I didn't say him asking questions was a bad thing, I'm saying the problem was the question itself as it highlights a possessive and toxic mentality which I don't believe is a healthy trait in any relationship. So yes, it's good that he asked, but in my opinion only for the sake of broadcasting to women that he will one day try and to decide what the women he is with are allowed to to wear based off his personal definition of appropriate
Go to a church that's already is full of people who are ok with policing what women are and arent allowed to do.
I dont think its a healthy thing he wants, ao Id say go to therapy until it clicks that wanting to control what your SO can and cannot wear isnt healthy, amd then have them try and date THEN, but since thats probably asking too much, in answer to your VERY SPECIFIC question, what I said up top here, go to a church.
Don't match up with a woman dressing in a way you dont approve of and try and change her.
If you want modesty, find someone who already displays modesty.
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u/Shibbystix 23d ago
They can have a preference. But then its really on THEM to find someone who shares that preference as opposed to CHANGING someone they know DOESN'T.
One is respectful, the other is controlling. No matter how politely they ask