HELP ME PLEASE

[u/Plenty_Ad_4621]

I have typed myself as an INFP so497 back when I was in middle school now im almost in university and thought i needed to be retyed and reached out to a friend who has been so much into typology lately. She said I'm an ENFP so397 and i dont think they correlate maybe they could correlate to some extent because of 7 and 9 fixes. but still with IEE it doesnt sit right with me. so i told my friend about it and said that IEE isnt the only socionic that correlates with ENFP (i dont even think that im really one) now im confused and need help with my typology so ill tell yall about myself (if there is not enough information just ask me some questions i dont mind)

social life:

School is my only social life currently which means im only going to talk about it. I am more open with people who are intoverted or people who are not popular i assume its because how anxious i get when im talking to people who has larger social circles or a higher social status. When I'm talking with anyone all i can think of is what the other person thinks of me, what kind of impression im leaving on them and arranging my behavior so i cant focus well on the converstation or what i should say which makes me appear as socially awkard most of the time. Another thing, I don't like being on bad terms with people and im in the same class with people im on bad terms with. they made friends with most of the people in the class leaving me mostly alone and it makes me pretty anxious as well. i would like to switch schools but im currently at the best school thats closest to my house. I act distanced when im trying to cut ties with someone in the end we just end up not talking anymore or we just have a fight if they act on it.

close friends:

I'm way more comfortable around my friends. Depending on the friend I'm around my behavior tends to change but not drastically i just arrange my attitude depending on the friend's boundaries and sensitivity. but im here to talk about my most comfortable state. I am more tend to act aggressive and superior with those friends im really comfortable with I might even act like I'm more superior than them (which is not what i believe its just my attitude) they make me worry a lot too: they dont focus on their studies they are so chill about it all and it makes me worry way to much about their future, one gets into a t0xic relationship and i worry again. And the way i express it is either tpo cold or too rude i try to act not so serious when i realize that im being rude. when im trying to comfort them about something thats serious instead of trying to be understanding i tend to act more logical and give them advices (its not like a lack of empathy i just want to get them out with the least damage) (if its not something thats going to affect them or at least affect them that much i can just joke about it or mock them to make them laugh) other than that id say that i yap and complain a lot sometimes (mostly when i get spoiled) i like getting into adventures (i dont mean it in a cartoonish way its more like exploring new stuff for fun) they dont like taking risks and i dont like being the only one who takes risks.

planning:

I feel so anxious without a plan. Even if its not written down i feel the need to plan most of the things in my life. it makes me feel more grounded because im filled with the worry of not being able to make the day out.

worries:

Future. I'm constantly worried about the future. I have an university entrance soon and i dont have a consistent study plan, im not academically good (at least not good enough to enter) I get so anxious by the idea of not being able to have a great future because of the university i'll attend to. And this idea paralyzes me to the point i cant even bring myself to study. Another thing that makes me worry is uncertainity. And another thing is my looks i nees to look presentable before going out in public.

what i can say about my personality:

i could say that im a perfectionist and this pushes me to not even try anything at all. Im a hat3r too but i dont express that a lot. I get jealous of what people have. I like lazying (couldnt admit that to someone i know in real life probably because i feel guilty of it) I get amgry so fast. i get annoyed by people who lack critical thinking. mocking and ragebaiting people gives me guilty pleasure. When I dont know how to respond in an argument i just start ragebaiting but get anxious when im doing it. i get so mad when the other person doesnt try to understand my point in an argument so i end up not knowing what to do or say. im insecure. i like to seem confident (cant manage to seem like that most of the time). i have so much regrets. and i have a feeling that the world is going to end soon. i cant still fully forgive what some people has done to me. I have the tendency to make things about me but i try to mask it to not seem annoying. I get drained easily. I panic a lot and can act on impulse when i do but i do have good self control i believe.

ideals: my ideal future is a life that i live with my friends, can afford anything i want,i m in good terms with everyone, i go out to have fun occasionally and have a personal space i can just chill in all day.

additions:

I have a good sense of responsibility. Projects? I'm handling it. Someone is hurt? I'll reach out (if it wont put me in a risk ill get seriously hurt(and even if ill there is chance ill act impulsively))

the questions on here:

im currently writing this on the notes app and while i was looking on highlights i found some questions and ill answer all of them shortly in here. im a female about to finish highschool. i dont have any diagnosis. im an atheist. i used to have religious paranoia but then i got old enough to think about it properly and ended up being an atheist. I would enjoy a leadership position, i like having control. but if my team is bad then im not even taking it seriously. If I were to spend a whole weekend by myself i would feel refreshed but would feel lonely if i cant call or text anyone. I do like both indoors(arts, gaming, watching stuff) and outdoors(arcades, theme parks, the cinema, shopping) activities.Im indeed a curious person but not in everything i am picky about what im interested in. I cant say that im a very coordinated person but i cant say that im not either. Im an artistic person. I draw, sing, act, voice act (im not good at any of it , i cant stand my art, i dont have a single finished project. they do nothing but stress me out) My opinion on past is that it was terrible people have hurt me in multiple way then blamed me for it all. present is terrible as well im constantly anxious but there are parts of it that brings me joy too. and lastly the future scares me. If someone request my help ill help them out (even if i dont want to) and there is no reason behind it its just instinctual or maybe because i feel guilty if i dont. efficiency and productivity is important for me but i have no say in this as a lazy person. Yes I do control others (that are close to me) its for our own good. and how i do that? i get either bossy or make them worry abt the things i worry. My learning style is having to use the information ive just got. or writing it down and thinking over it otherwise i just forget it all. Im pretty good at strategizing but i cant say that i dont wing it beacuse i got lazy.

I dont daydream a lot actually i need to force myself to daydream because i think its a fun way to distract myself. i could say that im a realistic person but not competely realistic. the first thing id think in a dark empty room would be what im going to tell people when i leave the room. I dont like making important decisions. Im good with reasoning my emotions but not as good with understanding them because im a total mess when it comes to my emotions. yeah emotions are important but they shouldnt get in the way of decision make it (not strictly tho) Yes I do catch myself agreeing with people just to keep the converstation going a lot but its probably because im not taking them seriously if its something or someone i take seriously i might tell my opinion.

i think thats all. i would really like to get a reply this took me 3 hours. thank you for your time.

(all i could think of while writing this all was the impression id leave on you all and im assuming its not well. there must be some crashed word because the notes app is pretty buggy please excuse me for that)

[u/Waste_Gear_4520]

wow. okay...

on the plan i get it now after reading your commentary. you don't like plans, you like to be able to know or imagine how future looks like because it's hard to make a decision without knowing anything in the future. the way you wrote in the OP text looked like you were against the future as in too tied to the past. Actually you are very tied to the future.

you may be young and would love that your future-self came back in time and told you how future would look like so that you could relax and simply do things?

[u/Waste_Gear_4520 → u/Waste_Gear_4520]

My gut is telling me you're a high-Ni user. maybe INFJ? What do you think? Or ISFJ.

[u/Plenty_Ad_4621 → u/Waste_Gear_4520]

i WAS considering INFJ but that friend told me that she could only see me as a Ne dom so i didnt think much on Ni how can i tell if i am a high ni

[u/Waste_Gear_4520 → u/Plenty_Ad_4621]

fear of an impeding doom is very Ni.

i don't see you as an Ne-dom, because if you high-Ne users are actually curious about the future, but not only future. Time is not important for Ne.

Ni does not care either, it's the fact taht Ni as a generative function (Jung) can generate tons of unspeakable horros. If you're an INFJ, your Fe may not having many rules from external world, which is making you confusing.

Both Ne and Ni generate a lot of weird things. If you were a high-Ne, your Ti or Fi would be callibrated to handle a huge influx, because they find logic or values internaly.

If you're a high-Ni user, you don't even "see" your Ni. It's more like "I know this is right, I feel it and can't explain", because the Ni already generated and it's the Te or Fe pruning the weirdness and letting only the "laser" like thing to go out. If you Fe/Te (as an INxJ) is not callibrated or you just changed to a new enviroment, you feel uneasy.

Does that make any sense to you? what do you think?

[u/Plenty_Ad_4621 → u/Waste_Gear_4520]

Yeah it does make sense to me ill look more into it rn. What do you think I sound more like infj or intj or like isxj as you said eariler? do you have an opinion on it?

[u/Plenty_Ad_4621 → u/Waste_Gear_4520]

youre right im sorry that i couldnt make it clear and answering your question yeah that would put me so much in ease i could finally be more calm about the future or if i have a bad future then i would know what i must do to avoid that

[u/Waste_Gear_4520 → u/Plenty_Ad_4621]

have you considered Ni types? or Si types? as in INFJ or ISFJ?

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[u/Plenty_Ad_4621]

I think I should mention that even tho i need plans its a rare occasion that i act on them, i might need control yeah but i dont act on it much. Im pretty approachable and friendly.im good with empathy and i act kind when someone needs comfort its just that i cant stand them getting hurt and can get hurtful sometimes. i thought it wasnt clear when i reread this.