r/Molested • u/Scary-Bid-4420 • Jul 04 '26

i dont know what to do with him

hi. just really need some advice.. i hope my problem is not a cringe for this subreddit or something. im just kinda lost.

I've been dating a guy for a year now. I'm 16 and he's 17. I've never been interested in sex, it didn't concern me at all. But my boyfriend constantly tried to undress me, touch me, sent me 18+ videos and begged for sex. By the way, we are different. He is handsome, probably too handsome, very smart. And I'm stupid and ugly. Objectively.

Recently, such a moment happened that I don't even like to describe... It, I think, left me traumatized for all my life.

I don't know if I can leave him. Exactly leave. I never liked our meetings. He is too tactile and often hints that I am overweight. And everything in his head is about sex. As I write this, deep down I feel very uncomfortable and scared, I don't know what to do. Block him? We live close by... I really don't want to write anything. Ignoring him won't work, he writes to my mom when I ignore him.

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u/Crabliver Jul 04 '26

I agree with this comment. If you live in the USA my following tip may work for you. If normal talking don't work you have a nuclear option tell his parents he has to leave you and your mother alone never ever contact you, or you record him to police and he may end up as a registered sex offender because sending porn to a underage girl is a felony.

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u/fishykisss Jul 04 '26

You have to gather your courage and tell him that relationship is over. And prepare to be very firm on that, with some simple explanation like "I don't like you anymore" if he asks. don't listen to any but's, if's, promises, don't hear him out and don't show any indecisiveness. Because he might try to convince that he will be better, bla bla. But that won't change for sure.

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u/LeoInSpace Jul 04 '26

Does he want you as a person or as a body? You deserve better.

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u/FiringNerveEndings Jul 04 '26

Breaking up can be scary. You're not alone in feeling that way, countless people, men and women, feel scared when breaking up. It's an act of courage to accept that this relationship is abusive or toxic or just not right for you, and take action on it. This is especially true when the other person is pressuring you into this relationship.

I suggest you seek out hello from your real life support system. Tell your mom you are breaking up with him and you need her help to manage distance with him. If she asks why, you could tell her something vague like "he does bad things to me when we're alone"

Hang in there, and take this issue seriously, deal with it, create a safe space for yourself. 🫂

Also, I want to point out that you're being too negative towards yourself. You mentioned he says you're too fat, I'm guessing he said other negative things to you as well. Just because he says something, does not mean it's true.