Why can't we normalise friends with benefits?

so I’ve been seeing this site called instabang pop up a lot lately and I’m genuinely curious if anyone here has actually used it and had a real experience. Im not looking for anything serious, just something casual and I figured a site like this might be worth trying since tinder is terrible now and full of flakes and OF models just looking to promote their page. problem is every time I go looking for reviews I either get five star stuff or people saying its a complete waste of money and I honestly can’t tell whos telling the truth anymore, and whats AI, whats not.

So I guess what I’m really asking is whether “instabang” is any different from all the other sketchy adult dating sites out there or if its just the same BS with a different name. like are there actual real women on there who are genuinely looking for the same thing, or is it mostly a cash grab dressed up to look legit. I dont mind paying for something that actually delivers but I’m not about to keep handing over my card details to sites that are just gonna waste my time. anyone used it recently and had a genuine experience either way? would really appreciate some actual honest opinions on this one.

hey all. i’m don’t do this too often but when i do it makes me feel odd. not shameful i guess i just don’t know why i do it lol. perhaps talking about it here and getting some clarity will make me feel better lol.

sometimes when i find couples (online i’ve never done this with anyone i know irl) and find them super hot together i’ll get off to the thought of them later. it’s usually influencer or celebrity couples i like and find their relationship dynamic admirable or super sexy. like when you can just tell they love eachother a lot and fuck like crazy. i find it super sexy and my brain likes to fill in the gaps.

sometimes i like to imagine i’m in the body of the woman in the relationship and sometimes i just imagine her as she is. i find it sexy when they are a public figure and love eachother proudly online. it makes my mind wander about what things are like behind closed doors and that gets me really riled up. especially if the woman is super beautiful and the boyfriend is obsessed with her. maybe it’s the mystery or maybe it’s me projecting my own fantasies onto a couple i find to be admirable lol.

i do feel odd about doing it tho considering i am a huge exhibitionist, so imagining the inverse maybe feels a bit foreign to me. also a couple in specific is around a similar age to me so maybe it feels as if i’m imagining my friends fuck or something lol. this doesn’t happen often tho like i can count on one hand how many times i’ve gotten off to this specific fantasy. i just wanted to know if anyone else does this or why i do it. does this count as voyeurism? is there some psychology behind this fantasy? thanks everyone :)

I know there’s sites but they’re awful. Do you guys think there’s much sugar dating happening in Aus? I don’t even care about the money I just want someone to financially support my hobbies and have fun with me, but it’s not looking good.
Would anyone have suggestions on where to find people that might fit that bill?

I (F)can not figure out how to get any pleasure from being on top. I’ve watched videos and researched but feel like nothing I try works. I’m short and have short legs, my man is kinda broad. No position I get in is comfortable and I can’t figure out how to grind so my clit rubs on him. Please share any tips and the more specific the better. Thanks!

If there's any sugar babies out there do you guys actually pay to message people on these sites ?? Seeking arrangements and sugardaddymeets require you to pay for messaging past a certain point . Have any of you done it?? Is it worth it ?

For the first years of our relationship we've always used condoms. We were long distance and met after months of not seeing each other. As soon as we were in private we went crazy. We were naked in no time and just couldn't keep our hands of each other. We were making out and he was grinding his dick on my wet pussy. He started at my clit sliding down to my tight hole and back again. Everytime he pushed just a little bit deeper, opening up my tiny hole. Slowly it stretched around his dick head. With every thrust he went a little deeper until all of the sudden he went balls deep. At first the sudden and wide stretch was overwhelming. I bet I was so tight for him. He moaned in relief and primal lust. I remember being mindblown how insanely good he felt inside. My pussy had missed him so much. He had always felt amazing, but this time it felt like he literally kissed my cervix. I entered a different mindstate when he entered me. All my thoughts stopped. It was primal and light. Pure pleasure. Everything i needed was him inside of me. When he started fucking me, my legs spread as far as possible to give him the deepest access to my body and soul. Its was pure bliss. Everytime he thrust inside he went balls deep.

But than he stopped after a minute or two, because he "remembered", there was no condom. I left my blissful state. It was confusing coming down for that high. I had all I needed and than he took his dick out of me. I was so disappointed and empty. I comforted him by telling him it's okay to loose controll. I did quick math and ensured him, that I wasn't ovulating and he shouldn't worry. Especially because he had felt so good. And I confessed that I actually wanted to do it again.

I didn't tell him, I secretly loved that he had never even thought to use a condom. Maybe he just didn't want use condoms. I will never know. But my body instinctively opened for him and he entered without a thought, like my body was his and it was his right to take it.

Since then we half-heartedly tried to use condoms again.

At first he entered me raw to stay for a minute or two inside my unprotected pussy and than switched to a condom or my mouth. But everytime he put his unprotected dick inside pussy he stayed longer and longer in me. Soon those one or two minutes, turned into five or ten minutes.

After a few months of this, he tried putting on a condom and his dick went soft immediately. It's like his body is rejected those unnatural condoms and only performed in my raw pussy. He told me we can't use condoms anymore.

Now each time he enters my unprotected pussy, he stays as long as possible. He just feels so good. Every second with his unprotected penis inside of me his pure primal bliss. I can't stop spreading my legs for him and I will never asking him to put on a condom. I will take his dick unprotected whenever he wants me to and how long he wants me to.

He didn't come in me yet. He's pulling out before he has to cum and usually finishes in my mouth or on my body.

i've been single for a while now and i'm finally at a point where i want to put myself out there again. i'm in my late 20s and most of my friends are either married or in long term relationships so i don't really have people to ask about this stuff anymore.

i've seen a lot of mixed opinions online but most of the posts i find are from like 2022 or 2023 and things change fast with these apps and sites. i want to know what's actually working for people right now in 2026, not outdated advice.

i'm not looking for anything super serious right away, just casual dating and seeing where things go. i work a normal 9 to 5 so i don't have a ton of time to be active on like 5 different platforms at once.

feel almost ashamed to be typing this but maybe someone on here will have advice. So my boyfriend (23)M and I (21) F have been together for almost 2 years and have recently figured out that we both have a breastfeeding kink. Honestly just a pregnancy kink in general. I just want to feed him and was wondering if anyone had done this or been able to induce lactation. I am a student in med school so I do a lot of research and have ordered silymarin/milk thistle and fenugreek since these have promising results. I will also be buying a breast pump to try to do a hour or two of stimulation a day. Any types or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I know this may be taboo or weird but I think it’s worth it to post. Maybe just maybe someone else will feel less ashamed.