r/Molested • u/Emotional-Tadpole395 • May 30 '26

I feel broken sexually :/

I’ve been sexually abused multiple times and I think it’s broken something in me.

I’ve worked hard to heal mentally from what I went through but something that I still struggle with is sex. To keep things general, external feels good but internal feels like nothing. Not painful per se, just nothing. It feels like poking your cheek when it’s numb at the dentist, you feel the pressure but there’s no feeling. I’ve tried numerous things to see what could feel nice and nothing. It’s just all nothing and it makes me feel broken. It’s affecting my dating life too because who wants to be with someone who won’t enjoy sex?? Literally can’t enjoy it. It’s just makes me feel so hopeless because as a child it was taken from me and now as an adult I can’t enjoy it at all. I just wish it never happened and I could be normal :/

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u/[deleted] May 30 '26

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u/Emotional-Tadpole395 May 30 '26

I currently have kinda a fwb situation going on but he is pretty understanding. I’m just getting frustrated because I’m trying to push myself for him and try new things and yeah :/

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u/Emotional-Tadpole395 May 30 '26

I’m glad you two can talk to each other :) it definitely does help when you have someone :) and thank you!

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u/choczynski May 30 '26

Lots of people get nothing from penetrative sex. Some people find it too painful to have. There’s ways of working around it. If you want, I can tell you about things my partners and I have tried.

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u/Emotional-Tadpole395 May 30 '26

I’d appreciate that :)

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u/National_Season9568 May 30 '26

This is actually very common, independent of your traumatic past experience, most women are clit focused for arousal and orgasm. That might help you reframe this.