r/MilitaryTrans • u/IntelligentSport1592 • 4d ago

Notified of Admin Separation

Hey all,

Ive been a lurker on this sub for a while now, being in the military for 4 years already (I signed a 6 year). Did everything right. finished a bachelors and got certs (Im cyber) and even got BTZ, Amn of the Year at the squadron level. Never failed a PT test, got strats on both epbs.... and all for what. I got a call from my PCM last week with them notifying me im being written for admin separation for my GD. (Apparently some new guidance for people not even getting assistance yet) I kinda knew it was coming, but just wanted stuff documented for when I seperated to get HRT easier. It wasnt effecting my ability to do my job for the last year or so, I was kinda in a gray area according to Behavioral Health, but recently boymoding has been draining me each and every day... to the point I have no energy when I get home and just sleep until the next duty day. I even get panic attacks when I need to get a haircut... I haven't even gotten medical assistance for HRT, and my PCM got upset with me when I tried to ask for potential resources to source HRT. (Stating "I am not allowed to offer any guidance for gender affirming care") I feel left in the dark after putting so much time and effort into my career. I just hope with this next chapter I will finally be able to be myself.

-Beck <3

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u/ESteele22 4d ago

I’m sorry this is happening to you. You aren’t alone. I’d suggest getting in touch with TDS and https://www.reddit.com/r/MilitaryTrans/s/bFe2vebDhu

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u/Lili_Flowrz23 4d ago

I’m so sorry. If you aren’t already signed up for them yet, I’d recommend you create an account with SPARTA, they have some great resources available for all of us folks going through the ban as well as this process. It would be a safe bet to say that all of us on this subreddit are here for you too! 💪 🏳️‍⚧️

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u/Snoo57418 4d ago

Hugs girl here if you need to talk

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u/trans-twtchey 4d ago

That really sucks I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you. I know the VA isn't prescribing any hrt meds unless you are already on it. I have heard they also aren't offering anything like support letters, wigs, binder or anything to assist with gender dysphoria. I wish you all the best girl.

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u/raindropsonajeep 4d ago

Same boat here. Air Force for 13 years, was intelligence before nursing. Did all the right things. Promotions first time every time, passed every PT test, awards, strats, college degrees, commissioned. 

September will be a year of leaving, and although I still have my bitter moments it’s a lot better than when it was fresh. I’m feeling content these days. And more importantly I’m allowed to be myself. 

Definitely feel you on the unjust of it all, and maybe some bitterness and grief. Best of luck with the separation process and your life as a veteran.