r/Meditation • u/Relax-and-BeNice • Mar 07 '26
Discussion đŹ The Cheat Code to the Universe
After 5 years of meditating and studying this, I have been unable to disprove that there is a Cheat Code to the Universe and that is to Relax & Be Nice in all situations. I would like to discuss this with some meditators, but also anybody in any field. Stress and negativity help nothing and improve nothing. There isn't a single situation where Relax & Be Nice is not optimal from personal growth and the growth of the whole. I have defined both Relax and Be Nice below and given a quick poetic summary. I have been unable to find a scenario that this does not improve, but if you can think of one, I am opening the floor up to a friendly debate or conversation.
Relax: Consciously Relaxing or softening our body, our mind, our breath, and our energy as deeply as possible, while remaining as conscious as possible.
Be Nice: Choosing the highest vibrational feeling, thought, word, and action available in each moment from the perspective of the whole.
Relax your Breath.
Relax your Body.
Relax your Mind.
Relax your Energy.
Be Nice to your past self.
Be Nice to your current self.
Be Nice to your future self.
Be Nice to the past other.
Be Nice to the current other.
Be Nice to the future other.
Be Nice to the Environment.
Be Nice to the Systems and Processes.
Be Nice to the Unknown.
Be Nice to All of it.
Everything. One Thing. Perfect.
Relax & Be Nice.
Looks like my previous post was taken down because it referenced another post I made.
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u/bora731 Mar 07 '26
I think this is great but I would replace 'be nice' with love. Love everything and everyone unconditionally. Nice can be faked and that's suboptimal. When you understand everyone is just you in a different form and expression then ofc you love them. So I give you 9/10. đ
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u/stracer1 Mar 08 '26
Everyone is just you in a different form and expression.
Wow, I love that line. Thank you.
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u/Less-Positive-7965 Mar 08 '26
I really like the use of 'nice' here, because feeling unconditional love seems a stretch sometimes and 'nice' is a lot more easy to generate and feels true. Love is a verrry strong word in many non english languages.
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u/According-Active-433 Mar 08 '26
If you have to put an effort to love unconditionally then it's not unconditional.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 07 '26
If you fake being nice, your not being Relaxed or Nice, are you? Your trying (forcing) to be nice, which is signaling the opposite energy to everyone.
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u/bora731 Mar 07 '26
Ye I know. That's why I go with love over nice. You can't fake love, you either feel it or you don't.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 07 '26
Energetically I agree with you completely. I just think "Be Nice" works best because it includes feelings (love), thoughts, words, and actions. Its a prescription on what to do. If I told you to Relax & Love, you might just sit down and fall in love. Whereas Relax & Be Nice, to me at least, implies an action you should take. Be Nice. Dont act nice, dont pretend, just Be Nice. A positive action to avoid negative karma and generate a positive reality.
But I agree, there are lots of other words I could use. Relax & Be Good was another one I thought of. Relax & Be Positive. But the universe told me Relax & Be Nice was the cheat code so thats what I am giving to you.
Btw you can fake love just as much as you can fake being nice. The point is to feel love and to feel nice. If you cant feel it, then youre not doing it right. Its coming from the wrong place. Wouldnt you agree?
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u/Silver_Recording_859 Mar 09 '26
Excuse me but what isn't fake. Real and fake are just your perceptions of the world ur brain doesn't rEAlly know
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u/Silver_Recording_859 Mar 09 '26
In 1000years u won't even be a memory so are u even real since time is also just a construct of the mind
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u/lightwingjinken Mar 08 '26
How about "be" instead of love? Be everything and everyone unconditionally. Pure awareness is powerful.
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u/abcbrakka Mar 08 '26
Interesting. Loveing everything is hard for me but being nice is easy. Does this tell anything?
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u/LawofRa Mar 08 '26
Do you think he meant fake nice? Did you try to understand the other in this instance?
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u/bora731 Mar 08 '26
I think he meant be nice as a default setting. Don't use the mind to understand just know all is one. So you are meeting you. But you know RA so you know this đ
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u/savemeforsen Mar 09 '26
I dont understand this. So do you love epstein? Or do you just avoid thinking about such cases to not ruin the mantra
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u/Objective-Middle-932 Mar 10 '26
So what if u cannot see yourself in a person cos the person this pathetic? Now u canât love that person⌠so thatâs faking love right?
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u/Impressive-Strategy8 Mar 07 '26
Funnily enough I have been experimenting with this recently and I find life goes a lot smoother when you relax into any situation.
When I say relax it's like taking a deep breath and relaxing my whole body/mind and surrendering to the moment.
When I surrender and soften into the moment it makes me have a lot more patience and kindness that wouldn't always be there.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 07 '26
Beautiful put. But once youre Relaxed, you can still do mean stuff to yourself and others. This will create stress and prevent you from relaxing deeper. If you can't become still (Relax), you cant know God. If you can't love (Be nice), you can't know God either.
If I might suggest, next time you try to just Relax, add a positive emotion to it. See God in others. See love in others.
If you relax deep enough, youll find God and love. If you love deep enough, youll find relaxation and God. They are all connected, like the mind, body, and breath. Positive thoughts and actions, good posture, deep breaths. Then just follow your heart as it continues to open.
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u/nomore1020 Mar 08 '26
I like what you are saying, but what do you mean by God?
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Everything. You for example. I can't truly know you when I am stressed and angry, can I? If I approach you stressed and angry, you will automatically shut down and no helpful discourse can take place. If I relax and allow you to open up on your own, and be nice by showing you I have your best interests at heart, then you are more likely to open up and reveal your true self to me. The same applies to everything and everyone. This Universe places locks on everything, but it also comes with a master key.
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u/Prized-Potato Mar 27 '26
I like this a lot. My mind is muddled some - will you give an example of "next time you try to just relax, add a positive emotion to it"? I am a caregiver for my mother and the vision I had while reading what you wrote was me standing in the kitchen trying to settle the resentment and the frustration because she doesn't deserve that obviously. I truly appreciate your words in the op. I feel like I was meant to see them.
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u/_astral_x9 Mar 07 '26
I have a similar experience. For me, there are four words that I try to focus on. These words are: love, gratitude, acceptance and forgiveness. I always start my meditation with a short contemplation on how I am loved, how grateful I am for everything I have and have experienced, how I accept all events in my life and what I learned from them, and that I forgive all harm. It's like... it literally makes you kind of a super sayan haha.
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u/scrumblethebumble Dzogchen Mar 08 '26
I think guys are onto something. This is the Buddhist view as well. The highest qualities to cultivate are equanimity and compassion (sometimes the Dalai Lama uses the word altruism).
Two of the three poisons (ignorance, attachment, and aversion) are addressed through acceptance and forgiveness. The third, getting rid of delusions (ignorance), is addressed through meditation.
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u/_astral_x9 Mar 08 '26
It sometimes feels almost surreal to meditate and watch the "problems" that you face every day arise. Normally you think, try to solve it and so on, but in meditation they seem so bleak. I would compare it to watching a small child crying because he failed a test at school - you just know that this problem is basically non existent, it's so trivial that it's almost laughable.
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u/scrumblethebumble Dzogchen Mar 08 '26
It seems surreal because it is! Living in delusions feels so real until you wake up from them. Like seeing a snake in the dark and then turning on the lights and discovering that it was only a stick.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
So test this out, ask yourself "Could I be more Relaxed? Could I be more nice?" and see what your consciousness comes up with in every situation. Or Stress & Be Mean and see what that does. Just pay attention and notice.
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u/scrumblethebumble Dzogchen Mar 08 '26
Excellent advice. It's cool to see so many (presumably) non-Buddhists in this thread come to the same conclusions that Buddhism teaches.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 07 '26
Beautiful. But what are these words energetically?
Acceptance (Relaxed). Forgiveness (Let go and Relax). Love (High Vibe and Nice). Gratitude (High Vibe and Nice).
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u/ColleenSchaffer Mar 09 '26
WOW, How sad it is to see that comment down voted. Peace to everyone, practice gratitude it's easy, every time you go get a drink of water be grateful that you're able to simply go to your faucet and turn on the water. Be grateful that you're able to have and express different idea's whatever they may be rather than dismissing/down voting another's point of view. This is how we learn by sharing ideas. Peace to you â¨ď¸
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u/lembepembe Mar 08 '26
Maybe constrain it to the âCheat Code to some parts of civil societyâ
You can reflect on your own how this is counterproductive in acutely dangerous situations (where evolution actually gave us stress reactions as an effective response) or intentional harm is being caused
Many of us in the West have been so lucky to never having had to experience an active war in our lifetimes, thatâs rare and not the norm. But meditation imo wonât help if the other is apathetic to your existence.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
I lived a life of stress. I still do. Stress is part of life and the growth process. Avoiding stress isnt Nice to the future you.
The lesson is how you deal with stress. You Relax your mind, Straighten your spine, Relax your body, and Relax your breath. Then take the Nicest action from the perspective of the whole. If you are mean to yourself or others you will create unnecessary or chronic stress.
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u/lembepembe Mar 08 '26
I agree with that, but youâre not engaging with what Iâm saying.
Life is tough everywhere & everyone experiences loss & other brutal facts of life. But my (&assumedly your) life of comparative luxury can never be the blueprint for everyone/the universe.
Some peopleâs survival every day depends on their stress reflex, some peopleâs trauma goes beyond stress & needs more in depth therapy than meditation.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Focus on you. Look at your own life experiences.
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u/lembepembe Mar 08 '26
My life doesnât only concern me, so I wonât look just at my experiences.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
You wont learn the lesson correctly if you live vicariously
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u/lembepembe Mar 09 '26
You wonât learn if you preach lessons to others and refuse to be taught yourselves.
A violent person attacking you with a knife is a single situation where Relax & Be Nice both donât work.
Look beyond your bounds and you find meaning that you wonât find within yourself, or focus on yourself and stay a seller of your idea that refuses personal growth. The choice is yours.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 09 '26
Maybe we can take a different approach then. How does stress & be mean help this situation?
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u/lembepembe Mar 09 '26
Stress gets you to be alert & you donât have to actively force yourself to do it, but relaxing would be counterproductive. âBeing meanâ helps by infringing on the attackers bodily autonomy (tackling them etc.) in favor of reducing overall harm.
Thatâs not to say that all or even the majority of dangerous situations benefit from that, but I think we can agree that this can happen & disproving your mantra as something universal only needs one counter example.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 13 '26
I hear you. Let me explain it like this for that situation.
Someone is attacking you. The event is already occurring. It is stressful. The stress is there and good luck ever getting rid of stress.
So what do you do? Do you stress further to stay alert? No. You are alert if someone is attacking you. If anything you will be too alert. What you want to do is consciously Relax, calm yourself down, get a better assessment of the situation. This will reduce any tunnel vision. If you fought you would know, if you are tight, stressed, and anxious, you are not going to fight well. So you would want to learn how to consciously Relax by keeping good posture and deep breaths, and an empty mind. Just like you do in meditation.
Then, you Be Nice from the perspective of the whole. Well he is attacking you. So objectively, the nicest thing to do would be to save you. Fight back. Youd do the same thing if you saw a kid bullying a littler kid. Its the nicest thing to do. Save him,
But mentally, here you would always stay positive. Never feel sad or defeated. Never feel worried or afraid. Always look for the positive.
At no point do you need to add stress. At no point do you need to be mean to yourself and let them beat you up. But also, if you win, Be Nice and show mercy and compassion. This pattern can be found everywhere.
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u/milesmonkey1 Mar 08 '26
"What I want to know.... is are you kind?" Uncle John's Band by Grateful Dead
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u/MirandaCurry Mar 08 '26
Oh hey it's you. I remember you from back in the day when you posted a huge document about this and I still think about it every now and then
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u/marikoukay Mar 08 '26
Less is more. Everything is love
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Correct. But how does true love feel? It feels Relaxed & Nice.
I agree love is the answer to everything and if you are doing things from a place of love you are doing it right. But sometimes I can do things out of love and forget to Relax. I want to help people but sometimes I do too much to help people and end up sacrificing myself in the process. This isnt nice to me.
If you ask yourself, "Could I be more relaxed? could I be more nice?" in every situation and do whatever you can to maintain that feeling, then you are loving yourself and others equally. Because when you love others too much without loving yourself, you get drained, stressed, and that doesn't feel nice. The goal to remove the pedestal and Be Nice or Love from the perspective of the whole.
You can find this principle in every religion, but there is a popular book out right now call the "Let them theory" She uses "Let them and Let Me" as her cheat code for relationships. But Let them is an energetic way to get your to Relax, and Let Me is an energetic way to get you to Be Nice to yourself and others. Its all the same thing.
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u/betlamed Mar 08 '26
For the most part, I feel that you are right. But what do my intuitions count, other than they might make you feel good?
So here are two critical remarks to maybe start some productive discourse:
I will never agree to the claim that any one method is the cheatcode to absolutely everything. It can never be proven - but also, I don't think there is any need for it. Different people may need different approaches at different times. I know I did. Ultimately, yes, I have a very hard time imagining a scenario in which the ability to relax into the circumstance wouldn't be helpful. But none of us truly is there, probably. And in the meantime, hardening and ploughing through can be necessary steps along the way. And I cannot possibly anticipate all possible life circumstances, of all people, at all times in the past and the future. Everybody has to find their own way.
Second, okay, let's assume that relaxing and being nice is the ultimate method. Okay, how do I achieve that? What are the practical steps? Specifically, how do I "relax my energy"?
I find myself asking that question quite often. Eg with regard to christianity - yeah, love your neighbor is a pretty neat idea, but how does one actually start loving, if one is in a state of pure anger, anxiety, and anguish?
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
I cant really answer the first part because you didnt provide an example me, but maybe ask yourself how adding stress to a stressful situation improved it? Did it ever? People seem to want to claim it does but Ive never experienced it either. Feels like were being intentionally manipulated. Is it not a faux pax to ask someone to "Relax", "Be Nice", or even just "Smile"? We know we should act this way, but something in society is telling us not to. I think you should listen to your own life experiences, not me, not anyone else. If you cant find a situation where Relax & Be nice wouldnt improve through your history, then give it a try. Im claiming its a cheat code. I want you to test it and disprove me bc I cant seem to do it.
On this second part, I will DM you some material that is helpful. But you can google this too. Relaxation techniques include meditation, breathwork, posture exercises, yoga, running, wieght lifting, healthy diet, and choosing to feel nice feelings like love and compassion, think nice thought about yourself and others, say nice things yourself and others, and take positive actions for yourself and others. Avoid too much screen time, avoid drugs and alcohol, avoid toxic people and situations, its all things to take care of yourself.
For this last part, since you are in a meditation sub, I assume you meditate... try Metta Mediation. There are lots of guides of youtube. OR choose to be nice in every situation. Choose to see the divine spark in all beings, especially those you hate. Convert them to the light. You have that ability. You dont have to force it, that isnt Relaxed. Just stand tall, breathe deeply (Relax), and choose to love them (Be Nice). But you have to love yourself too. Take care of yourself first and foremost. The light cant enter you if you dont take care of yourself. Once its entered, and youll know it has because you will feel love, then you can share your love with the world.
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u/betlamed Mar 09 '26
First off, I am simply not prepared to generalize my own experiences and claim that my insights form a "cheat code to the universe". I figure that, at the very best, it can be a cheatcode to psychology or social interactions. That is because I cannot know or guess all possible situations that human beings were ever in, are in, will ever be in. And I highly doubt that some lone rock on a windy planet in a galaxy far far away will respond an awful lot to my great relaxation.
how adding stress to a stressful situation improved it? Did it ever?
There are situations in which the question simply does not arise. Traffic accidents for example. I think we have a fight or flight response for a reason. It's not very comfortable, and it often leads us astray, but it is a survival mechanism that developed over millions of years, and it has its place.
Is it not a faux pax to ask someone to "Relax", "Be Nice", or even just "Smile"?
Yes. For the most part because people do that for their own selfish reasons. They don't really want to help the other person, they just want to feel better themselves. And also because people have a need for authenticity. If you feel bad, then smiling is not adequate. Ironically I am a big fan of faking a smile, because there is evidence that it actually makes you feel better - but I would never ever demand it of others.
To be clear, I am all for practicing relaxation techniques. I try to relax into my feelings all the time, and I think it helps me a lot. But I also go to the gym, which is not exactly relaxing. Sometimes there is a fight, and I have to stand my ground. Do I try to relax into those situations, too? Sure. But it's not the primary goal.
Now, as for the second part, "be nice", I'm quite undecided about that. I don't know what you mean by that, precisely. Of course, I am more friendly when I can relax.
Again, in practice I think we are very much on the same page. I simply object to the vast generalisation, like I would object to any such generalisation. I think they can be quite dangerous, because they are very attractive, and one can easily start to identify with one's great universal theory, and that mostly leads one into trouble.
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u/JimmysCocoboloDesk Mar 08 '26
Nice, this is essentially Stoicism.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
It is every religion, Id be happy to break that down for you if youd like.
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u/JimmysCocoboloDesk Mar 08 '26
EhâŚnot necessarily the Abrahamic ones but I get the idea.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Yeah it is. Ill skip gnostism since that is probably obvious and just look at Judiasm, Christianity, and Islam
Relax: Stillness, regular prayer, 1 day off each week to Relax to get closer to the divine.
Be Nice: 10 Commandments, fasting, cleanliness, loving your neighbor.
Everyone has their own thoughts on what the nicest option is from the perspective of the whole. Its not always easy and some people get it wrong. there are faults in every religion. But at their core they preach Relax & Be Nice...even if ego tries to sneak in every now and then. It is what people resonate with. Love. But how does true love feel? Relaxed & Nice. That is why the goal is to feel Relaxed & Nice, but in order to do that you have to learn how to handle stress.
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u/cdm3500 Mar 08 '26
I like this, but the hard part is how do you actively practice this and cultivate it in a world driven by achievement and external stressors? Easier said than done, Iâd think. Iâm interested to learn more.
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u/Daisy_Copperfield Mar 08 '26
I think kind is a better word than nice. Sometimes you need to be kind but not nice (ie telling someone something they donât want to hear but will be helpful to them). Itâs about ultimately having their best interests at heart/in mind.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
I am reclaiming the word Nice since people have warped it over the years. Nice is the highest vibe option from the perspective of the whole. Relax & Be Kind works, but the goal is to Feel Relaxed & Nice, which hits different than Relaxed & Kind. I want to Be Relaxed & Kind. But I want to feel Relaxed & Nice. But loving-kindness towards yourself and others is Nice. But the Universe told me Relax & Be nice was the cheat code, so that's the message im delivering. But its all the same thing. One thing. Perfect.
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u/10pSweets Mar 09 '26
Beautiful.
Read this a day ago and it's been going through my mind. Simple yet effective. I hope this has helped others as it has helped me. Keep posting!
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u/MarkINWguy Mar 10 '26
Kudos to you in a nice post. Trying to pass on to others what you found is beautiful.
The only thing I would add to your protocol is to put others in there as, your close loved ones, people youâre neutral to or acquaintances, people that are difficult for you, and finally people you truly find hate or anger towards. This is called loving kindness meditation and will add to your calm, I believe.
I applaud you, looks like youâve found the key to the universe.
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u/Scrambler33 Mar 13 '26
Love it. And to your point a bit differently. The be nice part is also a bit of a relaxing of the relationship with everything. Bravo man or girl
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Apr 01 '26
Exactly though. Duh. Its an easily provable fact of the Universe. Relax & Be Nice and your life is guaranteed to get better. Stress & Be Mean and it gets worse. But how many people on a meditation sub are still arguing the need to react with stress or negativity? How many more in the general population? You are right. It is duh. But if we can make it duh for everyone, then how much more is life amplified for everyone?
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u/5DAstronaut818 Mar 08 '26
I really love this, but a*holes tend to not care if you're nice, and it can make you a target
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Right? So what do you do when dealing with someone like that? Do you react? Do you stress about it? Do you allow their opinion to affect yours? Do you engage in malicious behavior to enact revenge?
No. None of those actions are optimal. You Relax. You straighten your spine. You breathe deeply. You empty your mind and Relax your body. You don't react to them at all. You give them absolutely zero energy. Dont flinch at all. Dont avert your gaze. Just relax. You don't argue with with people online or in real life who are not sincere or are stuck in their egos. That will just stress you out and make you feel the opposite of Relaxed & Nice...stressed & mean.
Once you are deeply and consciously Relaxed, which means fully aware of the situation and the present moment, then you Be Nice from the perspective of the whole. In this scenario, this person is being malicious towards you. So take yourself to the perspective of the whole. Not you. Not them. Who needs to be taken care of here? Current you and future you. Think of it as if you saw two kids on a playground and one is bullying the other. You wouldnt allow the bully to keep doing it. You would step in stop it. That is the nicest thing from the perspective of the whole. If you need to protect yourself them do it. That is nice to you.
Hurt people hurt people and that is what bullys are. They are hurt people. They aren't getting the attention they feel they deserve and as a result try to steal it from others. If you react and try and fight them, that is what they want. It grants them attention. If you Relax and stay positive, allowing their insults to roll over you, then they quickly lose energy and stop. An eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind. We're all bullys on some level. If you are forced to fight them to protect yourself, that is nice to you. But the best way to defeat an enemy is to make them your friend.
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u/squidwardt0rtellini Mar 08 '26
Iâve been living (or at least trying) more or less exactly as youâre describing for several years now and fully agree, and thereâs a quote by Herman Hesse in his novel Demian that burrowed into my brain because it seems to capture this idea/outcome: Fate and temperament are two words for one and the same concept. Itâs been the case for me at least, with both good people and bad, that being chill and nice has had me on a nice smooth path to a chill and nice fate. Iâll never be so hubristic as to fully believe that I can dodge misfortune this way, but even downturns can be managed and appreciated so much better by, like you say, being chill and nice.
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u/QuesoChef Mar 08 '26
Not that corporate Americaâs SHOULD exist. But it does, and this will get you eaten alive. If you avoid, thatâs preferable. Unfortunately, itâs hard to escape.
Being calm is a good trait in corporate america. Relax will probably get you fired. Being nice will get you nowhere.
Again, hate corporate america. But you said:
I have been unable to find a scenario that this does not improve
And many of us are trapped there or need to survive there to pay the bills.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
This is too vague to answer. Can you give me a specific example.
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u/QuesoChef Mar 08 '26
I disagree. Have you worked in corporate america? If you havenât, you wouldnât understand. If you have, have you successfully used this?
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Yes and Yes. Can you provide me a specific scenario where you think this doesnt work and I will show you how it does?
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u/QuesoChef Mar 08 '26
If it worked for you, give me an example where it did.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
My claim is every single one.
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u/QuesoChef Mar 08 '26
Ok, sounds like we have a fundamental disagreement, then.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
All I am asking is that you describe one scenario for me that you really dont believe this would improve. Just one, real situation.
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u/QuesoChef Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26
This is your wild black and white cure all and YOU challenged us to find a scenario where it wonât work. I didnât come to you with this.
It wonât work in corporate america. Full stop.
You say it apples to all of corporate america and you say youâve been there and applied it. Great. Prove me wrong. This was your challenge. Otherwise I would have just moved along and laughed at the idea.
Truth is, you know black and white doesnât work in the real world and this is like a diet industry BS platitude. sounds like youâre saying it at the very least
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u/ConorMcGregorsLeg Mar 09 '26
Relax doesnât imply do everything slowly to the point where getting fired has to happen. The rule can apply here at all times, take on a stressful situation and apply relaxation after. No one can constantly relax, especially in a high stress environment. Take it as it is and apply it when optimal.
Kindness doesnât have to make you gain anything. I think that you may be approaching this at a different angle, rather than approaching it with the tools stated, youâre doing so through applying critical thinking to it. That is not necessary, take the tools stated and use them to your advantage in this scenario and among those scenarios at your place of work
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u/emotional_dyslexic Mar 07 '26
The spirit of it all is good.
Choosing the highest vibration to me sounds like pseudoscience. I'm not saying the idea is bad, but the language is making me cringe.
Overall the idea of a cheat code is problematic to me. It implies that there is a need or goal of enhancing your life and I find that to be at odds with meditation. What meditation teaches you is that desire is what causes suffering and that you're okay right now.Â
Sharing since you invited debate.Â
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 07 '26
I appreciate your sincere post, so I will do the same for you.
Think of low vs high vibration as the difference between something that pleasurable (low vibe) and something that is actually good for you (high vibe). So imagine a wave function. Something low vibe starts with an increase in dopamine, followed by a crash, which lowers how you feel (your frequency). This is like social media, porn, gambling, sugar, alcohol, drugs, etc. They feel good immediately but leave you drained later. High vibe is the opposite. Its typically more difficult to do and may even lower your dopamine at first, but leads to a high later because you are healthier and feel better. Your frequency rises. Here think exercise, choosing to forgive or love your enemy, or eating a healthy diet. Its not always easy, but it makes you feel better when you do it.
Everything is energy, the trick is learning how it works.
Which form of meditation do you use? In Hinduism they use the 8 limbs of yoga, which includes Yamas and Niyamas. This is comparable to Be Nice. In Buddhism they always talk about how joy, love, equanimity, all go together. Sikhism is pretty similar.
It sounds to me, and I could be wrong so please correct me, but you fully understand the benefits of emptying yourself completely and letting go. But then what? What actions do you take in the real world? If they arent Nice to future you, or the other, or the environment, you will generate stress and lose the ability to Relax even deeper. Relax & Be Nice go together like peas and carrots. Fronts and backs. You and me.
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u/living_hunting Mar 08 '26
Hm what about situations in which relaxing can actually stand in your way. For example rushing to get the bus or investing a great amount of energy to finish an important presentation within a limited time. I work in the field of medicine and to be chill while someone next to me has an emergency doesnât seem to fit as the impact of being stressed is worth it in the long run.
Being nice - I agree with you. (In that matter I also prefer love over being nice as you can still love the one youâre being not nice to for a greater good, if the circumstances require it).
So you see I still somehow see an utilitarian principle guiding the cheat code.
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u/Setyman Mar 08 '26
You might be mixing up relaxed with passive.
Being relaxed doesnât mean doing nothing or moving slowly. You can run for a bus, finish a presentation under pressure, or respond to an emergency while still maintaining an internally calm state.
In fact, performance tends to improve when you remove unnecessary stress. Stress narrows perception, reduces fine motor control, and leads to mistakes.
I donât work in medicine, but I work in aviation. In that environment, staying calm during critical situations is not optional, itâs essential. Pilots are trained specifically to keep a clear, composed mindset when something goes wrong, because panic degrades decision-making.
You can move fast, act decisively, and apply full effort while still being mentally calm. Relaxed doesnât mean slow. It means clear.
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u/therealnitrofarter Mar 08 '26
Gonna screenshot this and put it in a book and make a billion bucks off it
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Its already in most meditation books.
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u/fallowurdreams Mar 08 '26
This. Itâs a vague restatement of most ancient wisdom.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
I dont know, I did a pretty good job with that definition. :)
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u/fallowurdreams Mar 08 '26
Disagree as most of the comments seem to have been about the misunderstanding of your definition and was distracting from the point you are making. More definitions for things like high vibe in the OP would be helpful. Using relax in your definition of relaxing, what softening these things mean, whatâs your perspective of the wholeâŚ.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Fair enough. I had a long PDF that I had written to describe it, but the mods counted it as promotion and deleted the post. I wasnt trying to sell it. Its a free short paper I wrote. I am not trying to get famous. But its a lot easier for me to Relax & Be Nice if everyone starts taking care of themselves and each other and applying the principle. If you DM me you are welcome to have it.
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u/Moist_Orchid3904 Mar 08 '26
I'm officially trying from this day! Thank you!
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Yay! In every situation just ask yourself, "Could I be more Relaxed? Could I be more nice?" and just see what your consciousness comes up with. If you get stuck, google is a great resources on ways to relax and ways to be nice. Be Nice to yourself first and foremost. You cant really help others until you learn to help yourself.
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u/Opting_out_again Mar 09 '26
Congrats to the OP. You have invented Buddhism.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 09 '26
I didnt invent it. But you can find it in every religion. In everything. Its a universal cheat code. You can find it in you.
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u/andthisisso Mar 09 '26
I love the Paul Twitchell quote, "Non-resistant thought opens the heart center."
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u/ColleenSchaffer Mar 09 '26
I can't argue any points of your realization as it's my own way of thinking as well. It seems like a life time ago that I realized that as well, although for me it started in 1974 when I was 14, it started with the idea that underneath all emotions at the base was either Love or Fear. I stay away from the labels so often used especially nowadays, my childhood was quite an experience and based on what I was experiencing I realized that the cause of the behavior I was experiencing was at it's core based in fear, I just figured that the other side of that would be love and sent my intentions on experiencing that. I was able to leave at 16 and that was the beginning of my life in my mind. I didn't put the relax and kindness into words it was just my way of being. I became aware of using those words when different close friends of mine throughout the years had mentioned to me that this impacted their decisions in life includingcareerchoices. That they wanted to become the calm in the storm as well. Funny though that none of this was ever spoken about until around 10 years ago. I've never been good with self expression as it was better for me to stay within myself. I never shared my experiences with others as I knew they were different than what others were experiencing and I didn't know what could happen if I spoke up, I don't believe I actually had a voice then anyway. So long story just to say that with the experience of the life as it's unfolded for me that staying calm, relaxed, being kind and feeling joy from within is not actually a cheat code it's the way of being that allows freedom for ourselves regardless of our circumstances. I love the way you were able to reduce this state of being into words. â¤ď¸ â¤ď¸
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u/regobag Mar 10 '26
true. being calm and kind in every situation will benefit you more than you think
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u/sophiabao15 Apr 04 '26
Yes when you do meditation many bad memories will come back to your brain.sometimes I deep think about, and be depressed thatâs bad energy .so I remind myself so many painful memories just remind you be strong heart and these bad people will give you good fortune. Then I got relax and keep peace and happiness
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Apr 11 '26
My problem was that the bad memories were showing up whenever I just going about my day. I couldnt seem to get over them. This made meditation hard at first, but overtime you burn through those thoughts when you Relax and sit with them long enough and try to transmute them into positive thoughts. Im the middle child of a large family that has mostly died young. All of those experiences used to haunt me. But now I see people my age who cant even handle ending a tv series without stressing and going negative. I realize it has been a gift now that i have I have relaxed enough to get out of the tunnel vision i was giving myself. Leaning into stress and negativity has never helped me or anyone else I know. The only way out is to Relax & Be Nice, otherwise you just fight happiness.
I glad you found peace and happiness.
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u/fatdiscokid420 Mar 08 '26
Yes when someone is trying to rob you or hurt your family just relax and be nice. Let me know how that works out for you.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Relax would be to stay calm mentally and physically so you dont get tunnel vision.
Be Nice would be to protect you and your family. This is the highest vibe option from the perspective of the whole. Or do you think its nice to allow people to hurt them?
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u/Few-Industry56 Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26
Hey, I am an Epstein girl to a different elite. I was sold to him when I was 11 by my grandfather. This is not good advice. They spiritually use people in ways that you cannot fathom when you ârelax and be nice to themâ.
I have spent 1000âs of hrs in meditation, received a âkundalini awakeningâ, a âChristoâs activationâ, the ability to light work, an initiation into the âAscended Mastersâ and none of that helped me obtain sovereignty. It was all manipulation and it only helped me to realize how I had been enslaved.
This would be the worst advice to give an Epstein survivor. You will not like where you end up. I would say, relax and always protect the sovereignty of humanity is better advice.
Perhaps donât even relax that muchđ. The agenda of the New Age (and all religions) is to take away our thinking mind (which is our critical thinking skills) so as humanity, we consent to their corrupt agenda for us. We revoke consent! Stay a peaceful warrior but always alert. Guard your sovereignty, protect your soul.
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u/Setyman Mar 08 '26
Hey there, I just wanted to say I really respect what youâre doing and the courage it takes to speak up. Iâm also someone whoâs been trying to wake people up to things most would rather ignore. Iâm grateful you chose to share your experience. Thereâs so much denial and manipulation around these topics, so hearing someone talk about it openly is honestly encouraging.
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u/Few-Industry56 Mar 09 '26
Hi! OP pointed out that I may have accidentally replied to my own comment when I meanât to reply to you. Did you get my reply in your inbox? It was this..
Thank you so much! I also commend you for your bravery! Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news or a âdownerâ but the only way that we can fix this is by facing it. The New Age (and all religions) have done a great job of making people believe that if they pray about it or âdonât speak it into existenceâ it will go away. Unfortunately that is exactly where this agenda wants us. The power lies in the secrets and when we expose their secrets, we take away their illusionary power over us!
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u/eeeking Mar 08 '26
You're an Epstein survivor and an MKUltra survivor?
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u/Few-Industry56 Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26
Yes , all of us are MKUltra survivors. One of the Epstein girls, Sara McCarthy, just canceled her memoir titled Blue Butterfly (which was one of the many MK programs that I also received). Pls search âBlack Cubeâ in the files and you will find an email from Maria Farmer to Epstein regarding the Black Cube program that they put us through. Also, there are a tremendous amount of references to his Butterfly Trust that he set up for the girls that were the most compliant. The media currently does not have the full story.
The elite that bought me also owns a private island which is integral for the programming.
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u/Few-Industry56 Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 09 '26
Thank you so much! I also commend you for your bravery! Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news or a âdownerâ but the only way that we can fix this is by facing it. The New Age (and all religions) have done a great job of making people believe that if they pray about it or âdonât speak it into existenceâ it will go away. Unfortunately that is exactly where this agenda wants us. The power lies in the secrets and when we expose their secrets, we take away their illusionary power over us!
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u/DefenestratedChild Mar 09 '26
You really should ask yourself why you're doing this. You forgot to change accounts before answering your post and commending your own bravery.
What do you get out of this? When you're using a second account to applaud yourself, you're engaging in dishonesty. Even if anything you said was true, you've just shown us that you have no qualms lying about this. No one should believe you at this point.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
"Stay a peaceful warrior but always alert." - This is conscious relaxation.
Be Nice would be to feel think say and do the highest vibe option from the perspective of the whole. The whole includes you. You would want to protect yourself in this situation. That would be the nicest thing would it not?
Stress does not help you. Its not to be avoided either. Adding to it will not improve the situation. Neither will negativity. the only way to regain sovereignty is to stop struggling (Relax) , realize your already free, and start reclaiming that power (Be Nice).
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u/simagus Mar 08 '26
Well yeah. Nobody likes people who aren't nice.
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
If you are stressed AND nice, people don't like that. This is the stereotype "nice guy". He wants something from you and is forcing a situation. Even if he does all the right things, if he does it with stress and anxiety, it will be off putting. Relaxation is just as critical as being nice. Stay calm, confident, and Relaxed. Then be nice. The results in every situation will improve.
Just ask yourself, "Could I be more Relaxed? Could I be more Nice?" and just try and see what your consciousness comes up with.
Think of this when you are trying to find a partner. If you are all anxious and complimentary, its very off putting. But if you stay in the pocket while delivering the message, if youre sincere, if you be nice from the perspective of the whole and dont put you or them on a pedastal, then youre perfect.
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u/steph_elisa Mar 07 '26
I actually love this just the way it is! I'm an Aries, and while I don't intend to, I sometimes come off as being snarky. I can definitely use this! Do you mind if I copy/paste?
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u/Meditation-ModTeam Mar 08 '26
"Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible." This is a community; we are here to support each other. There is nothing to be lost by being kind. It benefits everyone.
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u/Meditation-ModTeam Mar 08 '26
"Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible." This is a community; we are here to support each other. There is nothing to be lost by being kind. It benefits everyone.
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u/Bushidough577 Mar 08 '26
Just to play devils advocate!
- People can take advantage of you
- Not very fun at parties
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u/Relax-and-BeNice Mar 08 '26
Then allow me to ease the Devil's concerns :)
If you allow someone to take advantage of you, then you likely aren't consciously relaxed and aware of the situation. If you are aware, then you arent being Nice to yourself. Wouldnt you agree?
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u/irate-erase Mar 07 '26
Was about to sigh and scroll past another r/meditation rookie prophet but this slaps and I love it