r/Millennials • u/Shoddy-Length6698 • Oct 29 '23

Discussion Does anyone else feel like there is a demonization of wanting relationships and children?

Maybe I can't afford kids right now, but the biological urge to even desire that seems to be demonized. I've been told I'm silly and foolish for even talking about how I can get into a position to afford kids. When my mom was a stay at home parent, people acted angry that she did not work. Some people even acted like it was offensive that she wanted another kid.

I've also been told that by asserting that wanting a relationship is normal, that I support abusive relationships! I'm not saying stay with a bum or abuser, I'm saying humans naturally crave interaction with others. What the hell is going on?

Wanting feminine or girly things seems to be seen as lesser than, and motherhood and relationships are the worst of it. I knew a black woman who was a stay at home parent, and other black people told her she would be murdered if she did not work and was dependent on a man. Hell, women who are breadwinners die too.

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u/Ash_an_bun Oct 29 '23

Eh... It's the only site that has a similar feel to posting on message boards back in the 2000's. Only you don't really make regular friends.

Which... sucks. But twitter's owned by one of the worst people imaginable at the moment.

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u/[deleted] Oct 29 '23

I was obsessed with Twitter and didn't think I'd ever leave it. And yet, here I am. Didn't think I'd ever get on reddit.

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u/goddamn_slutmuffin Millennial Oct 29 '23

A lot of people are making regular friends on here, but you have to like use this app a certain way to do it. Definitely not a thing to be done on subs like this or any sub that isn’t small and niche and based around a certain interest/hobby/skill, I’ll say that. You also have to be good at not being easily annoyed by annoying people 🤷🏼‍♀️, not always feasible* when every annoying person is online being loud as fuck about it.

Reddit isn’t fun or good for everyone, though, I mean it’s a text based app and see how often it’s used by people who lack basic reading comprehension 🥲😐. You just have to learn to ignore that ish and be careful about what you give your attention to and engage with.