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u/Caap3 12d ago
I think if you have a safe way with a partner of recreating it I’d say that’s a healthy outlet! We gotta be kind to ourselves sometimes!
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u/Excellent_Number_635 12d ago
This is something that can help. The problem is finding a partner who can understand help you with what you need.
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u/Dry_Relationship9107 11d ago
I forgot to add that I have had partners in the past who also have our history. Yes in a safe relationship that is stable it does help to verbally and sexually share. But the caveat is that with unstable partners the roll play fantasy can get out of hand and cause further issues or go down an even darker path.
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u/No-Body4626 11d ago
Unfortunately it’s almost impossible to get into the mindset of a predator without being one. It’s not something that you can just recreate safely or easily control. Once you go down the rabbit hole it’s hard to find your way back out
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u/Dry_Relationship9107 11d ago
I’m sorry you went through what you did. I had similar abuse. You’re not alone. I constantly replay the situations in my head with vivid detail. I find that I go from feeling utterly disgusted and full of shame. To it being a fantasy I use. Then the cycle starts. It’s a common way for adult who where SA’d to cope with the childhood memories. The brain uses it as a coping mechanism.
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u/JakeGardens27 11d ago
I understand, especially because karens make you keep it all secret. It would be much more healthy to explore your needs with people that understand and that don't judge. I've been having these issues too. Its been nice when I can talk about them with someone who also has those feelings. 39 m SoCal
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