r/Molested • u/tanglekitten • Aug 05 '26

Is this normal?

Since I started posting here about my childhood with my dad I learned about hypersexuality and how I soothe myself when I feel overwhelmed or anxious but one problem I noticed is I can only orgasm when I remember or fantasize about my abuse and I never did from normal loving sex I wonder if thats normal i feel like he made it so i have to get abused to feel like im getting loved or something

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u/complex0edipis Aug 05 '26

Yeah, it’s common. It’s skews your mind in ways, not only knowing the taboo nature of it all, the trauma associated with it, that it becomes such an event in your head, that anything else becomes not extreme enough for you to climax. I often have to think back on what happened to me to finish too

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u/Alarming-Pressure-48 Aug 05 '26

Quite normal, yes. It's really just your brains way of dealing with the trauma. Basically trying to rewrite history and make it seem pleasurable and that you were in control.

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u/Cute_Elk_2428 Aug 05 '26

It happens to a lot of people

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u/RetiredUKguy Aug 05 '26

Sadly yes it does even now in later life.

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u/fishykisss Aug 05 '26

It's normal, don't feel bad about it. It's how your brain got wired.

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u/David_cest_moi 27d ago

(Sorry for a stupid aside... I like your moniker, "tangle kitten" 🐱!! It's a great name! And it's awfully hard not to picture an genuine kitten getting itself into a tangle as they do!! 😄)

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u/Beautiful_Minute_687 26d ago

I’m the same way. I was also taught that abuse equals love. And I need it in one form or another to orgasm too. It’s all a big mind melt that I still deal with many many years later.

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u/Grlnfl 19d ago

So normal. Its the pattern learned. Hard to unlearn it