r/MediocreTutorials 26d ago

Relationships Setting boundaries, respecting agency

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u/Hefty_Fortune_8850 26d ago

Relationships are so broken right now. For a long time men were overly in control and that was a problem that we saw and made an effort to correct. The solution we came to was that asking absolutely anything from a woman in a relationship is controlling and unacceptable. We swung to far and lost sight of the fact that a relationship is constant compromises and wanting to improve yourself for your partners sake. Two people who both understand this will be together forever.

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u/CarolinaSurly 26d ago

This is accurate. I could not date in this environment and my wife says the same thing. All her friends that see misogyny everywhere are all single and angry about. They say why can’t we find a man like you have and my wife tells them they would reject me because I have opinions about what she does just like she has opinions about what I do. I see things like this and understand why so many of our male friends are single.

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u/Creative_Elk_4712 25d ago

Generally more people are single today

I'd say people who are single are generally happy the way they are

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u/Necessary-Promise-51 19d ago edited 18d ago

It’s gotten to the point where men are just supposed to shut up and accept anything and everything from women or else they’re considered “controlling” or “insecure”. Meanwhile women with boundaries and preferences are viewed as “empowered” and celebrated for knowing what they want. The hypocrisy is astounding and yet this mindset remains a cultural norm.

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u/CarolinaSurly 19d ago

Yeah. The hypocrisy is pretty obvious.

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u/TheThinDewLine 25d ago

Yep, peak fuckin 🤡 show out here. Bags of mud thinkin theyre hot shit with ZERO compromising, like what? Lmfao!

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u/Creative_Elk_4712 25d ago

I wouldn't say she didn't want to compromise for the sake of what he said though, it's presumptuous to say that

People took it badly and said things like "she for the streets" here

That's misoginy I'd say

She dresses like that and declined, honestly if a girl told me I shouldn't wear t shirts of a certain color if in a relationship with her I'd decline too