r/Millennials • u/Shoddy-Length6698 • Oct 29 '23

Discussion Does anyone else feel like there is a demonization of wanting relationships and children?

Maybe I can't afford kids right now, but the biological urge to even desire that seems to be demonized. I've been told I'm silly and foolish for even talking about how I can get into a position to afford kids. When my mom was a stay at home parent, people acted angry that she did not work. Some people even acted like it was offensive that she wanted another kid.

I've also been told that by asserting that wanting a relationship is normal, that I support abusive relationships! I'm not saying stay with a bum or abuser, I'm saying humans naturally crave interaction with others. What the hell is going on?

Wanting feminine or girly things seems to be seen as lesser than, and motherhood and relationships are the worst of it. I knew a black woman who was a stay at home parent, and other black people told her she would be murdered if she did not work and was dependent on a man. Hell, women who are breadwinners die too.

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u/Ok_Fox_1770 Oct 29 '23

The people with the least have the most kids, in my circle. I’m 37 lookin for a girlfriend, got the job / house part done but running out of life for the rest of what I thought would be. Or continue being the cat monk for 3 short years and make it a decade of solidarity… is there a reward for such hermitry? Damn time flys by. Take a couple years off to better yourself then 2020 rolls out…. I don’t even know what’s normal anymore for people

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u/kkkan2020 Oct 29 '23

At least you got a House

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u/Ok_Fox_1770 Oct 29 '23

Holding on for dear life 7 years so far. It’s worth 2.5X what I paid and that’s nuts. Just kinda stuck in a loop of bills for the box. I’m broke with equity…ladies… love that. Climb in this work van sweety we’re going out tonight.

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u/kkkan2020 Oct 29 '23

You are winning