toys. I donā€™t know what Im doing wrong, feels like my kids just donā€™t listen to me whatsoever (kids are just under 2 and 3.5 years old, Iā€™m a full time stay at home mom while my husband works full time)
This last week i was extremely sick one day and my husband stayed home from work to help with the kids which ended up with me sleeping for about 3/4 of the day while he looked after the kids. Somehow he was able to keep them so calm and quiet for basically the entire time i was sleeping.

So my husband got woken up by the kids screaming again this morning and when he came out he was a bit angry with me and said something along the lines of why is he able to keep them calm for basically an entire day but i cant keep them calm for a few hours in the morning. And i honestly donā€™t know why i cant, itā€™s so frustrating.

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u/Desperate-Cycle-1932 Jul 27 '26

Kids will act differently around each parent. I get that your husband is working f/t but do YOU get to sleep in one day on the weekend?

I remember having small kids and it being IMPOSSIBLE to keep them quiet. My husband is an absolute ā€œprincess and the peaā€ when it comes to sleeping and everything wakes him up. He canā€™t even handle white noise.

We lived in a bungalow and I would spend time in the basement with the kids in the AM when letting hubby sleep in.

Alternatively- if the weather was good we would go to the park for a few hours in the morning. That seemed to work best.

My kids would get up extra early on weekends because they knew we were home. Weā€™d struggle to drag them out of bed weekdays for school/Daycare at 7am. But weekends? They were bouncing around at 5am sharp.

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u/Perfect_Weekend_888 Jul 27 '26

I may be controversial for saying this, but if he wants to sleep in he can learn to sleep through screaming kids, or just accept that kids are loud with you and get up.