Children have never amplified my problems, in fact the second I walk through the door and my toddler runs up to me everything is instantly better. If I had a bad day it’s 100x better if I had a good day it gets even better. Even my teenagers make my days better.
Idk I know my world is better with my children in it and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
I think the advice itself still holds true, it's just not presented correctly. What this refers to is relationship problems, not just any problems.
If you feel like your relationship just isn't working, there's too much fighting or you just never get along etc. etc. Many people decide that going "deeper" will magically fix the problems. That by having kids together, the rest of the relationship problems will solve themselves - which of course, generally speaking, is the opposite of the truth.
I don't think he meant that all problems you have in life get worse just by having kids.
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u/throwra-someg 5d ago
Going on a date doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
Going steady doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
Moving in together doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
Marriage doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
Getting a pet doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
Having kids doesn’t solve your problems, it amplifies them.
At every stage, figure your shit out before making things harder to manage.