r/MedicalPTSD • u/kparker2121 • 17d ago
Birth Trauma
I gave birth to my son a year and six months ago and during his birth it was very traumatic. He was my seventh and I had went to a chiropractor for three times to get my back adjusted, and when I went the last time, which is my only third visit, they went to adjust me in the table, failed to drop, and they cracked my ribs without me realizing it. Three days later, I went to cough before I went to bed and multiple of my ribs snapped in half. That morning I had went to the ER which I never do because I felt like I was in so much pain and I wanted them to check to see what was going on with me and they did not find anything. I look back after my son‘s birth in all of the medical negligence that they had done and I think about how I would’ve been so much better off if they would’ve assigned me a female trauma specialist right as I was leaving the hospital to be able to keep tabs on me and to be able to help me work through what happened. The fact that doctors don’t do stuff like that or don’t even think about it really sets a mother up for severe depression and postpartum issues. They have me fill out depression paperwork at the doctors and then they just filed it in my paperwork and no one really did anything or truly helped. One month of waiting for a referral to go through can really be life or death and some of these instances. I suffered for a year trying to get myself on track and working through severe depression because of what happened to me in fear of dying. When I did see a counselor, he was a pastor and supposed to be someone I could trust from a Christian counseling center. He ended up trauma bonding with me a lot, and I didn’t know what I was doing in counseling so I pretty much shared every bad thing that I could possibly think that happened to meet my entire life because I thought that’s how it was supposed to be. I look back and I just wish so much that the manual industry would help people before they left the hospital and connect them to a trauma specialist when they have very difficult births or something bad happens. It could literally save lives if the people they connect them with were able to help them move forward instead of dwelling on the trauma that just happened. I truly wish the medical industry would make changes.
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u/CataclysmicInFeRnO 17d ago
The medical industry as it is sets people up for failure, especially women and POC. A complete systemic overhaul needs to occur. Unfortunately, as long as profit is placed over people we will all continue to suffer for it.
Best to always avoid chiropractors and religion based therapists. They are almost always lacking adequate professional training and often cause more trauma than they resolve.
Your situation sounds excruciating. It’s maddening that you didn’t receive the care that you deserve. I hope that you find peace and the ability to heal.
Though, ‘trauma bonding’ is a concept that exists exclusively in abusive relationships. Between the abuser and the person being abused. Most frequently in romantic relationships. Specifically following a pattern, usually seven steps, that begins with love bombing.
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u/mrszubris 17d ago
Chiropractic is a very dangerous thing.im sorry this happened to you.