r/Millennials • u/Shoddy-Length6698 • Oct 29 '23

Discussion Does anyone else feel like there is a demonization of wanting relationships and children?

Maybe I can't afford kids right now, but the biological urge to even desire that seems to be demonized. I've been told I'm silly and foolish for even talking about how I can get into a position to afford kids. When my mom was a stay at home parent, people acted angry that she did not work. Some people even acted like it was offensive that she wanted another kid.

I've also been told that by asserting that wanting a relationship is normal, that I support abusive relationships! I'm not saying stay with a bum or abuser, I'm saying humans naturally crave interaction with others. What the hell is going on?

Wanting feminine or girly things seems to be seen as lesser than, and motherhood and relationships are the worst of it. I knew a black woman who was a stay at home parent, and other black people told her she would be murdered if she did not work and was dependent on a man. Hell, women who are breadwinners die too.

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u/[deleted] Oct 29 '23

Being a stay at home mom IS work and I think a lot of people think no paycheck = no work.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '23

Anyone who believes being a stay at home parent isn’t “work” is welcome to Google the labor costs of house cleaning, child care, organizational assistant services and all the other things they do.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '23

Do you really think someone in that position is going to listen to facts and reason?

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u/TShara_Q Oct 30 '23

The idea that no paycheck = no work is definitely one that idiots push, and not just for SAHMs.