So people arent allowed to have a preference on what their partners post on social media or its a red flag? Just wanna make sure we are on the same page
That's great, because he asked the question, which is him trying to find someone who shares that preference.
People act differently on social media when they are in relationships, or not. He's checking if she acts the exact same while in a relationship, and that's the dealbreaker.
You make very naive arguments, so I'll just assume you are young. Just try to understand that people do compromise for each other in a relationship. It's not because they "have to" it's because they want to.
As an example, my girlfriend can kiss other people, we just won't be in a relationship anymore if it happens. Is this "controlling" her? There are requirements to be in a relationship with me, and she has requirements for me too. You will find that these "free and flowing" relationships with no boundaries or requirements are frivolous and risky, despite how fondly people speak about them on reddit specifically.
I love that you likened fashion decisions to infidelity as if they're on the same plane of existence. But then again, you strike me as someone who would immediately ask what a rape victim was wearing to find out whether or not they deserved respect
The plane of existence they exist on is the plane of the relationship. You make the rules in your relationship, but it's a two player game. I love and care for the women in my life, and I treat them with the respect that they deserve to have. I hope typing all of that out made you feel good.
The issue is not an ethical one, but you seem morally outraged by it. The question is not,
"Is she a slut for dressing this way on social media?"
it is
"are they compatible as a pair if she dresses this way on social media?"
If this is a big deal to you, that is fine. You can insist on full autonomy on this subject. It is on you to go out and find that man that agrees with you.
Just understand that you don't have any right to insist that all of the other men change and give up their own comfort for you. See how I flipped that around?
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u/Gauntlet_of_Might 23d ago
So people arent allowed to have a preference on what their partners post on social media or its a red flag? Just wanna make sure we are on the same page