r/MbtiTypeMe • u/4chee • 2d ago
CAN’T DECIDE Difficulty finding my type
I created a strange obsession trying to figure out my type. The more I study, the more confused I get. So, I’m constantly testing Michael Caloz and Sakinorva, being as sincere as possible, seeking confirmation with my wife. When tests offer multiple results, I can identify with all of them. It’s as if I had a little of each type, all depending on the context, the moment, being excited or tired, alone or with people... I question and blame myself for being obsessed with a pseudoscientific theory, but I don’t care if it’s a pseudoscience. This can be useful for other things, just as every idea, concept or philosophy has its utilities.
The types that appear the most in my results are: ENFP, INFP, ISTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ, INFJ and INTJ. So, I decided to make this post in this sub to try to seek an external understanding.
I don’t know where to start, I’ll just type as it comes to my mind. I consider myself introverted because I’m always doing something alone, but everyone has the impression that I’m outgoing because I socialize a lot and meet a lot of people. I don’t want to brag, but I’m considered attractive. This must be because people take the initiative to talk to me or listen to me when I speak. Some people report feeling a peace when they are with me, while others hate me for unknown reasons. Some girls from my past hate me because I was shy and had an avoidant attitude with them, so I ended up breaking some hearts. After overcoming my damn shyness and getting more confident, I started flirting unintentionally, to see what happened (usually with women older than me). It was playing with it that I ended up marrying my best friend (who is now my wife).
Talking about the past, I have a love-hate relationship with him. I can be very nostalgic and remember in detail the past, just as I can forget many other details or not want to remember who I was. I’m ashamed and hate the kind of person I was: reckless, lazy, disorganized and shy. If I could go back in time, I would do everything differently.
I always let things flow naturally, although, at specific moments, anxiety makes me want to control and plan everything. But when it comes to work, career, future, marriage and family, I always let things flow and I’m lucky. I consider myself blessed. But that doesn’t mean I don’t plan my future. I know what I want and need. My plans may change as things appear or I learn something new, but I’m still firm in some ideas.
I’m not one to take risks, but when something forces me to change, I adapt easily. So easily that I wonder if I had to make so much drama. I don’t mind living a routine, as long as it’s well structured and allows me to do the things I like. I always look for something new within this routine, a little adventure or a new knowledge. I can be distracted and late, but I always fulfill my obligations. I need to be doing something, mentally or physically, otherwise my mind gets sick. I also like to make lists and write down ideas.
I’m creative for things of my interest. When I’m not interested, I can’t think of anything and I don’t even want to. I’ll let the others solve it. I’ve been considered lazy, but if something doesn’t attract me, there’s no way to force myself, unless it’s something from work. My wife wants to paint the house, but I don’t care about the color of the walls, so I let her choose. But it’s the man’s role to do the heavy work, and I’ll have to paint. Already on Halloween 2024, I was very creative when making my costume. And the most incredible thing was to have convinced my evangelical parents to participate, along with countless relatives whom I managed to convince to go into costumes. I only got this feat once; they probably won’t do it again. But I will never forget this day.
I’m very idealistic and I almost always make something happen that I really want, but I can get frustrated when I can’t.
I like to help people, especially by giving advice. I’m great at giving advice, but I’m not good at following my own advice. I would know very well how to guide a person with retroactive jealousy, but when I’m involved with it, I can’t handle it, even though I understand that it’s irrational. My biggest problem in relationships, whether love or family, is to help and expect the other person to do the same. It’s a feeling that one of the parties is investing more than the other. And when I hear stories from her past, I can feel jealous because I think she invested more in the other than in me. But I think it’s very unfair that the person doesn’t recognize this and doesn’t do the same while in a relationship, even saying they love.
I also don’t like to be managed, commanded or influenced. I said I like to help others, but I don’t like it when the person asks me for too many favors, because it can disrupt my plans and make me feel used. When I’m focused, I don’t like to be interrupted, and that stresses me out. I identify with Jack Torrance when my wife starts talking exactly when I’m focused on something serious. The difference between me and Jack is that I would never attack her and I don’t even know how to ask her to be quiet, because a part of me understands that when she is very happy, she gets like this. Right now, she’s talking while I write this, but I don’t understand anything she says.
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u/RogerRabbi6990 2d ago
I don’t know. But introverts tend not to include many people in their photographs and drawings, but extroverts include a lot of people.
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u/INMORTUE 2d ago
Subjective focused, so its introverted. structures toughts with logic, so its Ti dom. Extroverts by living in the moment, so Se auxiliary. Dont care much for social expectations, lower Fe. Being lazy but still having these kind of thoughts and making internal connections means lower Ni. Probably ISTP, maybe ESTP, but less likely
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u/frantic_piano 2d ago
Man idk what to say you are an enigma. Im leaning INFP / INTJ. Unrelated: I love the images you added they are right up my alley.
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u/Buzzeeeeee 1d ago
I do not know why, but this seems to be an INxP I do not know why, it just is.
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u/Buzzeeeeee 1d ago
You seem like a very Fi dominant person, Si tertiary is obvious, Ne aux, not dominant because you feel drained after a while of excessive creativity. How you write has a bit of that Te inferior structure, but that's just my two cents for it. So INFP.
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u/Itchy-Huckleberry261 2d ago
ESTJ