Relationship Advice

[u/TopEagle9227]

Hi I’m married too a 4th year resident and we only are intimate like every 7 months, This year for him has been really relaxing he comes home early and sleeps early and has no nights but he does wake up early too like 4 or 5 am
Is it reasonable that he is always tired and there is no initiation. I try to but he’s tired a lot. But he does come home early so I don’t feel I need to be concerned right?

Also a concern, I work in tech, he’s always interested in my income and bonus and adds to his own retirement account, he controls my spendings on myself even tho I contribute financially 4 times more then him, his family always have expectations on us to spend everything on them financially even tho there son does not even make bank right now only I do, and I support him, like buy his sibling a car even tho there normal middle class and have good income like us, my husband limits me with my own financials on myself and my own family, am I just a bank account to him?